its hard for me to have friends, when lots of them act fake, i try to fit in but i am not myself beacause its hard for me to be myself when i am trying to fit in with people.
I don't no what to do?
need advice from anybody
2006-08-15 14:01:46 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Be yourself. I know this is trite, but it's also very true. When you stop giving a damn and allow your true self to come to the fore you'll attract people who want to be in the presence of the real you. It's worked great for me.
I've always been surrounded by a lot of friends, but I never really felt that any of them got me. Once I stopped censoring my behavior and just let my true personality take over I attracted quite a few people who really got me. I've lost a couple of friends because of my "sudden personality change," but they didn't get me so I don't really care.
2006-08-15 14:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by automaticmax 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be yourself. Trust me- later on you'll be gald you did. If you are yourself, and people like you for that, then that is where your true friends are. However, if you change yourself, just to fit in with other people... Do you really want to hang out with people who won't be your friends unless you act a certain way? No! Of course you don't! You want to be friends with people who like you for who you are. I bet you have it better than I do. I have been trying to change myself for years. But I decided that it just isn't worth it. Now I want to tell you, before you go through all of the trouble that I did. Be yourself. Even if nothing good seems to come of it at first, you will feel good inside knowing that you are not a pretender, but a real person. And that the rest of the world is seeing the real you.
2006-08-15 21:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by Koneko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to fit in anywhere. If you act fake, you will attract other people who act fake. If you act like your real self, you may attract or repel people, and you may not attract as many people, but the people you attract will at least be responding to *you* and not a fake image that you're putting out.
Go for activities that you genuinely love and want to try. Wear the clothes that you feel attractive in. Smile and laugh when you mean it; don't when you don't. Feel free to say, "That sucks" or "I like this."
I sell T-shirts with this quote from Rita Mae Brown: "I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself." I learned that one the hard way.
2006-08-15 21:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to fit in is not the way to go. Just be yourself. You would be acting fake too, and maybe those folks are just like you but are also trying to fit in. Just be yourself, do your own thing, friends will come.
2006-08-15 21:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by tootsie45414 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well fitting in, having friends around is good. But it's not hard being yourself but at the same time fit in as well. First of all try to look around the criteria of the people around you, try to get to know to know them but not agite them from all aspect. Eventually you'll find something that you guys had common bout, after all we are jusre merely human.
2006-08-15 21:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by lino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to being yourself, trust me.....Everybody has these feeling at sometime in there life. As you get older you will find It's much easier to be yourself with out having to worry about peer pressure. Be yourself now, it's better to have NO friends when your young than to have regrets later in life because of the stupid things you did just to make friends.
2006-08-15 21:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by jayster32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be you.. if you keep trying to be something you are not--you will never fit in..and who cares about fitting in?? People should like you for the person you are..not for what you try to be..i am me--i am not changing for anyone--cuz if i change--then i am no longer ME.... have faith in yourself and don't worry so much
2006-08-15 21:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit thinking so hard and just be you and if they don't like you for you, they are not a good friend anyways. Just be you. Dress like you want, act like you want. If they want to do things you dont then speak up. And if your not being yourself, your friends are prolly asking the same question about you...
2006-08-15 21:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by wishboneattack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your at work you can keep up the fasaud and call it polite professionalism. And keep your personal life separate as long as it is not hurting anyone.
But if you are talking about real friends then this doesn't add up. A real friend accepts you for who you are.
2006-08-15 23:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by catrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. My daughter had the same problem. I always told her to be herself and if these people want to be your friend then they will except you for who you are. Do the same as she did. She has a lot of friends now and they even ask her for advise when they meet new people. Good luck....
2006-08-15 21:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by pink_tequilarose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋