Is it ok for the girl in the relationship to ask the guy to marry her if after 3 years he hasnt ask her yet?

Question

Me and my b/f has been togeather 3 years and we are very much in love but he still hasnt got down on that knee yet .

he still live's at home with his mom and so do I .....I am so ready for us to be togeather tho in our own home he is my life .....I dream of the day he get's down on his knee and ask me but I dont know how long I cant wait on him I love him so much

Answer 1

I'd start a conversation about the future, babies....and wait and see what his response is. Might be that he is just not ready for that kind of responsibility yet. Instead of bluntly asking, try to start a conversation leading in that direction and then see what his response is. He might also be scared to ask.....in any case, that's probably the best way to see how he feels about it..Good Luck

Answer 2

Maybe he's just not ready to commit fully yet. The last thing you want to do is put pressure on the guy, he might run away in the end. Why not wait just a little more and see how things go. If you're 100% certain you're meant for each other then go for it. But make also 100% certain that he feels the same way and that there is signs that he wants more out of this relationship.

Hope all goes well for you!

Answer 3

I would say that it would be okay just remember if he has not asked them maybe he does not feel it's as serious as you do but either way its cool if you want to ask him. I feel like you need to express that you want to be engaged and that you want to get married in such a time like a year you want to be getting married and see what he says when you bring up getting married scope him out of his feelings on the subject and if he is a good go for it if not maybe you need to reconisder where you relationship is going either way good luck to you

Answer 4

Well,

Why get married? If you two are living comfortably together, is a ring really going to make a difference. Common entitles you to half of his stuff now and alimony if you guys have lived together for longer than six months.

Answer 5

Before getting down on you knee you should probably find out whether or nor your boyfriend is actually ready to get married.

Answer 6

So that is the plan..Will you be getting on your knee?Have you chosen the ring yet?Where will you both live?Is school an issue right now..sounds like you both just need to exhale and talk about this.I give you credit for the question,though.Wish I had thought to just do it your way.Those guys sometimes just need a little reassurance. and direction before they ask this major question...and maybe you deserve to know his intentions....sounds like you both need a little one on one time about it.Hope this is all you and he need to get the ball rolling..you could talk about it to him on your knee..but he probably would not even get it....;)

Answer 7

Yes it's okay to ask him to marry you.... keep in mind tho, is there a reason he hasn't asked? do you think he feels the same or do you think maybe he's just comfy where things are and doesn't want it to change?

Have you had any prior discussions on marriage?

Answer 8

I am very much a traditional and would want the boy to do the work. However, I also believe strongly in equality and I think if you know it's right and it's what you want, then go for it! :) I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 9

No, if he loves you like you say then it's up to him to ask. Maybe he doesn't want to get married. Maybe he's in the relationship only for the "you know what."

Answer 10

Yes, it is just our culture that thinks "oh, if the guy doesn't ask, it's messed up". It is perfectly fine for a girl to ask him to marry her.