Co-sleeping with infant help?

Question

My little baby girl now 5 months, still sleeps with us in the bed. I have tried to put her in the crib, which is in our room, but i started crying and couldn't get to sleep. I am scared to death to leave her in the crib through the night, i am so afraid she won't wake up. Is there anything wrong with sleeping with her. Will I be able to eventually let go and let her sleep in the crib?

Answer 1

There is nothing at all wrong with cosleeping with her as long as you do it safely. It's NORMAL and has been done that way since the beginning of time. If you looked all around the globe, I bet you'd find that it is the norm in many places. Read the links below to make sure you are If you decide that you want baby close to you, but not in cosleeping safely.

your bed, move the crib into your room and take one of the side rails off. Wedge it tightly between your bed and the wall with the mattresses on the same level.

Hope this helps!

BTW......WANTED TO ADD:

To the one who mentioned the one year old smothering the baby sibling.....allowing a big sibling to sleep with the baby wouldn't be following safe cosleeping guidelines.

To those afraid of rolling over on the baby.....how often do you fall out of bed? You don't! Even when you are asleep you have a sense of where the edge of the bed is. As long as you are not impared (drugs, otc meds that make you drowsy, alcohol) then you will have the same sense of where the baby is in the bed.

Answer 2

I co-slept with my infant daughter while I was nursing her. It was just easier for middle of the night feedings. If you're the one upset with removing her from the bed, why don't you start with baby steps? Put a co-sleeper or a porta-crib next to the bed, and put her to sleep in that, and gradually move it closer to the door, and her closer to her room. This will adjust you and her to the change. Once she is in her room, use a baby monitor that detects motion, or one of the video monitors, so that she is in a separate room, but you feel you still have a close eye on her. One problem you may be having is that you're worried something may happen to her if you're not with her at all times. You may want to enlist your husband's help in this, as I am sure he misses "couple time" with you in bed.

Answer 3

I know everyone is telling you that sleeping in bed with your baby is a bad idea. I would just like for you to know that I have done a lot of research on this because this was part of my exposition paper for college. In reality, a much larger percentage of infants die in their crib (usually from SIDS) than in bed with the mother. Mothers sleep with their infants all of the time in other cultures and those other cultures think it cruel of us to place our children in "cages" to sleep. The mother has a natural ability to wake at the first sign of trouble in her infant. Even while asleep, she is conciously aware of what is going on (at least in most mothers). Especially that first week. You notice how you seemed to hear every sound the baby made those first few weeks? You are very likely to continue that for as long as baby sleeps with you. The risk of SIDS is much lower in children that sleep with their mothers. It has been suggested that this is because the mother's and baby's breathing becomes synchronized shortly into sleep, helping keep the baby's breathing in rhythm.
Im not saying putting the baby in a crib is bad, my daughter does both. The crib for half of the night, she then gets fed in bed with me and sleeps there the rest of the night and she is eight months old. Im just correcting a few misconceptions about having baby sleep in bed with mom.

Answer 4

I never recommend having infants/toddlers in the bed with you. The longer you do it, the harder it will be to get her into her own bed. She will be fine in her crib! No offense, but you are over reacting. What is more likely: Her not waking up in a crib, or you accidentally rolling over on her in the middle of the night and suffocating her? I think you know the answer to that one :)

Just put her in her crib. Ya know, those things are made for babies. She'll be fine!! If you have any other questions feel free to contact me. God bless.

Answer 5

I have 3 children. All of my children have co-slept with us. Eventually you will be ready for her to be in her own bed and you will be able to get her into another bed. If you can't sleep b/c she isn't beside you, why put yourself and her through that? I nursed all of my children and I found it much easier to have them right there next to me. We even went and bought a co-sleeper for our last child. It helped, but we didn't use it a whole lot. I just really recommend putting a bed rail up on the side of the bed. By age 2 all of my children were in their own beds. The baby is 11 months old and still nursing and sleeping with me.
Best of luck!

Answer 6

I went through the same thing. I was scared that she wouldn't wake up. Almost all mothers have the same exact fear. I also let my daughter sleep with me alot, though I did try to make her sleep in a bassinet next to me. I just kept my hand on her stomach and patted her. I can't tell you that co-sleeping is ok, even though lots of us have done it, cause I have seen the studies concerning SIDS and they show the bad side of it. But try the bassinet thing again, you may have a few sleepless nights but it may work out after a week or so.

Answer 7

I let all of my kids sleep with me until they were 2 months old...But there is a time where they need their own space. My son is 6 months and has been sleeping in his crib in his room since he was 2 months. It will be better for him. You dont have to be scared that she wont wake up. I had that fear also with my first. But girl, trust me, it is better for the both of you. You could get a monitor so at least you can here her

Answer 8

there is nothing wrong with having her in bed with you my baby girls is a year my other one is 3 they both end up in bed with me threw out the night I know it is hard to let go but your girl will be fine to sleep in her crib on her own your afraid she won't wake up but more can happen to her in the same bed as you every thing will be fine good luck

Answer 9

My baby slept in my bed the first week.
Just put your daughter in her crib. She'll be fine, and you'll get over it!

After the first week, my baby slept in a co sleeper, and still does sometimes when I worry about him, or get paranoid. He is now 5 months old, almost 6.

By the way, It's not good to let your baby sleep directly in the bed. I bought this little baby attachment that you put in the bed. It's like a tiny "in bed basket" for the baby to sleep in near the parent.
If it's right in the bed, you might roll over her, etc.
http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_1/601-1183037-1308942?%5Fencoding=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B00012CHFI

^that's what I have.


Instead of putting her directly in her crib, how about you buy a co-sleeper? The transition will be easier for you. After a few weeks, or months with a co sleeper, let her sleep in her crib.

It'll be easier for you and her.

Answer 10

you have already gotten many stable solutions on your unique question (and that i agree that co-dozing can easily be accomplished effectively), so i assumed i'd address your 2nd edit: they are pronounced as something diverse as a results of fact they at the instant are not a similar. medical doctors performing autopsies are waiting to be sure if it became right into a real SIDS dying, or if it must be defined with the aid of something jointly with suffocation or smothering. in the event that they might pinpoint an relatively reason, it relatively is no longer SIDS. Co-dozing is shown to cut back the prospect of SIDS. of path there are going to be tragic injuries and errors made with the aid of the co-dozing father and mom, yet I wager in case you cared to seem up the stats on suffocation deaths in shared beds as against in cribs, there is no longer an significant difference.