Okay, I'm currently going out with this guy and I really love him but he has some real jealousy issues. He is suppose to be the "bad boy" of my school and he gets into a lot of trouble and stuff. So anyways, I was out with my brother, and a couple of our friends(one was a guy). And my boyfriend's friends stat to follow me around in one of the stores. We went home and my boyfriend fought my guy friend and accused me of cheating on him. But I told him that my guyfriend was gay. I was so mad he didn't even feel remorse after what he did. And he claims he loves me why would he do something like that? Why is he always trying to take his angry out on me?Could he be a abusive partner?
2006-08-15 13:43:29 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes that's how it starts believe me
2006-08-15 13:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there could be couple of reasons .. one that he feels very insecure .. he must have had relationships in the past where there was a breakup and he feels that he should take care of the situation before something happens .. even though u are not doing anything but he has this feeling from inside .. its sad situation coz he needs help
the other reason could be that u are more beautiful and attractive etc. than he ever expected his gf to be .. he likes u a lot and he is still questioning the reason u are with him .. he must be thinking that one day u are going to leave him coz there are many better guys than him .. u can help him ..
finally, u are the one who has to make the decision .. such guys can be harmful if not treated .. think about it and decide whether u really want to spend rest of your life with him .. u need your space and if he doesnt have trust and if he keeps acting like this, u are going to feel very frustrated ..
2006-08-15 13:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have alarm bells going off over here. Yes. It is good that you are questioning this. It is always good to reassess your situation, even in good times. It keeps you grounded.
Anyway, from my own experience with abusive guys, and unfortunately, I have had too many experiences (it took me awhile to learn that I don't deserve it), it sounds to me like he definitely could be. Jealousy like that, with angry outbursts and accusations is a form of emotional abuse. Clearly he doesn't trust you. Without trust, there is no relationship. You can love someone and not be with them. There is NO LOVE IN ABUSE.
Remember, nobody owns you, especially not your boyfriend. The way he is treating you sounds like he regards you as a possession, not a respected friend and companion, and certainly does not show that he has enough maturity to be in a relationship.
2006-08-15 13:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by miztenacioust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i be attentive to Bible literalists won't like this, yet i think of the Bible oftentimes reflects the time wherein it became written. mothers and fathers, husbands, employers, slave vendors have been oftentimes brutal to their kin or workers. Beatings have been consumer-friendly, there became no communicate of toddler or spouse abuse, no regulation fits against the employers, etc. The Bible has many truths that don't replace over the years, however the belief of a Father who became no longer punitive in 2000 BC or perhaps later in all probability would not make experience to the persons who have been examining or listening to the training. I do have a topic with some issues and get annoyed at how one son over yet another became given inheritances, issues weren't divided up. yet that reflects the subculture the place the Bible became written as much as something.
2017-01-04 06:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he could be abusive, and if not he certainly isn't trusting. Is this the sort of relationship you want to be in, where you have to watch everything you do so you don't upset him or get anyone beat up? Especially the "no remorse" part concerns me. This one is trouble! There are so many better guys out there, respect yourself and find someone who will respect and trust you as well.
2006-08-15 13:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical abuse is not the only kind of abuse out there. I personally view him as abusive already just for constitantly taking his anger out on you. If you are having to ask this question I think there may already be a problem. Assess your relationship, are there more bad times than good? Does he belittle you, make you feel guilty? Does he question every single guy you are with? If any of these are the case than maybe you should try to get out of the relationship.
2006-08-15 13:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Brittainy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said it could be the start of an abusive relationship. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!! I am happily married to a great guy and he nor I get jealous if the other sees or talks to another friend of the opposite sex. Why would we? We are commited to each other. You are JUST dating after all. Your not married. Good luck.
2006-08-15 13:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has those tendencies yes. This could be a major problem. How long have you been going out? If he is doing this right from the beginning, definitely bad news. He's giving you a clear sign here, find someone more peaceful, who could not end up killing you one day,
Good luck sweetie, and do the right thing for yourself. Plus think of your poor friend.
2006-08-15 13:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by CC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are a bit primitive arent they? To follow you means he doesnt trust you and/or perhaps you and he are too young to be in a relationship? And yes, it could be a hint of future agression. People/couples dont seem to communicate what their expectations are in a relationship mainly because theyre inexperienced or just too young. Prior to marriage...it's difficult to have a boyfriend/girlfriend if you dont have an idea of where the relationship is headed.
2006-08-15 13:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont' know your age but I'm assuming you are in your mid teens. You are way to young to be dealing with someone who has such emotional and insecurity issues. Someone like your "tough guy" boyfriend is treating you so badly because he is afraid of losing you to someone else, and he bullies others to keep them away from you so that they won't try to get you to stray from him as well. I was in a similar relationship and all it did for me was destroy my self esteem and made me a prisoner in my own mind. I was afraid to talk to anyone, everytime he came around we argued about nothing!, and later on when I began to rebel against his abuse that's when the beatings came. Get help go to your school counselor and get help as sonn as possible! Be careful, do not let him know your intentions about moving on until you speak to someone who can get you out of this situation safely.
2006-08-15 14:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by M E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes the bad boy of the school and has such high confidence why would he be so insecure? I would say yes he could be abbusive, insecuirity and violent tendies make a dangerous combination. Find someone better before its too late.
2006-08-15 13:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by purplewingduck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋