question about religion and marriage?

Question

i havent attended church in a while and i feel bad about that, but when i get married i want it to be in a church. there is a church that i always loved, but someone told me that you have to be a member of that church to get married in it. is that true? what are some things that catholics must do before getting married for the first time?

i am catholic. just havent attended church in a while.

hes not catholic though. hes lutheran

Answer 1

Firstly, congratulations and good luck to you in your marriage!

As to the topic of marriage between a Catholic and Lutheran: Because marriage is an estate which God has established for earthly blessing, not a sacrament designed to give spiritual blessings such as forgiveness of sins, a shared faith is not a part of the essence of marriage. A non-Lutheran could be married to a member of ours in a service in our church if both parties accepted the biblical principles of marriage (marriage is a life-long union, and so on.) Nevertheless, a shared faith is a great blessing to husband and wife, especially as they train their children together. Something will be missing from their life together if they do not share the same faith. If you and your partner are considering marriage, you should have a thorough talk about this matter. Going together to the kind of Bible class would be a valuable part of such a discussion.

You can't choose your faith to satisfy someone else. You need to choose this because you believe it is the right thing that God wants you to do and that in your church your faith will be strengthened. We hope that if you study what our church teaches and practices, you will understand why we have the practices we do and that you will want to join the church because you are convinced that it teaches what the Bible teaches.

I pray that God will bless your study and guide you in your decisions.

Answer 2

The first two answers you got are very accurate. Depending on whether you and/or your fiance are Roman Catholic, your requirements will be different, so go check with a priest. Sad to say that some dioceses have become more lax in their practice of Roman Catholicism, which the result is what is called American Catholicism, and so the requirements may not be the same depending on whether you are speaking with a true Roman Catholic priests or one of the new, lax, and therefore not truly Catholic, "American" Catholic ones. I do hope you can find a real Roman Catholic priest, and I pray you both the greatest success in your marriage. God Bless you.

Answer 3

You should note that the more hurdles there are to cross before making a committment before God and man the more you should question if you want to worship within mans rules or Gods rules.

Basically, stay away from the Catholic church, they are much more concerned about their own rules than they are about people and Gods will and way.

Any biblical doctrinally sound church would really suit your needs.
They will welcome you there with open arms and basically one rule, accept Jesus Christ into your heart and life, and if getting married, into the marriage.

Its not about the Church building, its about God and his will and way in our lives. If you are unwilling to accept Jesus Christ as your personal savior, there really is no need to be married in a Church building of any sort.

You say you feel bad about not attending church, Think about those feelings and decide why you feel bad.
Is is just because you are getting married, and feel fear that you might not be able to use a church building? or a genuine regret that you are living outside and away from God?
These answers from your own heart will lead you to what you will need to do.

May God bless and keep you.

Answer 4

When you threw in Catholic it changed all of the answers. Are you catholic (both) and wanting a Catholic wedding???
If you are talking about a protestant church or a Catholic church they both have different rules, or if one is catholic and the other not.. you need to add some details to the question..

Answer 5

First of all, contact the church where you'd like to be married and talk with the clergyman/woman about what's required.

Then talk with a Roman Catholic priest at your local RC church to find out what kinds of rules and regulations the RC church has about marriage.

Answer 6

I think if you are a Catholic (although you haven't attended church in a while), you can marry in any Catholic Church. Even if you are not a Catholic, you can still marry in the Church. I know one couple who did that.

Answer 7

Catholics have to meet with the priest and and discuss the important aspects of Catholicism. Father will talk to you to find out how ready you are for marriage, and you may have to take a compatibility test. He will also talk to you about the ceremony itself, but what really stood out in my mind was when Father said it's not the ceremony that's important, it's how you get along afterwords.

Answer 8

Speak to the priest. You must be confirmed. If you're not,then you will have to attend classes. If you're not of the Catholic faith,then you need to attend classes for that too.

Answer 9

I believe you have to be only a Caltholic to get an "off day" wedding by appointment and "paying" for it.

If you want a service with Liturgy and Mass you probably DO have to be a member of that church.

Both bride and groom have to be Cathlic, if I'm not mistaken, but only one or the family of one has to be a member.

You generally pick a Priest and the Priest gets together with you on several days and expalins everything.

Answer 10

the minister will want to talk to each one of you before he marries you if you have ever been married before which you didnt mention and know why you got divorced if you just divorced for no reason he wont marry you this is very bibical on the ministers part . read the link below i am postion . www. marrage. com www. fonacation. com mant ministers wont partake on mamy things as i tryped you the web site. my opion?