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I have a really great boyfriend but he is sexually selfish and only thinks about his needs and wants. I have to beg for oral sex. I even went on strike refusing to have sex until he fulfilled my request. So last night I couldn't take it anymore. I needed to have sex after a month of being on strike.
Just as we started to get into it he tries to cut to the chase and start with the intercourse without ANY foreplay at all...again. I tried to show him by example and performed oral sex on him for a considerable amount of time and then I got like 2 minutes in return.
I have tried talking to him about it. That it makes me feel like he doesn't care about me sexually and that something is wrong with me down there. I am clean and don't smell. If I did I wouldn't let him go there even if he wanted to. But he acts like a kid that is being forced to eat his broccoli or something.
This has never been an issue with anyone else I've been with.
Serious advice only please.

2006-08-15 16:41:03 · 21 answers · asked by soinneed2006 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

21 answers

you need to sit down with him again, when your not both in the mood to have sex at that moment. Explain to him that it bothers you, and ask him why he doesnt like it. Try to find things you both like as far as foreplay.

Best wishes

2006-08-15 17:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If the guy doesn't respect you, I think you should make a decision, like to break it off. If he doesn't respect you or he thinks only of his own desires, maybe you are a booty call to him or something. Do you truly love him? Does he truly love you? If he truly loves you, don't you think he would listen to you, or even try to fix the issue? Listen up. If he doesn't respect you or your wishes, then is he respecting you otherwise? You can find plenty of other men that can be in a relationship with you, who also respect you. So I say, Try talking to him again, and go on for about another week or so. If the issue keeps occuring, then maybe it isn't just an issue, maybe it's flaw, or a habit. After that, if it just isn't working still.......break it off and get a respectful, and pleasurable man.

2006-08-15 23:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by MeNGarrett4Ever 1 · 0 0

The issue is he many not like to go down on you *or anyone, and you should respect that from him. Not all men like to do this and we should not assume they do. What other otpions have you given him in regards to foreplay that does not inlcude that?
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ps -everyone is saying tell him he has to...blah blah.. for once I want a women to realzie that men have boundries to and we should respect that. Think of something you hate doing, and imagine him telling you do it or leave! Good lord give the guy some slack.

2006-08-15 23:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0 0

I'm sure it has nothing to do with you personally. I had a relationship with a man and had two children by him and he never once went "there". It was frustrating and I didn't understand why. We've been apart for 7 years and just last year he explained to me out of the blue why he has such trouble with it. I finally realized that it wasn't me at all. Your boyfriend might not know exactly why he doesn't want to do it but, there is a reason and he might not figure it out himself for years to come. I hope all works out well for you both. God bless you!

2006-08-15 23:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to seriously talk to him and tell him how important this is for you. Tell it feels just as good for you as it does for him. If that doesn't work, tell him you're seriously considering ending the relationship because you feel your needs are not met. See what he has to say then. I've never had this problem, i don't know what I'd do if I ever did. I know I'm giving you advice here now, but who knows if I'd be able to take my own advice, you know what I mean.? good luck to you ..

2006-08-15 23:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I had the same problem with my boyfriend...I threatened to break up with him because he wouldn't return the favor. So he finally tried it and he saw how pleased I was with his oral performance...now he asks to do me favors! Let your boyfriend know that it's not all about him...he'll get more pleasure once you're pleased! Good Luck!

2006-08-15 23:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by appleOFyourEYE 1 · 0 0

Some guys are just selfish and just think of there own needs. Why stay with someone like that? If he can't please you then don't please him. Those type of guys just want to be satisfy but don't think of there woman. That would be a big turn off for me. When your intimate with each other is should go both ways or it will never workout. He is all for himself. If I were you I would move on. Forget that loser.

2006-08-15 23:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0 0

SERIOUSLY, HAVE YOU EVEN THOUGHT THAT MAYBE HE JUST DOESN'T LIKE TO DO THAT. I KNOW THAT YOU WANT HIM TO PLEASE YOU, BUT JUST BECAUSE YOU DO IT TO HIM, DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE ENJOYS DOING THAT. DON'T GET ME WRONG, BUT YYOU REALLY REALLY CANNOT FORCE HIM TO DO THAT. SOUNDS HARSH BUT THINK ABOUT IT FOR A SECOND. PUT YOURSELF IN HIS PLACE. IF HE DOESN'T DO IT ON INSTINCT, AND THEN WHEN HE DOES DO IT, IT IS JUST FOR A MINUTE OR 2, THEN HE PROBABLY THINKS HE IS DOING YOU A FAVOR. HAVE YOU EVER ASKED HIM WHY HE DOESN'T LIKE TO DO THAT? WELL, I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY, MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE NOT MAKING THAT A TOP PRIORITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, BECAUSE HE MAY START LOOKING AT YOU AS BEING SHALLOW AND ONE SIDED AND YOU DON'T WANT THAT TO HAPPEN

2006-08-15 23:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Knuckles06 2 · 0 0

sounds like he is selfish. most guys enjoy it. Maybe he thinks he is not performing it correctly, ask him!

You "cannot drive the car without starting the engine".

Good Luck.

2006-08-15 23:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Some guys just really don't like giving oral sex.
Some guys just really need to be dumped by you right now.

2006-08-15 23:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0 0

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