she told me if i dyed it before a year was up she'd kick me out of the house. i called her up and she said i could and the next day she says she never gave me permission even though my friend was right next to me while i asked her.
she also hates how i style it. nothing will make her happy with it...all i say is its my hair its on my body....why does she get any say?
2006-08-15 18:18:25 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am 19..........
2006-08-15 18:25:23 · update #1
Tell her that you are doing your thing and not to get so uptight.
Tell her that it is very accepted and that it makes you feel more confident when you feel like you look your best.
Then,basically ignore her.It is after all YOUR hair.
2006-08-15 18:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by moebiusfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18, your mom pretty much owns you. She can't force you to style it someway you wouldn't like, but she can certainly keep you from styling it some outrageous way. Your mom is only trying to raise you to be a respectable citizen. Despite the old saying "never judge a book by its cover" appearances do say a lot about a person, and why ruin a great opportunity by going out w/ purple & orange hair in alternating spikes (for instance)?
It's your mom's house and she gets to have a say so in what kind of people are allowed inside, and if you look like trouble, then yes, she has the right to say, stay out.
If you're over 18 and wanting to change your hairstyle, then go for it. If mom kicks you out cuz you think you're an adult, then be an adult and get your own place and take care of your own rent and bills.
What would make your mom happy is for you to be the best person you can be. Don't be obstinate and defiant. Learn to compromise. Sit down w/ her and try to talk to her like an adult if you want her to view you as one. Good luck.
2006-08-16 01:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by L S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers- Raises kids till around the age of 18.
Over her roof. Her rules.
If she has friends and is overly consious about her surrondings then she might be mad in the fact her other "motherly" friends wouldn't approve of such acts like dyeing hair.
Most mothers take in the fact that once their child starts dyeing their hair soon it will be a lip ring, nose ring, tattoo, Drugs.
I know drugs, a bit overly dramatic but mothers think such things. Best way to go about it is have a calm collective talk with "mother" and stay calm with either answer she gives. If she still says "no" accept it and bring it up a little later and perhaps let her have a little decision on what color you want your hair to be.
Hope this helps.
James
2006-08-16 01:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by dark_blue_prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are the ultimate authority. The sooner you recognize that and live your life accoringly the better off you will be. Signed -- A Mom of teenagers.
2006-08-16 01:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by whirled_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get your point but technically shes still responsible for you until youre 18. so if youre under 18 she can tell you what to do. plus where are you gonna live when she kicks you outta the house for disobeying
2006-08-16 01:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to keep peace untill you can leave on your own then do what ever you want to untill then who pays the bills has the say.
2006-08-16 01:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by lcayote 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry about this, BUT...if she pays for your clothes, your food, your roof over your head, your medical, your dental, sorry babe, but I think she DOES have a say.
2006-08-16 01:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother said like that maybe she don't want you become like that . Mum always love child first.
Think first..........., before you do something.
2006-08-16 01:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Janice Tee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋