I keep seeing him online, but I am not sure if he has deleted me from his contact list already. When we ended things, he said he wanted to still be friends. If he really did still want to be friends, why doesn't he send me messages? If I make the first move, will it communicate that I am ok will all the hurtful things he said to me? What should I do?
2006-08-15 19:59:21 · 22 answers · asked by Pep 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I do not think that 3 weeks is sufficient amount of time for you to heal from this breakup; therefore, you are not ready to be friends with him at this point. Perhaps he hasn't sent you any messages because he may not be ready to talk to you yet. All the hurt is still there for both parties involved.
I think it is ok for you two to be friends but I would give it some time. How much time? It all depends on the individual. We all heal at different rates. When you feel strong enough and not vulnerable to his every word and every move, then you can consider communicating again.
Right now is not a good time. Obviously, you want to IM him just to talk to him..not merely just letting him know that you're ok. If he was really concern that you were ok from all the hurtful things he said to you, he would've checked up on you by now. And I'm not saying he's not concern at all but maybe he's not ready to make the first move and neither are you.
Just wait awhile...and give both of you some space to heal from all the bitterness and resentment that your history together has bestowed upon the both of you.
2006-08-15 20:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ! Your mind is having a tug of war with your heart. You are right he should have send you message when you see him online. On the otherside when he see you online he must be thinking she should have send me message. May be ego has overpowered all your love and friendship. There is nothing wrong in sending a message. You must send a message coz I can feel from your words you want her back in life what ever may would have happened. So, dear give a start to it and when ur in front of each other you can tell him what wrong he did to you etc etc. Life is too short to enjoy. So, go ahead and think of a gr8 future ahead that may be waiting for you all you have to do is open doors for yourself. All the best. !!
2006-08-15 20:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by ariesaregudfriends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your broken up - be strong and get over him especially if he said nasty words to you, ask yourself why you would still be interested in him? also would you take back a friend for hurting you? if not why a boyfriend? he doesnt send you messages cuz hes to busy getting over you woman!!!! if you feel the need to say something to him, then tell him you are going to erase him from your contact list and could he do the same and see what he says?
2006-08-15 20:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send him anything! Move on! There is no friendship between man and woman... Meet new people and you'll find soon another one! Don't look back. You had something beautiful but it's over now. MOVE ON! Leave the past behind and look to the future you'll find lot of opportunities.
Good luck!
2006-08-15 20:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do???? Move on. You two are no longer a couple. Guy will say anything if they think the hurt will soften the blow to the gal when breaking up. No....don't IM him. I'm sure he has someone else.
2006-08-15 20:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER make the first step towards a reconciliation unless you are the man. if you come crawling back to him, he'll loose his respect for you. if he doesn't contact you within 2 weeks, move on with your life and find someone else.
2006-08-15 20:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by S T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u shouldn't b ok with all the hurtful things! 4 get hiM! and b my bf
2006-08-15 20:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave it be. Don't contact him because all your doing is showing him that you still care. Unless thats what you want to do, and if thats the case then contact him....
2006-08-15 20:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him contact you or he might think you want him back when some guys cant get over that your not together anymore that's why its hard to date someone that you still want to be friends when you break up Its hard trust me but you will get through it
2006-08-15 20:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Hollisterbebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y? did you broke up? what's the use??
the book is close between you two why would you still bother. Girl talk to him< i thought you broke up?... if he's like that ask him why he broke up with you. it useless girl. move on
man like him is not worth it, HE couldn't make up his mind
2006-08-15 20:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by flower_roxy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋