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I'm 19. Have Been Engaged Once Already, And It Didn't Work. Recently, My Bestfriend, Younger Sister, and I Moved Out On Our Own. My Current Boyfriend Of 3mos. Told Me That He Is Getting A House Of His Own After He Finishes College(December), And Wants Me To Move In. Now That My Little Sister Lives With Me, I Am Responsible For Her. She Started A New School Monday. If I Move In With Him, Should She Come Too, Or Go Back To The Broken Home We Came From? ((My Step-Dad Is A Drunk, And Treats Her Like Crap..And My Mom Doesn't Care))

Answer 1

What happens to your little sister when you break up with your boyfriend someday?

Do not put her in another unstable situation. Stay with your sister, and if your boyfriend doesn't like that, he's not for you.

Answer 2

I just broke up with my boyfriend of three months. You would want to get to know someone a bit more before you make the decision to move yourself AND your sister into a new house.

And what if your boyfriend does not want the added responsibility of taking care of your sister? It shouldn't be whether your sister goes back to a broken home or with your boyfriend, the decision should be what's best for the both of you. Don't be so selfish, you elected to take care of her, so do it.

My advice is to continue dating the boyfriend for a while, but also stay at your current house.

Answer 3

If you have taken on the responsibility of your little sister then that should be your first priority. As a single parent you will have to give up alot just to see your child grown.
Parents sacrifice a lot for their children especially when they love and care for them. Not all parents are this way as you have stated from your own parents actions. But you should consider your sister and if she is old enough ask her opinion.
I don't really think that three months is long enough to know someone before moving in and if you do, do it as a trial keep your place until you are sure.

Answer 4

SHAME ON YOU FOR ASKING!

If you were your sister, and your only hope at happiness would be living with you would you want her to leave YOU on the curb??

Ok that being said, I TOTALLY commend you on being 19 and taking on that kind of responsibility! Just remember this, first, you are only 19 and honey let me tell you life changes. Don't put you and your sister in any situation right now where you become dependent on a man to keep a roof over your head. IF you are already set in moving in with him, well it is YOUR life, yes your sister won't like to move schools, BUT what is worse? Being with a drunk and one whom neglects and could care less? Or switching schools one more time so you 19 year old sister can still try to enjoy what little is left of her childhood? (SHe should totally go where you go! You are her protector now!)

Answer 5

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I think the key here is in your own words,

"If I Move In With Him"

Personally I think my sisters are more important than a shack job ever was and if your boyfriend doesn't understand that and show a total comitment of marriage then he's not the right one. Better to get someone who does.

Give it some Serious Thought,, it's both of you and your sisters futures,, and you've made a serious commitment already, So what's in a 3 or 4 month relationship,, Really??

Aloha Oi with blessings and prayers

Thoughtfuls

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Answer 6

Absotively, keep her with you, it is the best thing in the world, that anyone is lucky enough to have family, and with a family you have a support system right at your finger tips, and since you can`t rely on your parents, you just have each other, so yea, keep her with you. It will be best for your sis in the long run, having you there for any rough spots that she may go through, so with you there for her, she stands a much better chance of growing up to realize her dreams. I hope everything works out with your new b.f. but don`t forget that, for right now, you and your sis are the most important thing, remember that you are just 19, and no insult intended, but you are barely past being considered a kid yourself, so that makes it even more important that you and your sis watch each others backs. Best Wishes and Good Luck to both of you.

Answer 7

wow you capitalize everything don't you...lol but anyways in my opinion if you have only been dating 3 months whats the rush to move in with him? Would you feel safe bringing your sister and yourself into an environment with someone you don't know that well? Also... where are you living now... because if its an apartment don't most have leases with a minimum of 1 yr? If I were you I would wait until you have been dating a bit longer...

Answer 8

You did not mention a third option, that is, you stay put under the current situation.
MUST you move in with your bf? You should not involve your sister with your bf, which will affect your sister if she goes with you. You can be sure of complications later on.
Leaving her and going to stay with your bf is a bad solution, as this would be abandoning her!
You can still continue in your present arrangement and meet your bf as and when necessary, can't you?

Answer 9

You are till young.You have taken very big responsibilty at this age.Think twice before moving out with your boyfriend since you only know him for 3 mths,you want to get stranded.Think about yourself and your little sister then take a decision.

Answer 10

If you are serious about this guy and he will accept her too, I think that would be an OK option for you and your sister. The only thing you should be prepared for is if you and he ever break up, that you have a backup plan to fall back on.

Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.