and you just can't be together, because life just hasn't planed for you to get together. I love him and he loves me, and we both feel we are soul mates, but there is just NO WAY we can be together. my life has been a single black hole eversince we had to break up. how do I get over him? just serious answers please!
2006-08-15 20:09:59 · 11 answers · asked by S T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay.. and what if you don't have any friends, because you are a single mother, and the only places you know are work, child care center, and kitchen? I can't go out, because I have nobody to watch my son and I can't afford a baby sitter... what would it matter anyways, because all my friends recently got married. I haven't seen the guy for almost a year now.
2006-08-15 20:17:33 · update #1
I am over 30
2006-08-15 20:20:15 · update #2
ohhhh my goshhhhhhhhhh are you serious ??? is that the Love of your life ? because if it is , My story and your are the same ....
I have been frantically asking questions about that and it is just a sad story .... I was with him about 4 years ago , then he had to move across the country to play sports .... it was THE WORST GOODBYE ever .... we both loved each other , but we were too young to have a long distance relationship and other reasons we had to break up ....
It was the hardest thing I ever had to do , he was my first bf i was his first gf ... and to be honest with you , not a day went by in these four years when I didnt think of him , at first when he called me i wouldnt pick up , because it hurt me to talk to him , hearing him say i miss you and not be able to be with him ...
as the months would go by, he would have other gf, but I never gotten into another relationship ... i guess it hurt me too much that the one and first person i gave my heart to , wasnt there anymore .....
i would call him every day for his birthday, and when he came back into town, like twice a year we would see each other and you know things would be crazy ... just sooo much attraction and chemistry ...
After 4 long years he came back into town and ... I feel like it was just yesterday when he left ... he is still the same great person he was years ago ...
we started being great friends again with the occasional sex ;) even though we are both not seeing anyone else, we just cant get back together ... because get this, even though He sais he still loves me ... he said he has to find himself !!! WTF !! granted we are both so youn 22 & 23 .... that just ruined my world .... I have been sitting here for the last 4 years and he is about to leave the country for a year abroad to efffffin find himself ???
Soooooo I decided I need to get closure and get over him ..... BOTTOM LINE .... I just wish I would have done that earlier ....
AND THIS IS MY ADVICE TO YOU honey , You are beautiful , and any guy in this world would be lucky to have you ..... If you cant be together for some reason now, DO NOT PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD .. i mean i dont know the specific reasons and maybe 10 years down the line you guys can be together but honesty,
DONT COUNT oN it , you have to start letting go , its going to be hard, trust me it took me 4 years, but you just have to .... in order to move on with your life and actually LIVE it, you have to let go of the memory that was you and him ...
Be happy that you have LoVED and LOST .... It is better than to have NEVER Loved at all ....
But having this said, you need to go out there and put yourself out, go out with your girls and live life .... you owe it to yourself and the next person who will fall in Love with your smile :)
LOVE, LIVE and most of all BE :)
2006-08-15 20:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Armenianchick1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl! If you both love eachother I don't see how there could be a situation that could keep you apart? Even if he was leaving, my husband went to Iraq for a year and we got married before he left and live a wonderful life together. If you can't because you work together, get new jobs! If its parents (I dont know how old you are) then hang in there! Although somtimes when youre younger you might think you are in love when everyone else around you knows its an unhealthy relationship.
Your question is so vague, but if you are really trying to get over this guy you need to get out and meet new people. When you start realizing that there are men who are equally great guys you will start to feel comfortable dating again. If you keep surrounding yourself with memories and pictures of the old guy you will only feel depressed.
2006-08-16 03:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cindie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love dissolves all the pain. Sometimes indecisiveness is a a great cause of so much pain. Looking at the pattern of your life so far (with regard to your this relationship) if you analyze with a balanced mind and do not see that you can be together, you need to accept it completely and move on with life. Find someone else to love and who will love you...take care and I hope all will be fine
2006-08-16 03:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by mu mu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very difficult,but if it's like you say it is,
then you must try to move on. plus,guys will
say anything sometimes. If he's still a teen, I
doubt he feels the same about you because
teenage guys change all the time.
Don't fret over it because it's really rare to
find your soul mate this soon.
If you are both adults,it's still better to move
on if it's as you say it is.
2006-08-16 03:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Greer G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds .. just know that he is still in your life and that will never change. He made a huge impact on you and forever you will be apart of one another. I have to tell myself that every day after the death of my child.. I hope things get better on your end.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-16 03:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its same to me here.u just move on with u life.forget about him anywer..find someone who truly love and understand u.eventho u both soulmate but this is the fate u have u face it.u can't be together so why still thingking about him..there will be someone out day for u better than him someday..only times can tell u ,,,
2006-08-16 03:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by sher_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what i always do is just get rid of everything in my room that reminds me of the person.. (sometimes its alot of crap) then i hang out with my friends like every night.. realize that ur friends and family are more important then some dude.. dont call him.. dont even look at pictures of him dont talk to him dont hang out with him (this is the hardest part) but honestly ive helped alot of people out with this and this is what you need to do.. its SOOOO hard to do so but once u make it threw this u will be 10x stronger.. i feel your pain.. and hopefully everything works out..good luck..
2006-08-16 03:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by Juggernaut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of all the bad things about him and jst concentrate on that and only that and pretend that all the good things are just lies. Make up that he cheated on u with ur mom. Sounds crazy, but works!
2006-08-16 03:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone new. go out with your friends
2006-08-16 03:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need more info
2006-08-16 03:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋