2006-08-15 13:48:45 · 33 answers · asked by jixiang 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES YOU JERK.
I hope that your online partner is really your partner. so he/she knows you're a jerk.
2006-08-15 13:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES.
What happens is you are making an emotional connection with another person other than your spouse. Despite the fact that you say it's "without online sex", there is an underlying sexual vibe to the relationship. That's why you are keeping it secret. And don't think you can make it all ok by telling your spouse about it and that it's just a friendship. You'll just be lying to your spouse and yourself.
If the relationship continues, eventually you will no longer be satisfied with the "online" relationship and you will want to start talking on the phone. Then that will no longer be enough and you'll want to meet in person. Then the real cheating starts.....then hurting your spouse, ripping up your family, having kids that grow up with "issues." Ask yourself if this is what you want for you and your family.
What you should do is tell the online person you're married and tell them you can't communicate with them anymore. Then don't communicate with them anymore. Don't answer emails, etc. If you have to, change your email address. Your family is a lot more important. If you're not married, but just in a relationship start making good habits now and avoid bad habits. If you cheat now, it will be harder not to cheat later when you are married with kids and a lot more is on the line.
I know it may seem like just a harmless online relationship, but don't even start going down that road. If you're not going to California, what are you doing driving west on Route 66. That's where Route 66 goes!
You'd be much better off (and so will your family) spending the time making the relationship with your spouse better. Learn to be a better husband/wife. Read some books like Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus or something.
If your having trouble in your current relationship, focus on what you can give in the relationship instead of what you can get. I think you'll see it take a turn for the better.
2006-08-15 14:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Chapin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you never plan to meet the person, I don't think it's cheating. The thing is, you don't even know if the person is who you think it is. Your online "pal" could be lying to you and not even be the same sex or age you think. Your online 24 year old lady could really be a 64 year old guy in prison having fun! The real question is: why would you not have the same close relationship with a real live person in an honest and true relationship? Cyber-relationships are so uncertain and it's a way to hide from reality.
2006-08-15 13:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you mean? What do you mean by secret and why is it secret? If this person is just a friend then it is not cheating but if you talk about certain things and you have a connection with them then it is cheating because you are already committed to someone...It is alright to have online friends but you don't need to go beyond that.
2006-08-15 13:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by divinevegeta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything that is "SECRET" carries with it some element of passive lies :) Some may argue that not telling is not lying, but if asked would we be truthful?
If what we have is as one of the repliers said just friendship and sharing of common interests... say World Cup and your partner hates World Cup, then it is fine. But if one did not have the intention to "cheat" why keep it secret? Also, would you consider it cheating if your partner is having the same thing with someone else online? If you cannot take it... then I guess you have your answer. Why put onto others what we ourselves cannot accept when others do to us? :)
2006-08-15 19:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I'm concerned any secret relationship is cheating!
I know that I would rather find that my husband had sex with another woman than learn that he has a "secret" Internet friend with whom he shares his fantasies, dreams, goals, or his negative feelings about me.
Sex is just sex but you are having a "relationship".
I know what you should do! Ask her. Maybe she won't mind......yeah that's it. She won't mind! No problem!
2006-08-15 17:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you feel closer to this girl online than to your actually girlfriend, then either stop talking to the girl online, or break up with your girlfriend. Continuing this online relationship is just gonna end up hurting your girl. Don't lead her on if you feel more comfortable with someone you met online.
2006-08-15 14:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Fact that you said "Secret" means DISHONESTY.... dishonesty between partners will only lead to bad things. If you can't be open and honest with your partners, even about a "casual" friendship/relastionship, then you should rethink your priorities.
Do you want the person you are with? or are there deeper problems, that you need to address?
I would consider it cheating... because dishonesty is only going to lead to mistrust... and then the WHOLE entire foundation caves in.
2006-08-15 13:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by theviolet41 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating - it about emotions. How would you feel if you caught your significant other was talking to a stranger and keeping it from you. If YOU wouldn't like that then yes it is cheating and stop.
Treat others the way you want to be treated
2006-08-15 13:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by ηιgнт ѕтαя 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a state of mind. When you have to go to someone else to get what your main squeeze cannot give you, something is missing somewhere so ask yourself what is she or he not giving you that you feel you need to get on line and when you find that out, then you will know what you are missing. Going on line for that extra "flavor" means something is lacking in your relationship and when you play with fire, sooner or later you will get burned..
2006-08-15 13:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. it is..imagine your girlfriend sitting next to a computer. if you would say exactly the same things to your internet friends with your gf around..then its not cheating..but if you would NOT type those kind of things if she was around... Then it's cheating.
and also online dating is not a joke. it's like saying long-distance relationship is not real because you are only using the phone....
2006-08-15 13:54:05 · answer #11 · answered by Feodora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋