what should i do? support him? or leave him? why? i mean he's not guilty yet, but i really do worry about him and dont trust him, i dont think this is the kind of life i want to live with a man. i mean thats messed up if he's messing around with a teenager, freaking pervert. he said he didnt do anything, so why is this girl pressing charges?! i mean, its doesnt make any sense what do you guys think?!
2006-08-15 18:25:34 · 23 answers · asked by crysthy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to his story, weigh all the possible factors and trust whatever your instincts tell you to do. It depends on how old he is, how old the girl is and what her temperment is, what are the circumstances alleged and what might be the possible motivation for the person that charged him to possibly lie (you already know what his motivation to lie would be...losing you and avoiding prosecution).
There have been cases when scorned have made false claims against an accuser, not fully understanding the impact that it will have on the person they accuse or their own lives and just don't know how to back. There are also men they prey on young women and get caught... you are in a relationship with him and should know best how to assess the matter.
2006-08-15 18:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you even feel like you have to ask that question?? you're only asking in hopes that someone will tell you that maybe he's not really guilty and you should wait to see what the verdict is, but it's my personal opinion that you shouldn't want to be with anyone who is even accused of a sexual related crime, espically against a minor, but best of luck to ya and i hope you make the right decision
2006-08-16 01:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's convicted, that means he was found guilty already. If he's accused, then he's still waiting for trial. Honestly, if he did it or not, I don't know, but I'd run. Why even take the chance that it is true?
2006-08-16 01:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave. A relationship cannot exist without trust and as you have pointed out you don't trust him, so don't waste your time.
If he did molest someone, a minor no less, who says he may not do it again? Sure people can change, but do you really want to take that chance?
2006-08-16 01:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
silly rabbit. you dont need our help. you know must of us on yahoo answers will tell you to leave him but you sound as if you want somebody to tell you to stand by your man. you already said you dont trust him and they always say they didnt do anything wrong. perhaps you should ask dr phil for his advice
2006-08-16 01:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away!!!
RUN-AWAY!!
you do not want to be with a pervert, you don't need to.
why support him? little girls won't press charges unless this man has hurt her. if you believe differently, you are stupid, sorry. and what if you two have kids? is he going to go for that whole mess? if you don't know, you need to get away asap
2006-08-16 01:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by groverlovers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you said you don't trust him----there you have it!! Not the kind of life you want to live? I think you answered your own question. Run, don't walk!!!
2006-08-16 01:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION: You said this yourself: "I ... don't trust him", and "I don't think this is the kind of life I want to live ..."
but first ask yourself, since he maintains he's innocent, do you believe him? If you love him and you believe he's innocent, of course you support him.
but - your question itself suggests that you do not love him and you don't believe him. It's time to say "bye"
2006-08-16 01:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might be better off on your own. If you think that he did this. I mean, if you think that he's capable of something that terrible, you should leave him.
2006-08-16 01:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
run away.....fast!!......your in the right train of thought....you dont trust him, this isnt the life you want for yourself....could you imagine having children with this guy....always afraid to leave him alone with your own kids....jjjeeezzz.....just run!
2006-08-16 01:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋