....I've even tried letting the people he hits hit him back but he still hits no matter what....what can I do?
2006-08-15 16:13:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I wouldn't suggest the 'let them hit back' thing.
Take him away from the situation, immediately, every time. Not for long - he's only two. But _every_ single time he hits he needs to immediately be yanked out of the situation and told that its not acceptable. If you're at home, you can send him to his room, than follow a minute or two later and discuss why he was sent to his room. When you're out, make do as best you can. It won't change him immediately, but kids are very quick learners. He needs to learn that hitting is NOT a good way to get what he wants, he needs to see that hitting makes things work. He doesn't need to be told this as much as he needs to experience it 0 that hitting leads to having to put toys down, and be separated from everyone.
Also make sure he's not acting out for attention. Does he get more attention when he's bad then good? If so, he'll keep hitting! He'd probably rather be in trouble then be ignored. Pay attention when he's good, tell him _all the time_ what a good boy he's being when he's not hitting. THen if he hits, wham, he's sent to his room, you're not praising him. Every time.
2006-08-15 16:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. We had the exact same problem with my son hitting his little sister from about the time he was 2 until he was almost 4. I find t hilarious that you eventually resorted to the same thing we ended up doing, I held him down and let her beat on him for a change. While she didn't really hurt him the way he had hurt her because she was small and timid and barely hit him hard, it damaged his pride enough to make him stop. This was our last resort tactic and since that didnt work for you maybe you should take him to see some kind of child therapist that can help you teach him other ways to handle his anger. It could just be an age issue though. You said he is only 2, maybe he will grow out of it soon, My son was almost 4 before we broke him. I doubt having his sister beat him up would have worked as well at 2 as it did at 4. By 4 he was old enough to be embarressed that he was being beat up by a girl.
2006-08-17 01:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by PrincssSarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, you can't teach him to stop hitting by hitting him. You're teaching him that if he doesn't like something someone does, he should hit them. Exactly the opposite lesson, wouldn't you agree?
He's two, all it takes is firmness and repetition. Every time he tries to hit, hold his hand and say, (not shout), quietly and firmly, "No hitting". Every time. That's it. When he stops, give him some positive praise.
It will take a while, you'll probably get some temper from him. But if you are consistant with this, it will teach him.
He's too young to understand the concept of the time out, or going to bed and thinking about what he's done. But he will understand the word no. He will understand that you will hold his hand until he stops. And he will understand that when he does stop, you are happy with him.
2006-08-15 23:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reward...period. Hold his hands down until he stops squirming and screaming. When he calms down, which will take several minutes, tell him calmly that we don't hit. Then hug him. It takes consistency too. Time outs will work if you are consistent. Take small rewards away, like a toy or a treat immediatlely when the undesired behavior takes place. Or, see a therapist or watch Nanny 911.
2006-08-15 23:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by shoppingcartgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you hit him, you cannot teach him not to hit. surely you see that? you allowed other people to abuse him? does he have any trust for you?
jeepers!
read 'how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk.'
in the meantime, since you've made such a huge deal out of this, you've reinforced his hitting. good lord. you just say = no, that's not nice, and you remove the child. that's all. the child is young. you are supposed to be teaching, not punishing.
again, how on earth do you teach a child not to hit when you hit him/her????????????
2006-08-15 23:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any childern but I can speak from experience with my nieces. She is 5yrs old and she did hit me pretty hard so I hit her back (not to hurt her but to get her attention) and I said now that's not nice. She cried cause I scared her but you know what if they don't like getting hit (in a nice but effective way) they will stop. I know this sounds mean but you need to do what works.
Take care.
2006-08-15 23:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by speedracer54348066 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This may sound mean, but wear his butt off good. A spanking is good but sometimes you may have to get the point across.
2006-08-15 23:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I knew it had to be a boy you had. I have the same problem with my son, awaiting your answers. I've tried it all too.
2006-08-15 23:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
http://www.howtobehave.com/
2006-08-16 01:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋