Should I medicate myself or find another way to ease the pain?

Question

1. I'm 27 and haven't had a girlfriend in years.
2. I can't seem to get a date.
3. Some of my friends flake on me and don't think I'm good enough to hang out with them.
4. My friends say things to try and make me feel inadequate.
5. My friends blatantly lie to me and try to manipulate me for their own benefit.
6. I went to a great private college, but work a low paying public interest job.
7. I hate myself every night for not doing anything to get my dream job.
8. I don't have a close relationship with my parents.
9 My parents spend irresponsibly and have to borrow from me.
10. My friends make twice as much as me.
11. My friends got lucky financially and are sitting on treasure chests.
12. Girls don't seem to enjoy talking to me, probably because I look so uncomfortable.
13. I want to be more social like some peers, but I get ridiculed for not having it together at this age.
14. People at parties don't seem interested in continuing conversations I startup.

Answer 1

Tell your parents you don't need them anymore, and that they either need to live within their means or file for bankruptcy.

Your "friends" are anything but, and a college degree means nothing in this economy, unless you wrote a textbook there or something. You aren't the right type for the girls you've been seeing. Hmmm...

I have a feeling that you are hanging around materialistic trend-hunters, and that you are anything but.

Move to another city, get an identical job there, and then start hunting for the dream job. Medication isn't going to improve your lot. What you really need is a new life.

Answer 2

Get new friends and you might find them in Church or try a new thing mabe yogo very relaxing and yes there are more and more guys doing this. And you are freaking young still you can still work on getting your dream job and I just quite a manegment positin with good pay and I am a single mom poeple thought I was craZy to go back waitressing but it is so much more relazing in life when you are all around happy and tell your parents that they can take a hike. They should not be borrowing from you yhey can go to the bank. I say , say no you will start feeling better already and if you have to and you don,t have a child or anything like that holding you back move to another town mabe a city because there are lots and lots of things and poeple to meet. good luck and contact me send me your e-mail I would like to stay in touch with you, if you don't mind!!!
Good luck and God bless

Answer 3

OK, this may be a tad off the beaten track. I think it couldn't hurt to try a martial art. The physical exercise tones the bod and helps to allieviate negitivity and depression. The philosophy strengthens the mind, encourages self acceptance and empowerment. People at the dojo don't judge, they encourage. Look around to find a place you like with a reasonable price. Your life may just turn around. You may think I'm a nut, but my oldest son could have written 2/3 of your question a few years ago, but now he is black belt, has found his center and is excelling in life. What's a few $$ used on yourself instead of your parents (and this is a parent speaking) if it can make you change for the better?

Good luck and keep trying

Answer 4

Hey man life isn't over for you. I mean at least you did go to college. Mabey that dream job hasn't came yet, but if you keep working at it, you will get something!
No - I would not self medicate. Doing drugs to escape an unpleasant reality will only set you back. Instead, I would seek out the help of a psychiatrist. They can prescribe you some medication (anti-depressants). Watch the movie 'Prozac Nation' or read the book.

Answer 5

Well for a start,just end your friendships with your friend,don't worry you will find new one who will accept you like you are.
For a girlfriend,in that case maybe you are hanging at the wrong places,time will tell and you will found someone.
I had wait 35 years before i found the right guy to share the rest of my life with.good luck:)

Answer 6

Yo you do have a problem here and the first thing you need to do is re-evaluate who you choose for a friend

None of those people are your friends !!!

Get with it, wake up, smell the fart from Juan Valdez and his columbian coffee

Answer 7

I would consider LSD,it doesnt make things better,but at least they`re more colourful.
And you meet some interesting people while tripping,some of whom are really there

Answer 8

Sounds like you need some better friends.

Answer 9

meditate. try holisticonline.com. it works. try acupuncture to relieve stress. dump your so-called pals. go out and meet new ones. try communicationconfidence.com, more-selfesteem.com, askmen.com, and do not think money brings total happiness. kurt cobain killed himself and he had dough. so be grateful for having a place to live, legs, feet, etc.