I caught my child looking at porn. What do I do?

Answer 1

tell him to give your stash back.

Answer 2

I'm assuming this child is a son? If so, how old is he? Checking out porn for a young man could be considered normal curiosity. After all, at his age, his hormones are "raging out of control" and he just might be curious. If that's the case, consider this the best time to talk "that talk". Good luck...
If you need any information, contact his pediatrician, your librarian for a few "How - did - I - get - here?" related books, and maybe even a family member or friend who has dealt with the same issues (no pun intended).
If your son is a smaller person, then you might need to think about other more pressing issues. Why is he looking at porn? It's been said that a younger child looking at such material is an indication of some sort of sexual abuse or molestation. Should that be, have him checked out physically and get him into counseling immediately. Issues like that just don't "go away" and that could affect him for as long as he lives. You'd be surprised at the repercussions of such behavior aimed from a trusted adult to a trusting child.
When our children were growing up, we told them that nobody was allowed to touch where their bathing suit covered. They seemed to do well with that explanation of what "good touch/bad touch" meant for them.
Along the porn string, don't forget that infamous,” That’s somebody's sister - daughter - etc." speech. He needs to know that porn can be degrading to people in general.
My late husband once confessed that, while *he* was a young man looking at porn, he thought that *that* was the way women wanted to be treated. Sad, isn't it, that people learn how to treat their future partners from something so controversial?
I'm not saying give him the biblical spiel; just speak from the heart and let him know that you care for him, but that you also want to make sure that he finds a better way to interact with a future partner in his life besides learning from the wrong resources.
I hope that helps.
Pornography is so popular because it makes a person feel good "in the moment", but the lasting overall effect can be quite damaging...

Answer 3

depends on how old the child is, they may not even know what they are looking at. You also did not say if it was on the tv or in magazines. The first thing to do, is not make a big fuss over it. If they realise that what they were doing is "wrong" or "bad" or "naughty" they may pay more attention to it. If they ask questions, then you should give them age appropriate answers and try not to continue the conversation on so that they no longer are interested. Most children find sex to be disgusting and gross - until they are teenagers and the hormones kick in. Do not be too concerned that they have been scarred for life - you will probably find that their interest drops very quickly. If it doesnt you may need to get counselling advice.

Answer 4

Where did the child see it? On the Internet, cable, or on paper? How old is the child? This is a perfect opportunity for you to sit down and discuss your feelings about pornography. All children are curious. If he/she within puberty, it's also a good time to talk about sex. It doesn't means the kid will go out and have sex. It just means that information is a powerful tool to protect yourself. You can get help on this subject by going to the library or bookstore and getting some books on this subject. Meanwhile, let it be known that you do not tolerate this materials in your home if it's not yours. If it is, then he/she needs to understand that it was your private thing and that the child had violated your privacy by opening it. Don't punish, that will only make it seem shameful.

Answer 5

Depending on the age of the child, you need to first yourself understand that some people can become addicted to porn-infatuated and not realize that majority of the time those are ACTORS, the excitement is not necessarily real. Then explain the rules of engagement or belief system that you want to be followed in you household/family. Do not come on like you are scolding, that will shut down open communication. Find out why they were looking at it; discuss what they saw or what they thought they saw---most of all find out have they had any form of sex-oral, anal, vaginal, masturbation, and then you have to discuss protection and things like that. And the weirdest thing you may find out is they do not want to talk to you about it, but perhaps another family member, friend or sibling-but whomever else they talk to, make sure they understand your beliefs on the situation and the information you want past on as important.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

try to remeber being that age, didn;t you do or try to do something similar?

even if no, i would just let it go. Dont make any big deal about it at all, its just normal curiosity. I would not even mortify the kid by bringing it up other than to suggest he/she keep it a little more discreet and maybe broach a discussion on avoiding internet pervs if it was online

Unless your child is very young, like under 7 or so, in that case its possible they are hypersexualized due to some inappropriate contact with an adult or actually being molested.

An unusally early interst in porn or sex is sometimes an indicator of that

Answer 7

It's normal for boys after the age of 11 to look at porn.That's a part of their development - they are not asexual!Leave the kid - he won't get crazy or something if looking at porn.If you check better you'll probably find porn magazines under the bed or somewhere hidden but don't start to check.It's you kid's own privacy!It is normal for boys after11 (I'm not sure how old is yours).If your kid is under 11,talk to him about that.Ask him what does he think about that,is it good or bad...these kind of things.I'm a mother of 3 girls and I haven't got a son,but I know my daughter's boyfriend's childhood(he had not very good parents and usually told me everything and asked for advices).He also looked porn and I can asure you that the boy is well-developed,psychically and phisically.

Answer 8

Really depends on his/her age, if they are 5 SHAME ON YOU FOR LEAVING IT AROUND WHERE THEY COULD GET IT!

If they are 15 well then all I can say is if you haven't already, its time for the birds and the bees and the flowers and the trees talk!

Good Luck!

Don't punish them, that will only teach them curiosity about the human anatomy is shameful, it isn't but there is a time and a place and you aren't suppose to get caught by your parents!

Answer 9

depends on how old they are...if they are old enough and are showing an interest in this type of thing (teenage years) then don't worry about it...just tell them to be careful of computer viruses...if they're young then tell them that it is grown up stuff and that they can look at things like that when they're older...Give them something else to do with their time that they enjoy, such as outside of school activities.

If you really dont want them lookign at porn then give them the birds and the bees talk (if they're a teenager)...they'll probably be really embarassed and won't look at it anymore.

Answer 10

you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when you child's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com

Answer 11

It's normal if he is 13 or older. Don't punish him too badly--he might do it more if you make it so taboo. Just educate him a little if he's curious (the sex talk).

On a different story, I caught my dad looking at porn, lol.