Do You Know What It's Like Not To Be Touched??

Question

Today (Aug 15) I rushed my baby to the ER for something that happened (I don't care to discuss the details). Anyway the nurses were nice and they set me & my child up in a room. They asked a few questions & told me they called the doctor (the only one on call) & she was on her way. Shortly after I see a woman that stood about 5" ft tall, she comes into the room and stands near the bed where we were sitting. She (Doc) asked me what happened and I explained (note: I had seen her before just on a different occasion). The Doctor never once touched my son nor did she touch me that day I saw her. What I mean is she never checked his vitals, look down his throat or ears, never touched his skin to see if he felt hot or cold (he was running a fever) Absolutely Nothing! She asked “did I think he seemed okay” and I said “yes”. Then she discharged me. I was so mad & wanted to cuss her out or say something smart instead I just left. My point is have you ever experienced something like this before?

Let me explain I deal with retards like this all the time, but I didn’t have much of a choice today. Trust me I know how to handle them and could have easily smarted off, I just didn’t feel like being ugly. Plus it’s not like the ER was busy, because where I live the population might be 2000 and I was probably their first patient all morning. She was just being rude. I left because I new my child’s life wasn’t in danger and I just wanted to get him home. She’s not my doctor and I happened to see her that day and was caught off guard by seeing her again today. I don’t know I guess she figured our skin would rub off on her. I mean is this the new practice where doctors basically stand by the door with their nose in the air to consult their patients?? It just reminds me how cruel and prejudice some people still are. I posted this here in singles/dating to get more responses….Thanks!!

Well I didn't expect everyone to understand, but kind words would have been nice....thanks to those who did. If you've ever been put in a situation like this you'll find out being ugly will either get you worse treatment or put out the hospital completely!! It's one of those no win situations...

Let me add prior to this I just so happen to speak with some others girls who had seen her before and they said they loved her (this was only after I had seen her). I couldn't believe we were talking about the same woman (doc). They were also no of the same race as me, so that confirmed what I was thinking...

Answer 1

Many times in my life I've emergency situations when that has happened to me. Yes i believe she was being prejudice. But she was also probably jealous that you do have so much love for your child. I believe anytime anyone brings a child into a hospital. no matter race creed or color. The child should be completely checked out. but here are a few words for you.

Hey little mother,don't be sad. the doctor was probably jealous of all the love you have.
The next time a situation like this accrues. ask for the person that's in charge of her.
She must not have a heart or a soul. because every child needs a thorough exam to be whole.
So give your anger to God and let your love over ride,I know Jesus will be right by your side.
So to tell you the truth,this will be in my prayers.about anytime a doctor treats you unfair.

God Bless you AAPO3O5

Answer 2

what you have to do is this some doctors dont do what a mother should do and what i have done if i do not like how my child is treated i will find someone who i can trust and i know can see about my baby

From my own personal life..my older boy as autism everything is a fight, sometimes he needed more care then normal because its hard to understand him. I had to find a dr who would be there with me no matter what. I have found that with getting involed with childrens hospital and only talking to drs that go to childrens hospitals helps..

This dr is a woman, and she has been there with me through alot i love her and her staff very much i just am thankful i found them. You just need to find a doctor that works for you and that you know is seeing about your child..er isnt always the best place to take your kid it might be better to get a doctor outside of that because sometimes as well if you have a doctor in the hospital it helps the doctors care more about your child..they always ask whos ur childs dr..

I hope that some of the tips help hope your child feels better and may you be ☺blessed☺ in your choices☺

Answer 3

Maybe you can make a formal complaint with the director of the Hospital. What you have is someone (Female Dr) who is lazy, doesn't like her job, and doesn't have compassion. She needs to be delegated to another area, like calling on insurance (LOL). People who love their jobs show it by action, word, and attitude. She needs to have her career re-assessed. I'd love to trade places with her. I have compassion, but, unfortunately, I don't have the medical training. Just on the job working at a foot care clinic. But I know I love to help people - that lady doesn't and she needs to get some training about treating people fairly and equitiably. I don't think her issue was color. I think she's just a miserable person who needs to be on leave for a while to re-think where she is and if she fits. I'm sorry you went through this. I suppose she thought that since your child wasn't bleeding, convulsing, lying there stiff, or raising the roof with screaming, that your visit was a non-issue. Lotsa times, professionals assume things because they see repeats of things over & over and they begin to think that there are no variables to consider. So they hand you two asprin and tell you to call in the morning, like that is what they have done a thousand times before, and it worked those times, too. She needs to learn to LISTEN with her heart, and not her silly head. Let the Hospital know about your experience, or someone may fall into her hands and it may be a fatal mistake. Don't hear something later that happened because of her, and think to yourself "oh, if I had only done...". Nip it in the bud now, before she gets too powerful in running the hospital, then the ENTIRE hospital will be like her! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Yes, my son is 18 yrs old now and at that time he was about 3 and the exact thing happened to us !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Only difference was, are experience was at a Doctor's Office. What I did to get my point across ( the fact I didnt like the service) I did not pay for that bullshit service.!!!!!!!!!!!! You do the same. Be more than happy to explain to the adminstrator of the hospital why your not paying.

Answer 5

There are plenty of these so called 'Doctors' in the country i currently live. It is just the apathy of the person concerned - race and religious prejudice clouds their judgment.

You are not alone. Report them to your local medical board. Be more responsible than the so called 'Doctor' - help protect the next person who may really need emergency rescue - make sure this person does not stand-by looking while the next victim dies. Forget God, you have to answer to your own conscience.

Answer 6

what ever happened was not that important for the doctor to
touch either of you. there has been some viruses going around
and most adults avoid children contact for that purpose.
i think the doctor did their job in that you and your baby are ok.
CASE CLOSED. next?
also sounds like you wanted a free physical which can be costly
now a days. A doctor does not have to touch you to cure you.
next?am i right?
You also did not tell us the condition of the emergency.

Answer 7

This doctor once did the same thing to my brother...He only asked questions and gave him medicene without doing a dang think...I bet that the doctor wants to do something right after a certain appointment and they do things really quick, i don't know.

Answer 8

Prejudice does exist...but you must take the strength to learn that the lesson here may be to speak up WHEN the situation is occuring. Not after and be mad about it.

Answer 9

I know how it feels to be unwanted, rejected. But by a boy. But that Doc better get their stuff straight because that just ain't right.

Answer 10

Try seeing your own doctor from now on.