I told him no and he said that I wasn't ready to take the next step and move in together. Don't you think he is being manipulative? We have been going out for 9 months.
2006-08-15 18:40:59 · 37 answers · asked by hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not ready, than you are not ready.... it is o.k. I would not give my key to someone i did not know or trust.... it is o.k. it is your house...if he can not except that, he is not right for you, move on. Yes if he needs to get into your house, then you should be there too.... no excuses, it is your house. If he wants to live with you you need to decide if this is wise. if you think so, then let him move in, but always be careful...a key to your house, for someone who does not live there, could be a problem.
2006-08-15 18:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Keys Your Boyfriend
2016-12-17 05:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by lozada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your partner asks for a copy of your key to your apartment/house, it means that he/she is ready to take the relationship to the next level of commitment. It is a good sign that he wants a key to your apartment!! He's starting to take things seriously! If this scares you, and you are not ready to have a serious relationship right now, tell him that you will give him a key when you're ready. So, when you finally do give him a key to your apartment, he'll know that you are ready to be committed.
2006-08-15 18:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's not living there, there is absolutely no reason for him to have keys. You have a right to your privacy and to be in control of your space, and when he will and will not be there. If he thinks you should move in together, this is not an appropriate way to ask. I don't like the sound of this guy. I'm not saying you should break up just because he asked for keys, but if he keeps pushing the issue, you should lose him.
2006-08-15 18:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If you're not ready don't do it
2. Yes he is manipulative. He can wait if he loves you.
3. Well... you can actually ask to the police if he doesn't have any criminal record... or ask their friends... or... Don't you know him after going out 9 months? Ask for their keys first... because he is secure about going to your apartment so you are the one who need to know him better so you need his key more to help to move on in your relationship to next step or better knowing him because any insecure is something you don't know about him and you are afraid to know.
Hugs. Martin
2006-08-15 18:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Martin Arganaraz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how long you have been dating. If you have been dating for at least 2 years let him have a spare key, but make sure you both really care for each other, and want to move to the next step. IF you haven't been even going out for that long, dont even think about giving it to him. You never know what could happen while you are away.
-aim
2006-08-15 18:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by aim 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it means he's manipulative and intrusive. It's rude to ASK for the keys to YOUR apartment. 9 months isn't near enough time for that nonsense! He has an alterior motive! Watch Out, Chica!
2006-08-15 18:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you ask if your boyfriend is being manipulitive? Mayby somewhere deep down you know that your boyfriend wants the keys for more then just getting into your appartment... I would not give them to him especially after 9 months, try more like 3 years!
2006-08-15 18:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to move in on you.Take over and control what goes on .If you are not ready for a commitment with him don't give him your keys.Do you really want to get into a serious relationship with some one that is trying to manipulate you.It will only get worse believe me..say no and hit the road buddy!
2006-08-15 18:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by annie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, it's all in how you feel. I personally don't think that he's being manipulative, but if it's not something you're ready for, don't do it. I went through a similar experience where my ex wanted to move in with me, but it turned out to be a horrible nightmare that I don't want to relive. Make sure you think about it and are sure that it's something that you want. How does he act around you? That's what you need to be watching.
2006-08-15 18:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋