A little over a month ago my ex broke up with me. It was a !!!"REALLY"!!! bad breakup and she has since then moved on and she is even got an apt. and is getting married to this guy she has only really know for about 2 months now(they have a brief past of making out once). I've moved on for the most part, and I'm just trying to live life to the fullest now. I've been fine about all the stuff shes been doing and I really don't have many nice words to say to her, but for the last couple of days I've been thinking about her constantly. I can't see myself ever getting back with her, and like I said I really don't have many nice words to say to her, but all I really want to do is just hear her voice and see her again.
Anybody got any good advice for me?
2006-08-15 19:26:34 · 11 answers · asked by peacefulwreck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I certainly hope that you are not in constant communication with her. If so, it will make it really hard for you to get pass the break up stage. Secondly, how do you know what she's been up to lately like how long she's been dating this guy, how they're getting married, etc. Whatever your source is, you need to cut that tie because it may be hurting you to know that she is getting married to someone else. You obviously harbor some feelings for her but I think it is hard for you to digest the fact that she is getting married and you're on the sideline.
A friend of mine was in almost the same scenario. She has been infactuated with her friend for 11 years. Recently, she found out he finally has a girlfriend and that really broke her heart. Although they were never together to begin with, just the mere thought that he is no longer available really sadden her.
Again, I say cut all news and all ties with her at least until you heal completely. Afterall, no news is good news don't you agree?
2006-08-15 19:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason why you are still thinking about your ex-girlfriend is because it is still a fresh beak up. It has onl been a month and she's already moved on while you're still tyring to figure things out. The fact that she has moved in, and about to marry someone else, boggles your mind, and it's unexplainable at this point in time, but given time you will learn to forget about her when it is time. It's nothing wrong with it at all, everyone goes through this at some point of time in there lives, and now is just your turn. Just keep your head up, and all else will follow. Dont hold any gruges against her, since you dont have any nice words for her, and dont disrespect her, that will only make her want to rub it in your face more. Again like i said before, you're only thinking about her, because she seems to be moving faster then you do, but healing takes time.
2006-08-16 02:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by full_figured_beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been a month. You'll probably be thinking about her for a long time to come. There are no easy solutions but time. Some people you can never get over even if you move on, or if they have.
2006-08-16 02:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit kidding yourself, you want her back, and if you didn't mind the things shes been doing in her new life without you then you would have nice things to say to her. You miss her. Shes getting married so do yourself a favor and get over her so your heart doesn't ache anymore..
2006-08-16 02:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by lovemykalli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard when your the dumpee, i think its normal to be thinking about her, miss her, and not want her back, you aren't really missing her, your missing the company and the feelings she made you feel when you were together, i think thats the hardest part to get used to in a break up, learning what is is you like to do again, on your own, and then getting used to it again.
sorry not much of a solution, but as they say...
only time can heal.
2006-08-16 02:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must really love her. i guess that she didn't realize how special you are. its just that some people you date will break you're heart. u need to brace yourself every time you get into a realationship. try to stay on friendly terms with her. if you try and forget about her and you see her again, all your emotions will come back to you.
2006-08-16 02:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by awsumrocker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
these things are normal when you break up with someone;you know you can't have her now; so you want her... right?
Start going places; get to meet new people, go out even with people that are not that attracted that much to you ; do things like dancing, dancing, dancing, even if you don't like to dance. also exercises that help to forget.
2006-08-16 02:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by COCO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy. A real friend or lover won't make you cry... move on. so, with that said.... get in touch with other friends...do something great for yourself. write your feelings down...life is too short.
2006-08-16 02:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its been 5yrs now for me and it still hurts. sry buddy dont no what ta tell ya. u never gonna forget about her u juss gotta act lik u dont care and dont let it drive u crazy.
2006-08-16 02:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by 123weed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been a month, relax, youll get over it
2006-08-16 03:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋