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I dated this guy for a year and broke it off with him twice, once was becuase i was still dealing with an ex and just recently i did becuase he is in another country finishing his school and i feel liek when he comes back we are goign to be different people, he will be back in november and will still want to be with me, he sends me emails telling me how much he loves me and wants to have a family one day. hes a great and honest guy and i knwo there hard to come by, should i get back with him when he comes home for those reasons or does it sound like were not meant to be together? please help me i have 4 months left before i have to make a desicion, i dont want to lose a great guy but i dont want to stay with him for reasons other than love becuase i dont think i love him but i can see me have a family with him. make sence?

2006-08-15 16:34:50 · 15 answers · asked by beauty talks 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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that's a difficult one. Now I am not going to be like some other girls and call you an idiot or whatever because you are not. I know EXACTLY how you feel. But what I did..I stayed with the man that that happened to me. I did it because of what I thought was right and what I felt in my heart. Now my gosh!!! SOO many people say "listen to your heart" but trust me it isnt all that easy! Not many girls can and if you CAN listen to your heart then it really is a blessing! If you heart says leave him..then do it..just not when he gets right back. Do it a few weeks after he gets back you know? And while you break up with him...explain why!!! Almost every girl who breaks up with a guy barely ever says why! But anyway if you stay with him..then TRY YOUR HARDEST to make it work! You might be able to just work things out. And you never know...what if he comes back and isn't a different man?? And you really have to think though...do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Or break up with him now and get it over with?

2006-08-15 16:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well I dont think just loving someone is a good enough reason to stay with someone. Now being in love is somethingg different. But If you dont have any feelins besides knowing that you will be takin care of then dont waste either of your times. Allow him to find someone who is in love with him and want to share everything and the same for you.Love is hard to come by but when you do you will know it. Good luck on your choice.

2006-08-15 23:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by poohbeark19 3 · 0 0

are you in love with him? thats the true answer. the reasons you broke up with him are not that good. no offense. but your right, they are very hard to come by. i know. so if you are in love with him. go for it. in a relationship, you need to put your self out there and be vunerable. talk to him about stuff like that. say well i'm dealing with an ex right now or i'm worried about you going off to another country b.c... ect. the point being. if you love him. truely love him. or if you think theres a future for you two. then go for it. they are very hard to come by. but at the same token, if you don't see a future with him. do not lead him on and waste your time and his.

2006-08-15 23:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you should never stay with someone u have to say i think i love him and the reason for u having a family with him is becasue of how he treats u...kids are a gift dont just have them becasue he will treat u right u have to be in love with him really in love and if u feel u arent than that should be a sign for u ...when u have found real true love u never question it ...it will always be the right answer for all of ur concerns but never question it..stay strong and have faith

2006-08-15 23:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by tawnya3kids 1 · 0 0

You should only be with someone if you love him,but since youve already broke up with him, date around and if your not with someone when he comes back then give him another chance and try to figure out whether or not you do love him but you need to talk to him about it and keep a connection with him while he is gone

2006-08-15 23:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Terry C 2 · 0 0

yes he is safe and he give you a sense of security. But if you don't love him this man deserved someone who does. It seems to me that your holding back, what is it? Why can't you love a guy that seem so right? Scared? If you really don't love him and your not holding back don't hold on to him...there is another women out there that can use a great man.

2006-08-15 23:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0 0

dont string him along you dont really want him what you really want is to explore and when you are done doing that have him there as the fall back to settle down with and thats not fair give him the chance to find someone who really loves him who isnt gonna change their mind every three months or so down the line.

2006-08-15 23:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

its something you both must decide from the heart. long distance relationships rarely work out. if there are any doubts at all, then is it fair to the both of you to lead it on. just be the best of friends and who knows what could happen in the future.

2006-08-15 23:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0 0

There is nothing in your statemtent that makes me think he is the one for you. Read it to yourself and you will answer your own question. Stop worrying about running out of time, the right man will come in its own due time....relax and never pick just to pick

2006-08-15 23:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0 0

It edpends on what you truly feel.
This is probably not a question for this particular site?
It's a question you need to ask yourself.
Where do I see myself in 10 years?
Is this guy in my visions?
Or is he nowhere to be found?

2006-08-15 23:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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