Whats the point to love? Why is it important to be in a single and manogamous relationship? What is the difference between love, marriage and sex with beautiful people? What are challenges and solutions to marriage? Why does God as for only one? What, in your opinion is the keys to a sucessful partnership?
2006-08-15 21:00:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Good question! The point to love is life. When you are in a good relationship it can take you to heights not acheived alone, however a bad relationship can strip you of the fear of death. I don't think that it is important to all people to be in a monagamous relationship.I think that there is huge difference between sex and love. Sometimes they go together, sometimes they don't. I'm not even sure that humans are meant to be monagamous. I have some friends who've been married for over 15 yrs and they are swingers. They say that they love each other very much and from their interactions with each other I believe them. They say that sex with others is adult play. It works for them. My husband and I are monagamous with each other and that works for us.
Pick a partner for who they are, not who you think they might become. Choose one that you are compatible with on the big stuff like religion, politics, child raising and let the rest go cause opposites attract! Realize at the beginning that love does take work and commit to it...make the work fun. It is a huge challenge to blend your life with someone else. I feel that it's worth it. Keep it fresh...don't get sidetracked with the daily grind, don't take your partner for granted EVER, have hobbies together and apart, be patient, touch alot....it's powerful stuff, be kinder to your partner than you are to strangers (say please and thank you, hold the door etc) and keep them first. If you are willing to spend the rest of your life with them...don't let them slide on your priority list. Make love alot...it keeps you bonded.
I feel that being married is alot like being a pair of scissors. I'm one side and my hubby is the other. We are often moving in different directions, but we punish anything that comes in between us.
2006-08-15 21:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Medusa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing companionship. We all are built to be together with someone of the opposite sex. Our life does not seem to be complete without that.
Then there is kids of course. We are just programmed to want one or some as the case may be.
If you look at the cost of housing, rent, food, clothing etc its of course easier for two people to share the costs. When we grow old we would want our kids to foot the bill. It would be quite hard for a middle class person to foot the bill all by himself and that too retired.
Then there is of course another benefit best left unmentioned.
You never know what love is until you fall in love.
We all like good things and maybe that's why we like beautiful or handsome partners as the case may be.
For a relationship to be successful both partners much accept one another. They must accept one another strengths and weaknesses. Nobody is perfect of course.
Both partners must contribute to the relationship. The man should be a stable bread winner or the chances of the relationship being stable is bleak. Financial stability is essential in the relationship. So is commitment and fidelity.
The other partner mush feel loved and wanted too. If one partner feels not wanted it would break the relationship.
The relationship must be seen by the other partner to be worthwhile and going somewhere in the right direction.
If one partner feels the relationship is not going anywhere they may call it quits.
It would be wise to find out what your partner wants and what he/she expects from the relationship before you commit to a relationship. If one can satisfy the expectations then the relationship may prosper otherwise it may fade away. This is the most common reason for divorce today. Partners finding out that their partner is not too suitable after they marry. Be yourself, do not hype things and promise the moon and if it works out why not have a good relationship.
2006-08-15 21:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if that is the point, but here it goes. Meet my husband 22 years ago, feel in love and decided I wanted to grow old with him. So that would be my point or commitment to our relationship. The benefits aside taxstuff, knowing we're comitted to each other, therefore feeling securer in the relationship. and having our kids grow up securer. Challenges are the same as with everybody, You don't always agree, since I care deeply about him, I get easier hurt by him. Don't get the God part, but he doesn't play a role in our marriage. The key to our marriage working is that we both respect each other and our differences. And that we're both committed to making it work. I think love has a lot to do with it .I still love him a lot 'those years flew by.Difference between love ,marrigeand sex with beautifull people. Sex gets better :o)
2006-08-15 21:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by sabina-2004@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a strictly Atheistic and evolutionary standpoint, love (that is the emotional connection between two people, not the physical one) motivates two people to stay together so that any offsprings will benefit from having two parents. Outside of religion, marriage is just a tradition to symbolize love between two people. Legally, married couples are entitled to certain tax benefits as well as a few other rights mostly regarding exceptions to laws. For example, you cannot be forced to testify against your spouce in a court of law. Monogomy vs. polygomy is more of a biological thing. Biologists have found a correlation in the size of a species' genetalia and it's average number of mates. As humans we average somewhere around 1.5 wives per husband. Kind of an odd number unless you consider the likelyhood of the man seeking extramarital affairs.
As for religion, God declared sex out of wedlock a sin. So get married or go to Hell.
2006-08-15 21:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Luce's Darkness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what is wrong with the world today!
I sure hope none of the prior answers about marriage being unimportant were from Christians!
I am 23, married, and absolutely love it. My husband is my best friend. If I have a bad day, I automatically have someone on my side. We will have kids someday, and raise them in a loving home with two parents who love each other. They will grow up strong and self-confident because their parents showed them how to love.
I am not saying that we don't have our arguments, but you just have to realize that what you are fighting about is not as important as your love for the person and your desire for happiness. As long as two people are faithful to each other and are able to show love, wonderful things can happen.
Besides-beautiful people fall in love and get married too! And once you're married, you will have an awesome level of intimacy that people who just have random sex will never understand.
2006-08-15 21:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by hopewriter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 The LORD God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. (1.Moz2,18)
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (1.Moz 2,24)
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour:10 if they fall down, they can help each other up. But pity those who fall and have no-one to help them up! 11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4, 9-12
the last sentence means: the three of you in unity- God is the third. this is the most firm!
2006-08-15 21:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Fruzsina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be in love and live your life with someone without ever getting married. The benefits to marriage are legal.
A sexual relationship is built on sex and sexual attraction, without those the relationship would end. When it starts to get boring, when things get bad you leave.
When you love someone when things get bad you fight to make them better.
A good relationship is built on respect and honesty. Without them the relationship will eventually break.
My husband is my best friend and I am his. I know that know matter what the world throws at me that I have at least one person who will stand beside me, let me lean on him, and fight for me.
2006-08-15 21:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by curls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The benefit of marriage is you generally have an opportunity for sex on any given evening. The disadvantage is that it's almost always with the same person.
2006-08-15 21:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Arkangyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want an excuse to have sex with as many people as possible without being responsible for your actions. Well God will hold you accountable no matter how hard you pretend He won't.
Marriage is the oldest institution known to man. God created it as a place for a man and women to enjoy one another sexually emotionally spiritually and in many other ways. I am married my wife is the only person I have ever been with and by God's grace is the only person I will ever be with and I would have it no other way.
2006-08-15 21:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by pastorJ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Who says you must only have 1 wife?
I have 2. Works out just great, probably is better
2006-08-15 21:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by CJunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋