Ok. My ex who broke up with me almost 2 years ago left me a message on my phone at 12: 57 (about a half hour ago) saying he needed to talk to me. Well I can't sleep when stuff like that happens because I think the worst. I called him and he informed me that he still has feelings for me and wants to go out in person after I take my bro to school and talk about it more. Problem is I'm in a fairly new relationship with someone and right now I'm just soo confused... HELP ME SOMEONE!!!
2006-08-15 19:28:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have real strong feelings for both of them. Both their familys love me. I really don't know what to do. Someone is going to get hurt and there's no way around that. I just feel kind of traped.
2006-08-15 19:34:39 · update #1
First of all, if you decide to see your ex, you should inform your current bf because if you don't, then you're looking for trouble. Second, think about and sort out your feelings for both men; who do you really wanna be with? are you willing to give up what you already have just to be with the guy that broke your heart? And if you do want to be with your ex, make sure your ex has something to offer that will make your new relationship different this time, and not just a replay of the past. Your ex has more recovering to do this time, and spilling our his feelings for you is not enough to get you back. Try not to let him manipulate you, even is he may be doing all this unconsciously.
Evaluate what you have right now: a happy relationship with a great guy . . . it would be unfair to ditch him without giving you two a real chance, since everything has just started. Unless your ex is the only guy you can see yourself with, then stick to the one you already have.
2006-08-15 19:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for a drunk booty call because he can't get any, is that so hard to read, that or he's looking for a pity ***, why would he call you up after two years at 1 in the morning?, because he had a change of heart after nobody else would get with him? seriously, think about it, why would he call you? there's no other explanation, that and you're in a fairly new relationship, see how that one goes and don't waste time being stuck on the past
2006-08-16 02:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by micktobi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stick with the new guy. If he broke up with you it was his choice to end the relationship and even though there's the saying you know what you have until you lost it 2 years is a long time to realise his feelings. Stay with the new guy.
2006-08-16 02:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by tweetyb_76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you are old enough to understand that you cant ride in two boats at the sam time so just keep one thing in your mind the consequences which lead you to seperation with your EX and that would ease it out for you to make your mind.
Thanx!
2006-08-16 02:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you let go of the past. tell him you ave moved on. he made his choice and you had to adjust. do you want to move forward or go back to being hurt? you deserve to be able to sleep. not worry about someone that has hurt you before. keep on smiling and get some sleep.
2006-08-16 02:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for him then you need to end the relationship you're in right now...but if you don't have feelings for him anymore then you need to tell him that you moved on and he needs to too
2006-08-16 02:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be tough, don't let a man drag you down like that. Do something fun to take the pain away.
2006-08-16 02:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by NïghtStalkër_666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the ex your with someone else now...Give the new one a chance....
2006-08-16 02:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself why he broke up with you to begin with, what he has to offer now and what this new guy has to offer you. I have yet to see anyone happy from"back-peddling". What are his motives for wanting you back now?
2006-08-16 02:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things were good he wouldn't be your ex. Don't sabotage a new relationship for one that has already failed.
2006-08-16 02:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by JFra472449 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋