ive been crying all day because i feel so bad. I cheated on my bf yesterday, and i didnt mean to, and guy friend of mine wanted to come over and we kinda got a lil to close and he was kissing on me and touching me, and kissed me on my body and i liked the way it felt, im been so lonely cause my bf is in the navy and is out to sea, i feel like a slut a complete whore, how could i do this to him. he wants to ask me to marry him when he gets here, i cant even live with myself right now, the wrose thing is that i went down on the guy, and i let him use me for his pleasure, i didnt have sex with him at all. i feel so bad i just dont know what to do i cant tell my bf it would be to shocking and would hurt to much!!!!! please help, was this a lesson that i needed to learn before im married to him...... i dont deserve his love...
2006-08-15 15:02:10 · 11 answers · asked by Airees D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want your relationship do not tell, I repeat I have been there and it ruined my marriage. My ex husband was military and overseas and we was having problems and I wined up stepping out and i regret it to this day alot of time we don't have communication and I tell you now that it will only get harderwith him being military so if you cannot deal with it now think twice because when kids come in the picture and you have to move away from family that is one of the toughest things to deal with.
2006-08-15 16:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by atl 26 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First...STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP! Mistakes happen...it is unfortunate and it is bad but it is not something that cannot be fixed. You are paying through guilt and hating yourself but that won't make it better. You are NOT a whore...you are just not receiving what you need from your partner and this "friend" was able to swoop in and provide it.
I think you need to sit down and seriously think about your relationship with your bf. It is NOT working for you (and it doesn't work for most people). A relationship happens between two people that are present...why do you think the highest rate of divorce is among military people? The long absences are a killer. I don't know if you should tell him or not...I'm sure he wouldn't be "shocked" because he IS gone all the time. Hurt? Absolutely. On the other hand...are you certain he is faithful to you? It just seems to me that you can't have a relationship with someone that is never there. If, in the near future, he comes back and IS there...maybe it can work out. But right now...you need to be easy on yourself and decide what YOU want to do...what is best for YOU and what is best for your bf!
Good luck...just take some time to think this out. It just happened YESTERDAY so obviously the guilt is pretty smothering. Give yourself a few weeks and then examine your feelings for your bf. Just try not to be so hard on yourself...mistakes happen but they CAN be corrected.
2006-08-15 15:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel so bad about why did you do it? If you know your going to regret something then why do it? You should tell him before it goes any further. Think about it. If you two get married anf ten years from now you tell him about it because you still feel abd about it you are going to ruin something if he holds it against you. Then you will be like ten years gone i should have been up front from the beginning. So be smart about it and tell him now so that you two can live a life of honesty and truth between yall. A relationship or marriage will never work without honesty or faithfullness.
2006-08-15 15:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by mldwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know ya feel guilty, but we all get lonely and we all need love. Things happen.....it would have been different if you two was married, but your not. I know that you love your boyfriend,. .but is he being totally faithful to you also?
You might can answer yes.....and then again,.....thinking.....that "No".
Men can't go that long without a feeling of love......... They are 10 times weaker.......
They are or .......most of them .........'Dogs'......... Don't feel guilty........he's probably done it to you. Don't be the first one to admit anything.
2006-08-15 15:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by So_real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. Let him decide if he still wants you or not. His courage and dedication to our country deserves at least your honesty.People make mistakes and you will have to see if he can forgive you. How would you feel if he told you that he cheated on you??
2006-08-15 15:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by james c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just tell him before he finds out from someone else. he might get hurt but even more hurt from hearing it from someone else. i think this was a lesson that u learn't ab luv. u guys might be meant for each other.
2006-08-15 15:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by nana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry :( you should tell your boyfriend about it or it will haunt you forever. tell him how much you love him. tell him how sad you are. he may forgive you. maybe he'll be mad at the dude that you were with more than you even. I hope everything goes alright. goodluck. just be honest.
2006-08-15 15:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why am I not surprised? Wiithout contact, relationships often fall apart.
2006-08-15 15:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by TheSkeptic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved your bf, you wouldn't have done what you did. You really have to think things through...Good luck.
2006-08-15 15:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand. i think you're sincere in saying you regret what you've done but.. prepare to be b*tchslapped on here
2006-08-15 15:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by c3dr1c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋