I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. We’ve known each other forever, and have gone through many ups and downs together, including long distance and family crises. Now with both of us working, he is spending a lot of our special time (Fri/weekends/public holidays) with friends drinking, travelling and chalets. I’m usually quite open to him meeting friends, but the meet-ups are always organised by him, always happens during our unspoken special, and will go ahead even when I fall sick and would like him to be with me. At the same time, we’re starting to move in really different circles because I’ve started becoming more involved in my interests and making new friends through newfound interests. We haven’t been having proper conversations for 2 weeks now, and I keep on feeling that this relationship is going to end. Yet at the same time, he’s like family to me and somehow he’ll always be so special, because 7 years is a long time and even as friends there’ll always be so many memories. There is also this curiosity of what happens if I am single again – I’ve been in a relationship since I was 19! I wonder how it would feel to be out of such a commitment and be able to see relationships with a new adult eye. Am I just using the meet-up with friends as excuses to end the relationship, or is it really the end of it all.
2006-08-15 16:51:54 · 7 answers · asked by Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are just asking for the sake of asking. you know that he is history. seven years is a long time. Doing the math 19 + 7 = 26. Wow! you are Old...Girls at your age...opps sorry in your case it should be women at are either married or are still single enjoying themselves (they have a many boy friends, not that they have to sleep around, but just being friends to keep their options open and to discover more about herself).
But you have stucked yourself with a mule that won't even commit for wow... 7 years.
There is no way for you to break off with him and start dating again, unless you like old men.
Good luck.
2006-08-18 18:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by J L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1stly i wld like to say that 7 years is an extraordinary figure, not many ppl wld be able to accomplish that n remain in theirs for that long a period, then its abt time for u both to sit dwn n have a decent conversation abt yr current relationship, keeping mum abt it n suffering in silence aint gonna help, it'll juz drag u both down further into the abyss.
u highlighted that he is like family to u, been thru thick n thin, better or worse, so u are gonna juz end it so? family is a strong word, not many ppl can really tag theirs as so, pls do consider properly beofre u wanna end yr relationship, my advise is to tell yr guy abt him n his doings, open up n be clear abt it, really dun wanna see another relationship come to an end...
2006-08-16 01:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by larrysbt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man this is a long question. answer will be short. get of and enjoy the best time of your life. just dont fall for the first guy.
2006-08-15 23:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes maybe you don't love enough thinking that you are considering thoughts of ending your realtionship with him and be able to see relationship with a new adult eye....i think you just like to explore more of yourself and you can do it once out of your commitment....
2006-08-16 00:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to evaluate your heart. what you feel, not what you think. your thinking seems to be intact. act on what you feel. sounds as though you need a support system for people whose lives have been affected by someone else drinking!! try email :)
2006-08-16 00:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase. You'll get over it if it's true love. If not, you'll be looking for a new boy toy soon.
2006-08-15 23:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Totoru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You don't need a reason.
2006-08-15 23:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋