I recently broke up with boyfriend of five years. What should I do next. Be single or try to move on the next. Guys are asking me out left and right. I don't want someone because I am lonely. I'm not ready to rush into anything, but the guys are not understanding. I don't want to sit at home by myself either.
2006-08-15 19:46:25 · 14 answers · asked by Nitney B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I broke up with my girlfriend, I told my jobs that I was taking some time off. I didn't tell anybody else except my mother, so she would not worry. Bought a prepay cell phone (T-Mobile they are in Hawaii) and a hundred dollar phone card to go with it. Gave my mother that number. I then went online and bought a two week vacation package to Hawaii and went the next day.
I left my regular cell phone, home phone, answering machine, laptop at home or off. I didn't check my email or anything. I went completely MIA.
When I got back, everybody had all these questions as to what happen to me. I told them I wasn't in the news dead. I was okay.
Then I told them I went to Hawaii nobody believed me until I show them some stuff I bought while I was there. Then the question was, "who went with you?" nobody. I went by myself and had a great time. It was one of the best trips I have ever taken.
The prepaid cellphone was for if an emergency occurred while on the islands it cheaper to do that.
2006-08-15 20:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience I would take it one day at a time. Thats not something you get over like that. Take your time make shure you are ready because if your not its only gonna cause heart ache in the end . I would try and go out but never alone with the guy but with friends and only when your ready. Dont let any one push or rush you into anything you dont wonna do.
2006-08-16 02:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by neeper_52732 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, say that you're looking for a companion and not some intimate relationship at the moment.
If they cant take such brutal truth, than it's not your lost. That true someone will stick by you even if you don't feel like you want to have any intimacy at this moment.
Who knows....you might find that special person out of this right?
Good Luck!
2006-08-16 02:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can certainly date one or two as a rebound relationship.
Meanwhile, be sure to take a breath and figure out what you liked/didn't like about the last relationship and in your bf. That should help you narrow the field for consideration after you get the old feelings out of your system.
2006-08-16 02:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with your chick-friends.
Give the guy scene away for a while.
If you start ghaving "urges" - don't act on them with anyone you know, that will just complicate things.
There is NO rule that says you must be partnered.
I've been partnered for 17 years, and i find myself single now. At first it was difficult, but trust me, it gets much easier.
Avoid sad movies, music & alcohol. Just go have some fun.
2006-08-16 02:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by cat_the_aussie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind what it is you want to do. There's nothing wrong with perhaps going out with a 'group' of friends. YOU make the decision whether you want to go out one on one with someone. If these guys are not understanding, then they certainly do not know what you are going through as far as your break up.
2006-08-16 02:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEN, CAN'T LIVE WITH THEM, CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THEM!
If you are still trouma and dont want to have a boyfriend, then
You can just make friends with all those guy first, they sometime
will be more wonderfull as friends, while you could learn about them and make your pick? Get a life and Have fun ok?
2006-08-16 02:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by R_A_S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can just hang out with them get to know them. theres no need to rush into anything or be lonely just kick back and have some fun.
2006-08-16 02:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by YeaHBoYiiIeeE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to be upfront and tell guys that you will go out with them ONLY as friends.
Then just let things happen.
2006-08-16 02:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by p_boxter03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not ready for a relationship, then don't go for one because you're lonely, but you don't have to be at home by yourself. you can hang out with your friends instead.
2006-08-16 02:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by awsumrocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋