Just sold a cute nice townhouse I lived in for 3 years on condition to financing today. Feel really really sad and depressed because all the sudden i don't want to let it go emotionally because I was the first owner and I bought it on paper 4 years ago, everything was painted and decorated by self. Moving to a bigger place, financially can't keep both. anyone has similiar experince to share? Why do I feel like giving away a baby, am I normal?
2006-08-15 14:19:55 · 21 answers · asked by 1001Questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Very normal.
I'll explain your feeling.
Whenever anything gets sold, it's usually because it's no longer needed or wanted.
But when something like a home gets sold, there is a a kind of love attached to it.
I know it's too late to do anything, but have you considered renting it for income?
I know that could be a problem, but it should have been thought about.
Otherwise, it will only be a memory when you move on.
It's like a past love you can't ever forget.
You mature and get over it, but the memory lingers.
Welcome to life.
2006-08-15 14:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel believe me. Both of my parents have now passed away and I am a single 45 year old woman. Their house was willed to me and it is the house I grew up in. I turned my 1st birthday in this house. Now, I am probably going to have to sell it. Ever since my Mom died 8 months ago, things keep happening to the house. I had to put a brand new heating and air conditioning system in the house, 2 new water heaters, new roof, and some other stuff. It has flat out broke me. I am barely getting by and I do mean barely. I have cried and cried that I may have to sell the house just to get back all of the money I had to spend so I can pay my bills right. I have even gone to my counselor over this it has had me so depressed. Yes, you are very normal for the feelings you are having. When a place is your home and feels like home, it is very hard to have to get rid of for any reason. Hope everything works out for you and you find peace with your new place. Take care.
2006-08-15 23:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal because you have come accustomed to the place. You've attached yourself to an inanimate object. Just think of it as helping someone that needed a place to stay and you just needed a new house to decorate and be happy in. You can always sell any house/condo but the memories will stay with you.
2006-08-15 21:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband bought our first house together 6 yrs ago and recently we decided we want to move were we could have horses so we are now selling our house and living with my parents until the house sell and we buy the "house and land of our dreams" we had a moving sale and sold our stuff inside the house and move out but every day almost i drive by my house and almost cry because we have so many memories there we made babies there i thought i was weird for crying about selling my house THANK YOU for making feel normal!!
2006-08-15 21:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by angie1412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is kinda how I feel. Well my parents decided to move to a better and bigger place. My old house was the only home and all of my friends live me near. I miss my old house and all of my friends. I like the new house but I dont have any friends here.
good luck!
2006-08-15 21:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this is abnormal and you have an unhealthy emotional attachment to a bunch of lumber and plaster. It's just stuff man. When you die the only thing you can take with you if you're lucky is The love of your family and friends, and your soul.
Invest in your family/friends. Invest in your life. The rest is just material goods.
2006-08-15 21:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are very normal. Our home is a very special place, especially when we decorate it and care for it ourselves. I completely understand how you feel. It is much like nurturing a child to adulthood only to watch he/she leave the nest. But you will be fine. I know, I have done this four times in my life. You will be OK.
2006-08-15 21:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. You put a lot into to your home(townhouse). But just think of the fun you can have in your new home.
2006-08-15 21:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you only lose the house, not the memories attached to it. You should celebrate! Moving to a bigger place is an upgrade!!!
2006-08-15 21:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was your home. It's natural to be sad. Let yourself feel sad for awhile, but then set your sites on creating your new home. Remember, in the end, it's just wood and foundations, it's what is in your heart that makes it home, and you are taking that with you.
2006-08-15 21:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋