Last night my mom decided to defend her boyfriend over her own daughter, me. You see I caught him watching me sleep inside my room and when I told her she left. Hours later she came to my room to get me and confront this man. He of course denied everything and she blamed me for it. How is it my fault? I don't know. Anyway, he told me I could leave the house whenever I want because no one is holding me back and she went right along with him telling me the same thing. It's not the first time he does creepy things like that. There has been worst things and each time she defends him. I have the possibility of leaving to my country and staying with some family members there... Just that my life will be harder there economically. Should I leave?
2006-08-15 15:46:10 · 8 answers · asked by Athena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you genuinely don't feel safe, if you genuinely believe that there are dangers that nobody will believe, if you genuinely have somewhere else to go, then yes, you should leave.
Economic issues are a problem, but they can be dealt with and overcome (a lot of people survive with nothing but the clothes on their backs), and people who are trapped in bad relationships tend to come up with a string of excuses for staying in them (economic issues may well be your first in this string).
Whatever you do, talk to a counsellor or a social worker who can make sure you know all the options available to you and to whom you can tell the whole story without fear.
2006-08-15 15:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by synchronised_pickles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My darling dear, I am so sad that your mother-one who gave birth to you is defending a sick man. Your mom needs help. Do you have a friend who you can stay with?How about a church near you that you can call and ask for help, if they can't help you call another church, don't give up there are people out there that will help you in this situation, not all people are bad. Are you working? Is there any way that you can get your own place? If not, see if you can stay with a friend for a little while. Then figure out what you can handle on your own, if you are a minor and live in the U>S>A, contact your local child protective services and get them involved, sounds like your mom needs serious counseling. SOmetimes unfortunately one has to get the law involved in order for some to take things like this seriously, like your mom needs to be put in her place and taught some lessons about raising children and how to listen to them when they are speaking the truth. THAT is however if you are telling the truth, now some kids like to cause trouble and say things to break mom and husband up or boyfriend up, I am not saying that you are but some kids do things like that. So I will pray that you will find somewhere to go and that someone can reach out to you and help you through this. But do not stay quiet about it, rattle some cages, stir the pot!
2006-08-15 16:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by JOJO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you own security you should sacrifice and leave! Your mom is blinded by "love" so is pointless telling her as she trust her boyfriend more. Maybe your last straw is to "hit" your mom at point blank that "she will regret forever if she found the truth in your words" then perhaps she may wake up in her "love dream". You are very materialistic as you see your "economy" more important than your moral.......
2006-08-15 16:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby, you should get out of there. If mom isnt believing you, no telling what he will try next. I would go live with a friend or family member.
2006-08-15 15:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay there! I would go to the friends house until your mom loses that guy!
2006-08-15 16:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dear one, leave. I don't know how old you are, but you need to protect yourself. Your mother's choice to believe him over you is a sad state of affairs. I pray for all of you.
2006-08-15 15:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look what you need to do is talk to your mom seriously if that doesnt work tell the police...then if things get really bad you'll gonna have to leave.
2006-08-15 15:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by YUSI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out.
2006-08-15 15:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋