I think this is one of the reasons the divorce rate in the US is so out of control. People love the idea of being married, but don't realize that it takes so much work and planning. They stress out about the flowers, the dress, and on and on...yet often fail to realize they should really be preparing for the huge commitment they are about to make. I would be willing to bet that most engaged couples have no idea how they should even begin to plan or prepare for their marriage.
2006-08-15 20:38:35 · 10 answers · asked by Miss D 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Totally agreed. Marriage these days seems to be more about the concept as opposed to the committment. People get so tied up in following tradition and besting other people that they forget about what they really want.
I read recently that there are a lot of women going to counselling shortly after they get married because they have PWD (ie post-wedding depression). I guess someone have so little else going on in their lives that a wedding has that effect on them.
2006-08-16 01:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there well if if youre relating this to the bride we all see it from being a little girl that its going to us one day that would be said by one of our parents and thats where the seed is sown and from there on there are the barbie dolls with lovely dresses to catch a little girls eyes ,and as we grow and change there is the wedding programes that have the big white weddings and finally there are the celebs that have the big wedding that they then sell to the glossy mags and make a huge profit and thats after there wedding paid for as for the grooms well i think they would quite happily just go get married and have a party and thats the job done ,there should be a course that you go on if you want to get married and im sure that would put a few people of the thought of a huge wedding and realise that they shouldnt start married life with a huge wedding bill to pay ,.......im not anti marriage or big weddings ,i just wishpeople would stop and think before the wedding gets out of control
2006-08-16 03:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bingo. That is exactly what I feel right now. I was supposed to get married, but I just recently "woke up." I was stressing over wedding details, but then suddenly it dawned on me that I am excited for the wedding, but not for the marriage. And that just scared the hell out of me.
So I'm taking it slowly, and we just postponed the wedding. I'm glad I realized this before it's too late... I needed more time to think and decide if I really want to marry this guy.
2006-08-16 08:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by sweet-spicy-ara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question! And insight!
I wonder this too sometimes. Perhaps it's our culture, where getting married and having kids seems to be the ultimate goal when the goal should be broader and include planning for a successful and happy marriage as well!
2006-08-16 03:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree 100%!!! people get married to have the WEDDING! then are loss at what to do...so they have kids....then at their 25 wedding anniversary, the kids are grown and gone, they look at eachother and say, "who are you?" and really mean it! they get divorced and start a life of a 20 year old cause they should have never even got married in the first place!
2006-08-16 21:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by sherbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because sometimes we feel like planning for the wedding is the first step of everything. As for me, i only want to be married once so i think before we chose whom to marry, we have to chose wisely.My fiance and i are planning for our own wedding too. And his support is unwaivering. We long to spend the rest of our lives till we grow old. isnt that sweet? we can only hope to find our own fairy tale and wish that they end up the way we want them to.
2006-08-16 03:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by goth_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had this conversation with my fiance. I was stressing over the wedding then changed focus and dicovered what my bigger focus should be, maintaining my relationship. We discovered each other again and planning our wedding is more fun then ever.
2006-08-16 03:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's all show and so false and shallow - it makes me sick. Marriage is about love and commitment not a big showy wedding.
2006-08-16 03:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point taken...
2006-08-16 03:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very true..
2006-08-16 03:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by lazydazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋