If you plan to meet someone you met online..what is the best way to plan a meeting?

Question

I'm an adult..over 25..and I didn't meet him on MySpace.

Answer 1

Pick a public place where you are known. Your favorite wine bar or Starbucks will do. If you aren't know there, have a friend sit in the far corner and keep an eye on you.

Don't go anywhere alone with the guy until you are sure that you know a good bit about him and have verified it. For example, if you have his name and address, look up his phone number on switchboard.com and then call it. See who answers. That sort of thing. If you know the name of his employer, look them up, call the main number and ask for him.

This probably all sounds paranoid but cute chubby girls need to take care of themselves. ;-)

Stay Safe.

Answer 2

Hi! I met several men online and finally ended up marrying one! I'll tell you how I managed the meetings. First, NEVER give out your home address to a stranger. If you haven't met them face to face, they are still strangers!

Plan to meet in a public place at a designated time. I'm guessing you've talked on the phone first, so as you plan the meeting make sure there are no expectations on either side. Make sure both of you understand that the other can decide not to meet again and there will be no pressure at all. This is a biggie because it's very easy to feel rejected if your expectations are high. Make sure you are able to accept rejection and move on, and make sure he understands there is no pressure. If things click, plan to meet again! Also, if you plan on drinking, make sure you don't overdo it. Alcohol can cloud your judgement or make you seem like a lush. :-)

Answer 3

The first time you meet, do it in a public place with a lot of people, preferably during the day, and plan to only be there for a few hours at most. Have something else planned later on, and let him know, so that you have already have a reason to leave if it doesn't go well, and he knows that there are people expecting you later that day. He's probably not a creep or serial killer or stalker, but the sad reality is that you have to take steps to protect yourself if the worst happens. Also, tell at least one friend where you're gonna be.

Answer 4

I would meet the person in a very public place, just in case the person ends up being a psycho (you never know, no matter how old you are.)
I would also bring someone with you, especially if you are going far, friend or family, even if that person stays in the car, or sits in a different booth, or stays at the hotel, that way you have someone there you trust in case you have any problems.
If you can't bring someone, make sure you tell a couple of people what you are doing and check in with them at certain times, that way they can alert the police if something happens.

I'm sorry this is all kind of negative, but I honestly feel you can never be too safe on this type of thing.

Answer 5

You should try to get as much information as you can on them first, they can be completely lying about who he is. Then I would say try to pick a crowded place far away from your home. I would try and make it somewhere that it takes a lot of turns and crowded road to get to so it would be hard to follow you home. Have 911 on speed-dial on your cell phone and keep your cell phone in your pocket just incase. The safest option would be not to meet them at all, so if meeting them wouldn`t mean a lot to you anyway then just don`t even put yourself in that situtation. You should always listen to your instincts, they`re there for a reason. If you have a really bad feeling about meeting this person, then you shouldn`t, but even if you have a could feeling, you should still be very careful. Obviously never give out ANY personal information, no zipcodes, phone numbers, anything.

Answer 6

If you ever want to meet someone on line. You need to have chat with him for at least 3 to 4 months. And when the time is near to meet him in person. Make sure you take someone with you. Don't ever go a lone. And be sure to be in a public place where there is a lot of people. And if he wants to take you somewhere take your own vehicle with a friend. Never go a lone. You have to be cautious nowadays. Always play it safe. Oh, but if you are under age don't ever chat with a stranger on line or even try to meet them!

Answer 7

That's really risky. There are so many stories of predators online. He could be some perv or murderer. If you really must meet, go to somewhere where there is plenty of traffic. i.e. the mall or some other busy public place. Do it in the day time too. Let everyone close to you know where you are going and when to expect you back. Take your cell phone and bring some mace if you got it. It's always better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 8

Never alone unless you've talked on the phone for a long time and someone you know and trust actually knows this person. Meet at a place where you can talk without interruptions and also, don't plan on make it a huge date. Just something small. This way, if you two don't click in person, you won't feel awkward for a looooooong time.

Answer 9

If you plan to meet someone you met online the best way to plan a meeting is a VERY public place: a coffee shop, a diner that's NOT near where you live, a landmark, something VERY public.

Answer 10

Ok if u are under 18 I suggest U not meet anyone. There are many perverts and old men pretending to be young online. Just because u saw a picture of them or even talked to them online for awhile doesnt make them who u think they are. How old are u, and I an give u an answer.