At about the time the baby was conceived, we had a few problems and separated for about a week. We still slept together, but I also slept with someone else. A friend told me the only way to rule out my husband as the father, without him knowing, was to do what was a common practice in the 70s and early 80s. That was to let my doctor obtain a blood sample. Then test that sample against the babys once it is born. If there is no known genetic disease in either family, that would be the only reason for the father to give a blood sample. But he doesnt know that. Again, I love him. I made a mistake. For all I know so did he. I just want to know from someone who knows, if it would work. I dont care about DNA testing. That would be way too obvious. Thank you.
2006-08-15 17:27:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Probably wont be a popular answer but here is mine
if you love your husband, he loves you, you both areexcited about the baby and there is no possibility of the baby being way off racially from what the 2 of you would produce, I woul seriosly suggest you shut your mouth and never bring up the possibility it isn't his baby ever again, to him or anyone
If you plan to stay with him and not tell him, what possible good would it do you to find out there is a good chance he ISN'T the father?
decide for yourself its his, assume you both made mistakes, carry your own guilt and dont burden an innocent kid with it
2006-08-15 18:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I should have been more clear- I suggested using genetic prescreening as a possible way to get the blood sample without him suspecting.
Our family has no history of genetic defects either yet my OB chose to have me test since I experienced issues with my third child and was on birth control when I conceived. The test was in conjunction with a songram to look for physical defects as well.
Again I'm not sure an OB would consent to holding the fathers sample for later DNA testing but you may find a sympathetic one if you are lucky.
There is no other reason a man would get blood work during a woman's pregnancy unless an STD was suspected.
2006-08-16 00:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before DNA testing thats the only way they had to check for paternity and identity. However, it is not nearly as accurate. How about asking the other guy to test without saying anything to your husband. Just tell the guy what happened and say I need to know if you could be the father without having to tell my husband I cheated on him. He was just as wrong sleeping with a married women as you were a married women sleeping around. Not saying anyting against you, we all make mistakes, I'm just saying this guy owes it to you to go and get himself tested, and if he is not the father, then you know it's your husbands and you can go on your merry way and never have to say a word. On the other hand if he is the father, your kinda screwed. If that don't work, I wonder if they could do a DNA without his consent. As in getting some hairs from your husbands brush or something. If none of that is an option, then definitely go with the blood work thing to see if it works, but a DNA would be a "for sure" result. Good luck hun, and don't open your mouth unless you HAVE too!!!
2006-08-16 00:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a blood group is a good discrete way of discovering if your husband is not the biological father of this foetus.
However, it is not a certainty.
For instance, if they are both of the same blood group you probably will not be able to tell.
You may well be able to find out your husband's blood group and possibly that of the other fellow.
2006-08-16 00:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The odds are the other guy is the father.
There is a big evo-biology explanation for it, but the snap answer is you wanted (on some level) better genetic material and went out and got it. This is most likely to be true if the other guy is more 'alpha' than your husband.
2006-08-16 00:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by sheeple_rancher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this happened to a friend of mine. the answer is no only dna will tell who the father is. i hope everything works out . everyone makes mistakes. :)
2006-08-16 00:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by sherrie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all RELAX who are you to get upset over your stupid question......Shut the hell up and be honest with the potential "fathers" and be a real woman for a change....If you are hiding things now what kind of example does that set for your child coming into this world.
Good Lord is right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-16 00:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Thewraith98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love him, you would have already told him. If you truely love him you will tell him now. By not telling him only shows you don't love him as much as you claim you do. A real loving relationship involves honesty. Try to do the RIGHT thing this time and be honest with him.
2006-08-16 00:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by £i£-ßrAt 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋