IS there something seriously wrong with me?

Question

Lately I haven't really been acting myself. I get irritated alot, especially with my family (mom, dad, siblings) and with my friends. My appetitie has dropped dramatically, I'll eat about 1 meal a day and be full, when I used to eat about 3 times a day. The thought of me being very full makes me sick to my stomach, so I don't really eat until I am full. I also use to suffer with low self esteem as a child and during HS. I was always, always made fun of and sometimes it doesnt go away. I thought I could boost my self esteem by being involved with "popular/cute" guys, but that only made it worse, and made me felt used. I had a really bad break up with my ex about 2 years ago, and I am still not completely over that. Sometimes I feel like I'm not pretty enough for a guy to ever want to be in a relationship with me.I don't know what is going on with me...any suggestions...advice. Maybe I just need counseling or something.

Just to add...I am 21/in college...on top of the stress that goes along with that...me and my mother have no relationship whatsoever, and she really knows how to upset me. Me and my dad are ok, but he is just so stiff, I feel I can't really talk to him like I would like to.

Answer 1

Yeah, counselling sounds like a good idea.....

Answer 2

Well some of these "symptoms" per se are symptoms of Clinical Depression. I don't want to jump conclusions but its always a good thing to seek counseling when you believe it might be needed. The worst that can come from counseling is finding out what is truly bothering you and what you should or shouldn't do. Also I'd say as a teenager hormones directly connect to issues like these. As a teenager myself I have dealt with some of the things you are talking about, and I guess I could see it as being just hormones but as always it is best to make sure you check your health foremost and just spontaneous hormones later. All in all, trust a good physician and talk to your parents, that has always helped me. Good luck, and hope all is better!

Answer 3

Why not seek therapy? That might be a good idea at this point in your life. It sounds like you are a bit stressed out, although you might not know exacly why. Try to take care of yourself as best you can - get plenty of sleep, try to eat healthy, and definitely get some excercise (even if it's just going for a walk). You should take some time out to care for yourself before considering a new serious relationship with someone. Love usually comes when you least expect it anyway! I'm serious about the exercise thing - it really helps to move your body forward and it gives you time to think. Try and relax.

Answer 4

Go to a doctor and have him check you for anemia. I ended up anemic when I was younger and I stopped getting hungry, after a few months I was so bad that I'd eat a couple times a week and just couldn't bring myself to eat any more, I was stuffed. Got on some iron pills and brought my appetite back. Not getting enough vitamins and minerals is enough to explain why you get irritated a lot. Go to an MD and get checked before going to counseling, it may save a lot of money in the long run.

Answer 5

We are all worthwhile in this life. You should always remember that. You need to take care of number 1. That's you. Counseling could'nt hurt. But do whatever you need to do. It sounds like you have no joy in your life and you need to find it. Helping others or volunteer work can do lots for the soul. Who knows? maybe you will even find the right guy for you. You have to do alot of soul searching in what you want from this life. Then set goals for yourself. Set goals within goals. When you achieve them set more. Next thing you know, your on a role. But one thing is true and I speak from experience. No one person can make you feel good enough, or pretty enough, or popular enough. It's an inside job that has to come from within you. And it's the pure and simple love for yourself. Good luck!

Answer 6

You sound depressed, you should get some counseling.Just talking to somebody could help or maybe you could get put on some medication to make you feel better for the time being. Either way, don't worry about guys and relationships. I've been there and done that, it will come to you, the waiting is what sucks. Good Luck

Answer 7

Your depressed. Depression makes you magnify the smallest problem into something as large as the planet. Take a deep breather. Have one good day. And do it again.

Stop holding things in. If someone is aggrevating you talk it over or calmly ask that they give you soem alone time to get over a few things. You have to work from the ground up on all your problems. They are small. Eliminating all the small problems and stressful situations make one largely accoplished solution.

Answer 8

Funny you ask this, I was having some of these same feelings, as well as some other things going on, went to the doc and ended up getting blood work done and it turns out that I have a hormonal imbalance and will probably have to take something to fix it. Not saying this is what's going on with you, but maybe you should just speak to your doc, or a nurse, and just see what they say. I wish you the best of luck hun.

Answer 9

It sounds like a depression issue due to low self-esteem. You should probably see a therapist for your low self-esteem. You need the attitude that you are good enough for anyone and that some might not be good enough for you! I hope you get over this and see the brighter side of life. Life is a ride that you need to enjoy and experience.... :)

Answer 10

Take a deep breath!...now think with the head and stop thinking with your heart and feelings. You seem to be a nice intelligent girl...Maybe what you are feeling now is depresion...counseling can be a good option...but the one that is going to make a change in your life is just YOU!...it works when you repeat to yourself that you are worthy and you are beautiful...we are surrounded by a magical aura...if you feel good with yourself you will atract people almost inmediately...so even if you don't think you are pretty...repeat inside of you that you are...start with small things and at the end you will conquer your depression :) You can do it girl ... i know what you are going through! :) Take good care and God Bless..

Answer 11

sounds like you are going through general depression/anxiety. It effects a ton of people. I suffer from it. I would see a doctor and maybe consider medication. It has helped me tremendously. You'll realize it's really not that big of a deal. Try being more confident in yourself, be self assured and don't take any crap from anybody. If your parents are bugging you tell them how you feel, i'm sure they are more than willing to help out.