2006-08-15 21:28:41 · 29 answers · asked by Jade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, maybe i need to explain a little more, we were never great friends, always saw each other and shared the same friends but had an extreme sexual tension. its very casual, only now are we actually really understanding each other. and the sex is great! ;)
2006-08-15 21:55:03 · update #1
Yes it's possible. But you (both of you) have to manage your emotions very carefully.
The easiest thing to do is "booty call" method.
- You don't hang out other than to have sex
These kind of relationships, they are open, meaning you both can see other people. If you're not hanging out and seeing each other putting the moves on other people, you won't get jealous.
- try not to plan ahead
One of the big no no's is to lead the other person on, even unintentionally. Whole point of this no-committment thing is to leave all the mind games at the door, and simply enjoy the sex. By re-introducing drama you've just made this arrangement pointless. So if you don't plan ahead, you won't have anything to cancel. But if you really make sure to follow the "appointments" then you can get away with planning ahead.
- don't have sex very often (like once a month or something)
The more you see each other, the closer you'll become. Limiting contact will make sure emotions won't develop.
And show consideration for the other person, that goes for any type of relationships, from simple friendships to marriages. Sometimes people will think... oh this is a no strings attached thing, supposed to be easy, so I'll just do whatever I want... wrong... common courtesy still applies.
Eventually one of you will get into an exclusive relationship, then this will have to end. Expect this to happen anytime.
But if both people are mature and are in full control of their emotions, then they can be involved with each other more. But that's tough to do.
2006-08-15 22:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have "friends with benefits". As long as the two of you keep it real it should not be a problem. But sometimes the feelings do get involved and you have to learn how to deal with that. If you think feelings are going to ruin it you need to chill for a while and just be friends and see how that goes. Other than that, have fun with each other.
2006-08-16 04:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky.
I reckon that its all o.k until one of you starts seeing someone else. You cant put a garauntee on how your friend might feel.
Maybe easy for you to stay detached or vice versa.
You'd have to make it perfectly clear that you may meet someone you want a relationship with and when that day arrives the 'benefits' would have to stop.
I always think a friend should remain a friend. Harmless drunken snogs are o.k though!
I reckon feelings will get in the way because after all we're only human!
2006-08-16 04:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex always creates a bond which cannot be broken without great damage. There may very well be heartbreak - but it's even worse if there isn't, because that will mean that the person's ability to love and give of themselves has been destroyed. This is why it's necessary to have a permanent, exclusive commitment before you go to bed.
2006-08-16 04:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you mean sex with no strings... I think in some relationships its a good thing - My husband was a pure pest - he was on my *** 24/7 and I was getting so tired - he started getting really pissed off. at being neglected (so he says ) .. As a joke I told him to go and find an woman who liked it as much as he did. and give me a rest - He did . when he got fed up ..yeh! I told him so...But then this b,,i tch started stalking him .. coming to our home the phone calls etc... By all means have a friend with benefits - but be ready for the fall out when it ends..
2006-08-16 04:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is possible. but feelings do get involved after a while, you just have to be strong and do not let the feelings get in the way, as it is very common that is such relationships, its the women who suffer. In the end you loose a lover and a friend. Don't let this happen, better to have a friend only than have nothing.
2006-08-16 04:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits is dating without the title, at least one partner has feelings for the other, usually the girl, while the guy is just looking to get a piece, so in a sense you're not really friends, you're the "hoping for something to start" and he's just "alright an easy booty call"...break it off unless your feelings run deep seriously, all of these types of relationships always end messy and leaving people really confused, good luck
2006-08-16 04:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by micktobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am there and the are the feelings which are involved now, i've tried so much to kind of avoid or pretent but its not easy because the SHAG run me crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzy.
2006-08-16 04:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by kiss me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possible but usually end up one way or the other, they become just good friends or the friendship kind of takes second place to the benefits.
2006-08-16 04:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by i do, do u? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy peasy, its called a FCUKBUDDY, one of the best friendships ull ever have and dont let any1 tell u differant, i have a few and they are even good for things u wouldnt ask ur partner to do, ie 3somes etc etc every1 would love them, most wont admit to wanting then, win win situations all round
2006-08-16 04:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋