Why do i care so much about the only guy i've ever been in love with and dated at one time but things went wrong and i went out several other guys but the subsequent ones were an effort to get over him! he now "thinks i'm a good person" and "likes me as a friend" and "we cant look back on what might have been." How do i get over him?? I'm tired of crying over him.
2006-08-15 17:40:52 · 11 answers · asked by ♥love2havefun♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sort of understand what you are going through, me and my ex broke up very recently and just wants to be friends with me. Its very hard to just be friends with someone who you still have strong feelings for and that you care about. I reliazed though that no matter how much i cry and remember the times we spent together, i know that we wont ever be able to be together agian,and somehow knowing that makes me remember that i Must move on with my life, it doesnt mean move along to the next guy that comes, but take some time alone, do nice things for yourself, go out with friends, just try to stay out of the dating scene until you know you are ready again for a commitment. Ppl might say just get over him and forget about it, but its not as easy as it sounds, right now im distancing myself from my ex because im to upset and confused to talk to him normally,and i cant just be friends with him right away and act like we never had anything..Maybe you should talk to the guy u were with and tell him you need some time to yourself, its like everytime you talk to the person you feel like you are falling for them once agian, maybe spacing yourself might be the first step....
2006-08-15 17:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no big thing you can do, it just takes time. Going out with other guys hardly ever helps, at least not right away. Give yourself some time ALONE to reflect and think about what happened. The "things that went wrong" may be things you want to work about and handle differently with the next guy. Everyone has things to learn about relationships. As for feeling bad, after a little while, you'll realize that every day feels a little better until you feel back to normal. You might even feel better than you did before, if you take your time and don't dive into some rebound relationship. The pain sucks, but you can turn it into things you need to know for the future. Good luck. You'll be fine.
2006-08-15 17:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and the best advice I can give is to try to stay away from him for a couple of months until you heal. One of the reasons you are still hooked on him is because you still keep in touch with him.
I think is great that you guys are friens. However, you haven't given yourself time to heal. Therefore, you can still keep in touch with hims but do it at a very long distance.
Try to make new friends this way you don't necessarily have to hang out witht he same folks that know you and your ex. Couples who share the same friends tend to have a harder time to heal. Therefore, start making new friends.
Trust me it's not easy but it worked for me. I was also in a almost 6 year relationship and when it ended it was devastating. However, after 1 year of hanging out with folks that reminded me of him I began making my own group of friends and it helped a great deal.
Just a quick reminder: First love is the hardest to get over but as time goes by and your heart will heal but the memories will always fill you with joy and not sadness.
2006-08-15 17:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? go forward be friends enjoy life.you know the old saying,you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. the darkest hour before dawn,wipe those tears and live go to school. when i was where you are,i went dancing,cw ballroom had a great time. you haven't lost him, hes your friend and that means a lot.most guys dump women leaving them with a looser type of feeling
2006-08-15 18:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by m.w.meredith@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U still care cuz u still love him! But just give it a while. If things didnt go right between u guys, then trust me, ull find someone wayyyyyy better. U lose something, u gain something better.
2006-08-15 17:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easiest way is to tell him how you feel, and he doesnt like you back more than a friend. then at least you know that he doesnt like you, but if he still loves you after u guys didnt date and u kept on dating other ppl that might hurt his feelings a bit :(.. and maybe he doenst want to get hurt again..
2006-08-21 16:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like me 20 years ago,i would not let go went though 3 more failed relationships then finally got with the man i loved so much all my life and its been hell ever since,find away
2006-08-15 17:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by bridget b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WILL ALWAY CARE FOR SOMEONE THAT YOU LOVE,'THAT NORMAL. BUT YOU NEED TO GO OUT THERE
AND FIND SOMEONE, GO OUT WITH FRIENDS, HAVE
FUN, START LIVING AGAIN, YOU WILL SEE THAT LIFE
GO ON, YOU JUST NEED A JUMP START, GO FOR IT
GIRFRIIEND, DONT LOOK AT THE PAST LOOK TO THE PRESENT, AND THE FUTURE.
2006-08-15 17:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Migrate. Sure cure.
2006-08-20 21:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-16 16:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋