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MY STORY:
Last year, I met my gf. At 1st, she loved me A LOT! I love her also but not as much as she did. Later, our relationship died down. Our role switched. I became the one who love and miss her more. And I started asking all those stupid questions 'why this' and 'why that'.
On this March, we almost broke up but I managed to safe it. Once awhile she still wanted to break up. Things dragging for couple months until now. She broke up with me 3 weeks ago(I can feel this time is the REAL one). At first, I tried to be cool even not seeing her . She still sent me a box of food I like to eat to my house. I think she wants to hint keeping me as her friend. Atm, If I send a mini-gift back to her. Things will be all rite. And I will end the relationship nicely. At least, we will still be friends. BUT ....

2006-08-15 16:16:51 · 27 answers · asked by City hunter 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

One day was my dayoff and I went knock on her door. She didn't open door. So, I sent her txt msg and she replied me at last saying' I will not like to receive any of ur call/msg again." I have annoyed her and became a stalker in her eyes. HOW CAN I FIX THIS?

This coming Saturaday will be 1 year anniversary of knowing her for Exact 1 Year. Should I do something or just let it be?
My friends all told me not to do anything and wait for her to call me. But Shoul I do something> Maybe an email?

2006-08-15 16:18:47 · update #1

**P.S: That day I knocked on her door. I have been waiting outside for her for 5 hours. She knows I was waiting outside. But didn't open door and didn't want to see me. So, I at least left a snack she likes at her door and walked away. I think I scared her.
***I just want to end it nicely. At least, be a friend. Possible?

2006-08-15 16:21:49 · update #2

*******
Let say If I send her a card. Is it ok if I write something like this.

" Thank you for not calling the cops on that day. Can we still be friends? Think about it. Take your time and let me know later -yours XXXXX"
*********

2006-08-15 16:41:08 · update #3

27 answers

Let this chick go.. if its meant to be she'll come back. If you smother her more she'll move further away or push you further away.

Don't worry about calling her or doing anything special for the anniversary thing..

Personally I think she is disinterested b/c youre no longer a hunt.. you have gone into opposite roles, which is no longer fun for her.. now shes moving on to other exciting things/hunting men..

DO NOT call/text/ask about her. Let her chase you. The moment you stop being smothering and stop calling etc she'll be like what the hell.. why isnt he calling and she'll realize what shes lost or almost lost.. if you end up back together keep your distance and make her chase you.This has worked for me in the past.

2006-08-15 16:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm sorry. She's done with you. Desperation isn't attractive in men or women. You've smothered her, and the attraction is lost. It's pretty impossible to make yourself appear to be a confident, independent, strong person again. "The one who loves the least has the most power." She's got the power. She does not have the feelings. Mourn the relationship (it's hard...a daily thing), and move on, and never pursue anyone with that much fervor again. She doesn't want you as a friend. She won't open the door of her place (that is very scary for me to think that someone would sit and wait outside MY door for even one hour, nevermind five), and she has closed the door on ANY kind of relationship or connection with you for good.
Absolutely no to the card. Don't contact her at all. She may just throw it out or rip it up anyhow. Leave her alone.

2006-08-15 16:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

oh my god my friend i hate to answer this question because i will be no help at all, the same thing has happened to me almost identical and i have no clue what i should do. if i were you i would go for it if you have the balls i know i would not but only cause i'm a fraidy cat and i will always wonder what if that is the worst. if you are man enough call her and tell her you want to be friends or whatever you wnat just call her

another reason i think you should call her is because she is most likely is just undecided at this point

2006-08-15 16:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by raul b 2 · 1 0

I'm really sorry to here this. Well this is my opinion, I have never had a bf b4, but here I go.... I think that if you truly want to be just friends with her again, to call her up on Saturday and just talk to her. Dont force anything on her. But just talk and ask her how she feels and respect her wishes. May be she'll be willing to be friends, and may be she just wants to move on. And speak your mind too and tell her how you feel, about her and about your relationship. I do think that you should try to give her a call, and if not, try an email and ask her if she wants to talk, but you really should talk to work things out! I wish you the best!!!!!!!!

2006-08-15 16:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 1 0

I know how it hurts man. I have been there and nothing I can say is going to make it better. Just remember that you are an intelligent, desireable and worthwile human being. You will get through this and there will come a time when a cute young thing will cross your path and will want squeeze a ring out of you. Till then, all you can do is maintain your dignity and let time heal your wounds. Best of luck to you.

2006-08-15 16:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by sunefang 1 · 1 0

sounds like she got tired of you not feeling the same way she did and when you finally did she was ready to move on sometimes being friends with an ex arent possible and thats okay she doesnt seem like she meant to hurt you but i think she wants to move forward and since she made the decision for you not to call her again that you should let her come to you dont send her anything or call and if she dont come around thats okay you can move on and find someone new hopefully this time around you wont be resistant with your true feelings good luck keep your head up it will be okay.go out with the guys mingle it will take your mind off the situation for a while

2006-08-15 16:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

remember one thing - friends can be lovers but lovers cannot become friends. never ever again. so the best idea is to give her some time and see what she wants. it takes girls a while to cool their minds and forgive something. they think everything from a very different point of view. give her some time. if she comes back ---- kool otherwise its just not possible.
moreover why do you want to get disrespected just to make her your friend. dont you think you are giving yourself an excuse may be to do something you want. you would have stopped even thhinking about it by now - if it was just to make friends.
think about it.

2006-08-15 16:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by i don know y 3 · 1 0

I'm sorry, dude...but she did say she didn't want to talk to you, any more...and if you continue, yes; you'll be considered a stalker. but, the good news is, now you've blown off that one, and you can go on to something new and exciting! there's just too many people out there waiting to be loved, and wanting so much to be loved in return...as I always tell everyone, WHY? waste your time on someone who doesn't return the feelings! Move on!

2006-08-15 16:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie 3 · 1 0

No you shouldn't after she called you a stalker. Wait it seems she likes you but is playing some type of head game. It is still better to wait also because she may be serious about the stalker stuff and said it because she needs to be alone for a while.

2006-08-15 16:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 1 0

Me and my bf of 2 years went through the same thing. It was awesome at first, he told me he loves me first, i didnt say it back to him. Later, i was inlove with him, but fought almost every day for the last six months. I was saying that we should break up, every time we fought. He would calm me down and everything would be fine. Well, few days ago, after one more fight he decided to we should break up. He got me ofguard. This break up devasted me. So, i did call him and everything. For one day he ignored me. Well, eventuall he picked up. We talked, and decided to go on another first date. Not sure what will be next, but i dont think our relationship will ever be the same. I know it is hard, it is hard for me too. I would let her be for a while and see what happens. If you really love her, send her a message or leave a voice mail saying that. If she loves you back she will respond, and you guys will have another chance, for good or for bad who knows. Good luck.

2006-08-15 16:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by sandy02 2 · 1 0

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