What should you do if you courted someone who dont want to have a lovers relationship but only friendship? I told her my feelings and she said that shes already comfortable with that kind of a relationship. That she doesnt want that to be ruined what do you think is the reason please help girls! By the way shes my classmate and she always makes my day happy one time that she got sick for the whole week that im the first person that she told me that she had a very high fever! I asked permissions to his brothers and they said yes that i could court there sister. Where both 3rd year highschool. What should I do?
2006-08-15 21:39:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all i have to say is watch out. i was interested in my best friend from when i was in the same year of high school. it took me 5 years and i am finnaly out of the "friend zone" i know i love her so i was able to take the time thinking of her everyday wishing that i could hold her. it was har but now i am able to finnaly cuddle with her. just be there for her and show her you are the one if you are truely the one for her and you truely love her you'll be with her. but just keep in mind it may take a long long time.
2006-08-15 21:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by theswarm666x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to respect her wishes.
Courting is a sort of paradox wherein the more interest you show in somebody the less favourably they tend to respond. At least in the early stages.
Relationships that work have a certain rythm, an ebb and flow that you can't really cheat. When it goes wrong your best chances for it to ever go right, are to back off. Desperation is really unattractive because for one, we don't feel we can trust people who are needy/desperate.
I think you should consider the possibility that she could be a good friend for years to come, and be content with that. If you keep chasing her, it could ruin your friendship by making her feel uncomfortable and even guilty.
Also, keep in mind that we all reject people for all sorts of reasons, among them really fickle ones. For example, if somebody reminded you of a close relative, you'd probably reject them straight away. It has no reflection on there qualities as a person. So, don't take it personally. For whatever reason she feels it wouldn't work out, and she's probably doing you both a favour.
2006-08-16 04:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by moment_in_passing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't want to ruin the friendship if the relationship falls apart. Regardless of her brothers' blessings for you to court her, she may not feel the same way about you... at this time.
She could be unsure of her feelings and don't want say something she's not 100% sure of. Give her time, don't be pushy. Let her approach you. Now that she knows how you feel, I'm sure she's evaluating her feelings toward you. In the meantime, be the friend she's known. A friendship should always be the basis of a relationship.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 04:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by OldyMe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will not find this meaningful, but it is the truth.
A woman does not want a nice guy. There is no challenge there. They already have a pvssy, so they don't need you. Women want a guy who is either a complete @sshole or is one occasionally. They like it when you play hard to get, and they like to know that sometimes you will be in complete control. A nice guy is easily dominated and is never in control, and will never earn the respect of a woman.. It is hard balance, and it takes years to master. I'm sorry to say, but once you are in the "friend" category it is hard to get out of. Simply tell her, you want to break up with her, that your relationship is nothing beyond friends and it is pointless to continue it unless she is willing to go beyond it, i promise you she will be back.
2006-08-16 04:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u want to know the reason?
trust me, i wouldnt know why she wouldnt want to have a tighter realtionship that friendship with you.
Nobody here can really tell you - we dont know you, we dont know her, and maybe she likes someone else or has a bf or just doesnt like you that way. I mean, you cant force yourself to like someone else, even if you want to - it doesnt work that way.
If you cant live with you two just being friends, then get away from her entirely. Your friendship will never be the same now that uve told her. You wont be able to hug or anything without getting lust or anything like that. it just wont be the same - she wont trust you with as many things anymore, and you will always try to get more, to keep pushing the boundaries. It just wont be a great friendship!
Friendship can end in love - but love never in friendship.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 04:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, once you fall into a chick's friend category you are stuck.
My advice to you is to hit up on other women. Even Brad Pitt will meet women that just won't be interested in him, and he's rich, famous, and considered a heart throb. My point is if you set your sights on one single girl, you're just setting up for failure. Even Brad Pitt could fail (he could end up picking one that just isn't into him, just like you did). But if you hit up on a bunch of girls, then you'll have much better chance.
One girl, either you get her or you don't. 20 girls, you only need 5% success ratio.
2006-08-16 05:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she just wants to be friends, just leave it at that or you'll just wind up making her think that all your after is a little action, which will eventually drive her off. If she had romantic intrests in you, I'm sure i would be typing to someone else right now. Quit while you're ahead...
2006-08-16 04:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bush Whacker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
court for all u might.be honest with her attend to all her needs be with her at all times show her that she's more important than anything and anyone else.Girls are easy to court with as long as you show who really you are and your intention were good I'm sure she will be fall into you Patience and courage is the right key combined with honesty will have positive result.
2006-08-16 04:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by effy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She just want to be bestfriends with you...When she told you about her high fever and you were flattered because you were the first to know, its because she considered you as her bestfriend, a very special one.
2006-08-16 04:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by princess ysa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just continue to see each other as friends. hay if i knew a way to make girls love guys id be a billionaire, soz but ur just gunna have to stick it out or move on.
2006-08-16 04:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by its all about me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋