As in, a close friend says they're doing such and such with so and so, and you ask, "Can I join?"
2006-08-15 19:13:46 · 27 answers · asked by Ashleigh 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It really depends on the circumstance. If your friend was invited by another friend, you should not ask because she is not the host.
That is just one example.
As a general rule, I do not invite myself. Your friends should be the one who is inviting you. However, I do feel there are some circumstances that it is proper to ask.
2006-08-15 19:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by p_boxter03 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the such and such and so and so.
If the activity is conducive to deep talking like dinner or mini golf then no don't invite yourself. So and so and your close friend need some talking time.
If the activity is more a social scene like a movie or club then you could drop hints that you'd like to join.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 20:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always rude and pushy to try to get an invite!! Always the wrong thing. Never do it. It's annoying!
2015-12-21 02:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's inappropriate and maybe even a little rude. If they didn't invite you with them in the first place it probably means they want to go without you, they may feel like being just the two of them for example, and by asking you're kind of forcing them to either take you with them even though they'd prefer not to, or to turn you down and feel like a jerk for that.
2006-08-15 20:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever invite yourself out when you're not invited.
Ask if you could join. That is showing RESPECT.
If your close friend is going out on a date with someone, don't invite yourself or ask if you could join cause thats being totally rude.
Other than that, ask if you could join.
2006-08-15 19:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't want you to invite yourself, they shouldn't have mentioned it. People know this. Think about it. When you don't want someone tagging along when you are going somewhere, you simply don't mention your plans around them.
Keep inviting yourself. Chances are they mentioned it with the hopes that you would do so, and make the outing more interesting for them.
2006-08-15 20:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its annoying to say the least, so guess you could say it is rude, but if it is really casual then why not.
I wonder to if its not rude to of mentioned what your were doing and where your were going in front of someone you really didn't want to tag along. Why not just be quite and then the both of you would of felt more comfortable.
2006-08-15 19:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure I don't see why not - they should invite you anyway though - I hate when people do that - it's mean =( Yea just say - hey I'm not doing much that night - mind if I come?? Sometimes they assume you wouuld go if you wanted to or they wouldn't even tell you so maybe you are already (although not voiced) invited.
2006-08-15 19:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes if it is a close friend. If a person doesn't want you to come then they should not have given specific details and just said oh I have made plans, so nobody will get their feeling hurt.
2006-08-15 21:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is. You should pull whom ever to the side and ask if they mind if you tagged along. Think about this if they had wanted you come along wouldn't they have asked you in the first place????
2006-08-15 19:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋