My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years....we will be married soon and I don't want to invite my cousin who doesn't like my fiance. I am afraid she will say something to embarass us around his family and I don't want that. I don't like this cousin any way for many other reasons I don't want to discuss. But the point is if she doesn't like him, why would she want to come anyway?? Well, I'm not going to invite her becuase of her bad attitude towards him and how she acts around him. I am also not inviting her sister and her sister's family (they are also my cousins but I have talked to them once in the past 10 years!) So, should I tell this cousin in person why she is not invited? Should I just not send an invite and wait to have her ask me abou it??? Or, because my aunt (her mom) is invited, should I just tell her to tell her daughter and her daughter's family they aren't invited???
2006-08-15 14:55:25 · 11 answers · asked by babylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
okay I see whats your point,
Well u can tell them in person that they are not invited but the thing is that they might get mad at you and maybe not talk to you anymore, If you want to do that u have to think about the consecuebnces , but the best thing is to tell her that she shouldnt come
Its your wedding and you dont want to ruin it for no f*ucking reason right?
so you gonna live your life with your husband and not with your cousin, hes the one to be there for you when u need him, ur cousin is gonna look after her life and not yours,
U think about it , think whitch one is worthit to do and then just do it
I hope my answer is ehlping you a little bit,
Good luck
and i wish u long life with your husband
2006-08-15 15:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Aldi_NYC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I would do is show your parents the guest list to make sure that everyone is on the same page. And then I would tell her why you didn't invite your cousin and leave it at that. If your cousin wants to know, she will probably ask her mom or your mom and can find out that way. There is no reason for you to mention it to her, it will only cause bad feelings.
Good Luck!
2006-08-15 22:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by emp04 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If none of your cousins are invited, then you can easily avoid a bad situation by letting it be known that you aren't involving any cousins.
I would just not invite AND tell her mother (the aunt who is invited). Otherwise, your cousins might gripe to their mom and she, not knowing the situation, might tell them "oh it must have just been an oversight. Of course your cousin meant to invite you" and then they'll show up anyway.
2006-08-15 22:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is rude to tell people they are not invited to something. It is also rude to share details about an event with someone who is not invited to it.
Can't you just take the high road and invite them out of respect? They are family.
If she dislikes your fiance that much, she may decline the invitation anyway.
Looking at your Questioning history on your profile, all three questions are about disowning family members and restricting which of them attend your wedding!
You seem to have a lot of problems with who you are and aren't inviting to your wedding and how to go about it. Maybe you should purchase a Miss Manners book.
2006-08-15 22:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is you're day and you don't have to invite anybody you don't want too, regardless if they're family. You don't need anymore added stress. I've been married almost a year and when it came down to my guest list if i haven't talk to you in years you weren't invited and my now husband and i didn't really care for you sorry no invite.
So in my opinion 2 HELL with whomever that has a problem with you not inviting family.
2006-08-15 23:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by T2SEXY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont send an invitation... and put a note in the invitation to her mom that says: Pass for one (or two) people (persons), if you are inviting your uncle.
It's your wedding, do what you want.
Dont feel bad, you have good reasons not to invite her. can i go in her place (just kidding). It's your wedding, and you will be the queen of the world that day.
2006-08-15 22:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lavender Pink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just don't invite her. If she or her mother should ask, just tell them that close family and friends are invited. That should be reason enough.
2006-08-15 22:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who come to your wedding come because they support your marriage. If you know this cousin does not I would not send an invitation.
Good luck!
2006-08-15 22:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im pretty sure your aunt told her about the wedding already, and your right, if she doesnt approve of him, then she might not go. or she might be one of those people that would just love to ruin a beautiful wedding. you never know. if your cool with your aunt, then i would speak to her and tell her your feelings about your cousins.
2006-08-16 02:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who can't resist the temptation of using their guest list as a way to "punish" members of their circle for past slights probably aren't old enough to get married. Grow up.
2006-08-15 22:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋