i need someones help.......please?

Question

i have gotten raped today and i have been crying all day and i want to tell my parents but i do not know how.....someone please help

Answer 1

I'm so sorry. I admire your bravery to even tell this forum about something so horrific. But your parents love you, i'm sure they do. and if your can tell alllllllll of us, I'm sure you can tell them. I understand that parents (especially mine) can focus on the wrong factors sometimes. you may be wanting support and comfort, and they may start questioning why and how you got yourself into the situation. right? i know how that feels. but all in all, your parents love you. and you have to make a heartfelt plea to them that you need their support and guidance, not condemnation.

after that, please go to the police. save the clothes. if you have not taken a shower, please wait until after you have been examined. if you have taken a shower, still try and get examined before you do anything else. keep the clothes in a plastic bag to protect any evidence. preserve any and everything that proves that you were with the guy (phone logs, voicemails, text messages, movie stubs, anything!).

if you have any physical injuries or bruises, take a photo of them ASAP. if bruises appear later (as they often do), take the photos at that time. always document 1) who took the picture, 2) date and time.

and most importantly, while the event is still fresh in your mind, write down a VERY DETAILED account of what happened. any place your were, anyone who saw you, any possible witnesses, anyone who may have heard you, any places where you are currently bruised, document everything. this is very helpful for when someone prosecutes that bastard.

i know it sounds stressful. and i promise i do not intend to stress you out...that's why so many women don't even report these things. but all the things i said above is how you get through it easier. preservation of evidence. a sound statement. but even if it's your word against his, trust me, you can get him! (and i am not just rambling, guess what i do for a living? :)

tell your parents, i beg you. pray about it, then go knock on their door.

i'll be praying for you, too :) God bless you. please contact me if you have any questions! [e-mail]

Answer 2

Please ... if you don't tell your parents, at least go to the emergency room and tell them you were raped and get an exam ASAP. They will help tell your parents. EVEN if you don't know the person that raped you.

I hope you are telling the truth and not just trying to get attention.

But rape is a terrible thing and I have been there, when I was 14. You need to tell someone and get help. My prays are with you and wish the best of luck.

Answer 3

You need to tell them ASAP. If you havent already showered they can get DNA evidence at the hospital if you have they still may be able to but in any case they will be able to verify the rape and gather evidence. It is important that you report this and get help. Rape is a violent crime that an adult woman has trouble dealing with let alone a minor . He needs to be stoped and punished. I was raped at 14 , I did what you are doing now. In addition I blamed myself for being where I shouldn't have been at a time I shouldn't have been , I was ashamed and embarrassed and it was my first time. I wish I had done what I am telling you to do. The truth is you deal with it now the right way OR you deal with it in your mind every day for the rest of your life and in every relationship you try to have for the rest of your life. Don't let him continue to hurt you that way. Get help now and deal with it now. You will be glad you did when it is over.

Answer 4

Sweety--first thing I'm so sorry for you--I know things look horrible right now, but you have to tell your parents IMMEDIATELY. If you haven't already taken a shower --DON'T take a shower and leave everything you were wearing on when it happened--ON. If you know the person who raped you---make sure you tell your parents and the police--even if you DON'T know who did it----tell your parents and the POlice immediately.

If you don't want to talk to your parents and would rather talk to a professional counselor, you can call this number:

1.800.656.HOPE The rape/Abuse and Incest National Network--- You're in my prayers

Answer 5

First, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. Second, you really NEED to tell your parents or another adult that you trust. They can get you psychological help, notify the police, and get you tested for STDs and pregnancy. If you choose not to press charges because you don't want the hassle, it should be up to you. I know you might be feeling ashamed and afraid right now, and your parents' reactions may not help with that, but you need to tell them. They're not going to be happy no matter what you do, but they shouldn't be angry at you. This was NOT your fault.

Answer 6

Please tell them, fast. I know two girls who waited at least two years to tell their parents, so they had to go through all that by themselves! This is when you need your parents most and they need to be there. Listen to the other people when they tell you not to shower, etc. Tell your parents and the cops.
I am sooo sorry!
Tell your parents to please keep their heads as you have something important to tell them and you need them. Maybe call the rape crisis line to get the best how to. Maybe have someone else there, too, like the cops or a councelor.

Answer 7

tell your parents that you need to go the emergency room. if you can't tell them more when you get that out, tell them you desparately need to go and you will try to tell them as you go. they will be freaked out but wanting to help.

if you haven't showered yet, i'm sorry to say it like that, they use a 'rape kit' to get a tremendous amount of evidence against the perp from you. hospitals call a rape crisis volunteer who can talk to you and your parents.

do you know your attacker? is that part of the problem with telling?

best wishes. you have a lot of healing to do and you must be strong to do this healing. you must speak up for yourself and what you need.

Answer 8

Tell your parents so they can help you. If you really can't, than go to an emergency room and get examined. They will help you and help you deal with your parents. Don't shower or bathe - you'll wash away evidence. I know it's hard, but you need to take care of yourself and let your parents help you. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Call the police and get the bas^^^d behind bars. It's hard, but you should tell your parents... just sit down with them and tell them what happened. Get to a hospital to get tested and checked out!


Stay strong!

Answer 10

My heart goes out to you hon. Stay brave and strong and take care of yourself first off. Get to the ER, get the police involved, and consult in your parents. ASAP. They're #1 concern will be FOR YOU! It doesn't matter who raped you honey, you need to make sure you're okay. Talk to your parents and please go get the assistance you need. Don't feel ashamed...you need to take care of yourself and give your parents the opportunity to be here for you during this trying time. Chin up gal. Go take care of yourself now!!