what a day. i tell ya, us men we need to learn how to control our anger in a better way. i just got off the pc talking with my gf. and i blew up over some pretty stupid stuff. feel like a total di-ck now. i love her alot and really need to find a way to treat her the way she deserves.
i guess my question is does anyone have good ways to deal with anger. as i need some major alternatives. to being an ******** to her.
2006-08-15 13:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by chris s 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be so forever.
2006-08-15 13:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know you have a problem, that's a start. I always suggest the 10 sec rule or the minute rule. Think about what you want to say vs. whay you should say. Weigh the choices and think about it in a rational way. Taking the extra time helps you realize there are better ways of handling situations, then just blowing up at someone because you're mad.
2006-08-15 13:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Supa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you feel bad is actually a good thing. it proves you do care. and if i was you i would go talk with her and tell her you are sorry. also tell her you have a anger problem and maybe between the two of you you both can think of ways to get some help. are maybe you both can think of thing like me and my wife. I have a hobbit of saying things I do not mean to say. when i explained this to her. she said it is not that big of deal. she has learned to just let what i say go until i com down. however when i do come down you can better she reminds me of some of the bad things i said and believe it are not i am getting better about my problem God bless hope this helps alittle
2006-08-15 13:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by marshall_blake2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all know that sometimes people dont always agree on certain things,what you need to do is not get angry because that wont solve anything, if anything it will just make it worse... so you need to compromise and communicate in a respectful manner. If something is bothering you/her just talk about it.I know that nobodys perfect, so what are you waiting for call her and apologize for acting like that- a healthy relationship is about trust, communication, laughing, having a good time etc. Step up and take responsibility. Good luck!
2006-08-15 13:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness 24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good way to deal with anger, in my opinion is to let it out in the first place in a productive manner and not save it to explode later. Listen to a song that speaks to you, excercise vigorously or something. I really commend you for wanting to make it better for you and your gf. I find it kind of sweet if you are sincere. You two will make it. Really.
2006-08-15 13:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try meditation, listening to music (soft music that has a positive outlook, mind you), or just deep breathing. If this particular person makes you angry a lot, stop seeing them. In the meantime, apologize to your girlfriend and send her some nice flowers.
If you know this is a intense problem that needs medication, I would break it off for a while while you recouperate. Its easier for both of you that way.
2006-08-15 13:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by hello_earth@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is gonna sound silly, but try breathing slowly and counting to 10 (or whatever number will work for you). If you really love your girl (and you sound like you do) that should give you enough time to remind yourself of that and respond in a more rational manner. Good luck!
2006-08-15 13:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime you feel yourself getting angry, stop and think about what its going to achomplish.
9 times out of 10, you'll come to your sences and calm down.
2006-08-15 13:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you vowed never to come to a site like yahoo answers and give out or receive advice.
I think your confused.
2006-08-15 14:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to take things personal or to heart....let things role off and you will start to see that things don't really mean that much if you don't take things so serious....relax and don't worry about everything it is not all a personal thing against you...just have to tell yourself that
2006-08-15 13:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess you can go to counceling and think before u say something to her if you really care about her
2006-08-15 16:01:44 · answer #11 · answered by *miss. understandable* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋