If Christians aren't married and are dating (teens) are they allowed to make-out/french kiss or kiss for along time, if your not where do you find this in the Bible? My son asked me this and I said I wasn't sure.
2006-08-15 15:19:55 · 30 answers · asked by Jonathan S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The bible says we are not to do anything that will make us lust. And making out and french kissing would have to make any normal person young or old get those feelings. One needs to keep things in a safe distance so that temptation won't take over.
2006-08-15 15:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Christians aren't married and are dating (teens) are they allowed to "make-out/french kiss" or kiss for along time?
You have to ask this? What is the definition of "make-out"? What is the purpose?
I think the answer lies within the "purpose".
2006-08-15 22:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its about being a smart christian and not giving a place for temptation to come in. Christian teens should not 'make out' at all. that leads to sex quite easily. every knows that. It is in the bible just that your not going to find a verse that says "dont make out". Read the whole bible,not just the parts you like.
Its clearly implied in the scriptures to be wise. Dont lead yourself into temptation. its the Lords prayer. If you had the spirit of God you would be more able to see that.
Be virtuous. Your body is the temple of the holy spirit.
Anyway, im sure you know it is wrong
2006-08-15 22:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just got back from a purity retreat, and i asked them the same question and they said that dating and most definitely kissing is for after you're married, you can't find french kissing in the bible, or relationships like dating at a young age (teens) so if your son is going marry this girl...then he should wait to kiss her and respect her, and visa, versa...like relationships isn't bad, but if your son is looking for the right girl, then he should pray and ask God to help make her a strong woman in Christ Jesus. (kind of legalistic, oh well) and also, if your son isn't going to marry her, he is just going to give a little piece of him away, and when he grows up and sees her, he's going to look back and wonder what it would have been like if he had married her, and not his wife. just a piece of information i got from a very wise lady when i needed help with that.
2006-08-15 22:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't find a problem with kissing. However as a single Christian female I will say this...Jesus states that if you lust in your heart you have sinned already. Therefore although kissing is not a sin I limit how long I spend kissing. The longer you spend embraced in another person's arms the more likely lust will enter in and the desire to do more than kiss will occur.
2006-08-15 22:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your son this:
can he make out without causing himself (or his girlfriend) to sin? Not just the act, but not even think about sex with her in his mind?
I say this in all seriousness because, as a one-time-teenage girl, I could "make out" with a boy w/o thinking of sex, but I know guys are geared different. I've also been in situations where it didn't just stop at the kissing. He needs to know that if it causes him, or his girlfriend to stumble, he needs to refrain from that activity.
And you are blessed to have a son to be so open with you about his feelings and questions.
2006-08-15 22:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by LastNerveLost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of all the horrible negative baggage that I was raised with as a Christian where we had to think about whether something was sinful or not. What should be taught is respect and love for others -- not some dogma and set of rules. Teach people about considering others in all their actions, not this self-centered, ego-ridden concentration on whether or not we screwed up with some deity. If we teach people to consider others in their actions and to keep in mind repercussions that can cause suffering, that will be so much better than giving people a set of cold, dogmatic rules. Love is better than legalism.
2006-08-15 22:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion the answer would be no. If they aren't dating what is the point of kissing, teenagers and hormones are dangerous enough. I would suggest that instead of tempting themselves to expand of there physical lust they instead expand on the spiritual walk. Satan loves to tempt us all, there is know way you can prevent them from expanding to the next step, but you can tell them that waiting for physical pleasures (lust) distracts them from supporting each-other as Christians and standing up for for there christian convictions. We need more teenager to just say no! Tell them what God intended regarding love. In fact I would recommend that you have your son search his bible for his answers and have discussions and prayers with him. Seek and Ye shall find. God Bless!
2006-08-15 22:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing in the bible that says kissing is bad. But do tell your son to do it at the right time and place with the one he loves...that to avoid a kiss to become a sin he should not do it for fun or to anybody he is not taking seriously...
2006-08-15 22:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. This shouldn't go on. They shouldn't be able to be alone until they are married. I mean, maybe together alone at one of their parents homes when they are there but otherwise it's not acceptable. Fornication is clearly condemned in the bible and "making out" leads to sex, we are both adults, we know that.
2006-08-15 22:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋