I like this guy at work, we constantly flirt back and forth. We get along great and we seem so perfect for each other. I have invited him out with a group of friends and he seemed intrested, but when I actually had set a date for this, he chickened out. We like a lot of the same things and we can talk for hours on end with out stopping or having that "awakward silence". I just don't get it, he is giving me all these signs that he is intrested, and he has yet to ask me out. Help me please!
2006-08-15 21:32:47 · 14 answers · asked by ~Mel~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be patient, he is trying to work up the courage to ask you out. The asking him out on a group outing was a bit much. He felt a bit intimidating by making an apearance. So relax and take things slow as this guy is a gentleman and very shy. He will make a move eventually as soon as you can stop putting so much pressure on him. Don't give him the impression that you are not interested as this make him lose interest. So, don't set up any more dates, let him do it in his own time. Which should be soon amigo. Best of luck.
2006-08-15 21:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has good impression on you ..maybe even like you a bit. But if a girl asks me out with A GROUP OF HER FRIENDS, hack no. Even I like you, I will not go because I won't have much chance getting to know you on 1-on-1 based anyway.
Also, as you mentioned, you and him talks a lot 1-on-1 too. He may talk less if there are other co-workers around in th room, right?
In short, it is easier to hang out with him one on one. On the other hand, you don't want to make it too obvious. As a girl, it shouldn't be hard to do it. Maybe try to ask him help you on something during weekend. Maybe ask him to give u a ride during weekend because your family will use your car? heehe ^_^
2006-08-15 21:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by City hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's his past. maybe he's been hurt before... and is simply telling himself, even if attracted, and MORESO if you're both bonded and get along so well... that if he takes it to the next level, there's always a chance of getting hurt.
so maybe he's gun shy.
IF there is an attraction, there's not many a guy who will just turn down a situation that could, for whatever reason and however it would, lead to sex even if it's "eventual sex" months or ages down the road. guyz like sex.
however... IF there is an attraction and he's not pursuing you sexually in any way and even avoiding "together" situations... it would seem to me he has other issues inside, which usually indicate something in the past in my opinion. having been hurt, not over someone, not wanting to ruin what seems a cool friendship to him.
because if he's sexually attracted enough to flirt and the flirting is sincere... most guys who have no issues inside them... who are just feeling free and easy and such... will pursue "dating" b/c dating leads to sex.
not to make "sex" THE issue... but understand that guys WILL be pulled in by any opportunity for sex with someone they find attractive. if he's RESISTANT... there's likely something odd going on inside him.
some kind of fear or something like that.
but i dunno.
i've found i don't know jackshit about love or feelings or sex anymore if i ever did.
blah.
sigh.
2006-08-15 21:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by the_sidpa_node 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right now on my part time job. I haven't been invited out with friends though. I haven't asked her out yet because I'm really not good at that thing. I wish she would ask me. She would get a yes. I really like this girl too.
We are in the same boat.
2006-08-15 21:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So where are the "mixed" signals? You were planning on a night out with friends but when you gave him the date and time he declined...there's no "mixed singal" there. Maybe he had previous plans? So far all I see is that he is being friendly. I think YOU are trying to make too much out of a simple friendship.
2006-08-15 21:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes his job he's never going to make a move on you and he's going to be wary of you making moves on him. Sucks I know but long ago a lot of women wanted to vote and now men have to feel uncomfortable and repressed in the workplace. And you end up not being able to date coworkers. So meet a nice boy who won't loose his job if there's a big drama between you both.
2006-08-15 21:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Collen O
I think you are wanting to read more into the signals he is sending than what is really there.
also the fact that you set a date is kind of forward on your part. try playing coy and see what follows
2006-08-15 21:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you as a friend at work. Take it at that.
Many people do not like to have romance in the workplace. It can get complicated.
2006-08-15 21:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just being a guy and playing it cool. he sounds like he is wanting you to make the first move. but don't do it. if you ask him out you will never know if he really likes you or not. believe me, if he wants to go out with you, he will ask.
2006-08-15 21:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing I can think of is that either he is afraid of commitment or that he is fearful of dating a co-worker.
2006-08-15 21:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋