tempertantrums. He's never been like this before. He's always been the most kind, helpful, and sensitive out of all the kids. Why is he suddenly behaving this way? And what can I do to help him out of whatever it is?
2006-08-15 13:11:23 · 13 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Please look back to your question "How do I go about making my husband get counseling or anger management?" Is there any way your son is acting out like dad?
2006-08-15 13:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by brad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's acting out about something. Try finding out by talking to him--but not at the time of the tantrums or fresh talk--because he'll be defensive and not honest. If he doesn't want to talk right away, find out if there's someone he'd rather talk to, and/or let him know you're there if he does want to share--but also be clar (in a non-threatening way) that the improper behavior is unacceptable, won't be tolerated, and will have consequences (time out, loss of privleges, etc.) Not to be alarmist, but sometimes a severe change in temperment can be due to a trauma or stressfull event (maybe in camp, school or elsewhere) and can be a call for attention/help.
2006-08-15 13:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mz.R. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young children seek two things from their parents, in order. First, attention. Second, approval. If a child's attention needs are met, they then act to seek approval. If not, they act to seek attention, even if it's "negative". The first possibility is that your son's attention needs aren't being met like they were, so he's acting out (even though you disapprove) just to get your attention. If this is true, sufficient attention from you will change his behavior as he naturally seeks goal #2, approval.
The second possibility is fear (brought on by stress, fear, peer pressure, whatever). At a very young age, children cling to their parents when they are afraid. For a boy about this age, the behavior shifts. When afraid, he starts testing your limits. What he's doing is testing the limits of your love... making sure you still care, you're still solid... the boundaries are still there. Very tough for you to go through. If this is true, then find out what he's scared about... where his stress is coming from. Deal with that, and the behavior will again disappear.
The third possibility is rebellion, though this isn't really the right age for it. If your rules are tight and discipline is solid, he may be asserting his independance and trying to gain some measure of control over his life by controlling you. (Which is exactly what he's doing. By acting out he's sparking a reaction from you. It puts him in control, and you simply reacting to his behavior). If this is true, at this age, then your rules are too tight and your discipline too severe. You've got to lighten up.
2006-08-15 13:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by antirion 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Recent or impending changes (move, loss of parent, loss of someone close, extreme change in parenting style, etc.)? Could be a symptom of feeling powerless.
Assuming he's well and healthy, with no exterior circumstances causing this, then maybe he does it simply because you allow it. But the sudden change you describe makes me think this isn't the case.
Have his paedetrician or doctor check him out. Then I'd make a meeting to chat with the school counselor. A life event may have triggered this, and he might feel safer sharing it with someone else in order to avoid hurting your feelings or make you think he's 'bad'. A lot goes through kids' minds.
2006-08-15 13:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ask him what is wrong what going on and why is he acting out there has to be a reason for him to just start doing this have any of your other kids done this before to get what they want if not seek councsel good luck something is eating away at him
2006-08-15 13:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say something is bothering him right now. Try and have one to one conversations and let him know that he can tell you about anything. If he doesn't open up, consider taking him into see your PED. Good luck.
2006-08-15 13:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something has happened.
Have him checked by a Dr to see if he's been sexually abused.
Then call the authorities & find your son a counselor,
2006-08-15 13:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just put him in check one good time. A belt would do the trick.
2006-08-15 13:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Libby 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
bad to say you maybe ( maybe be a good indea but you cant) get Super nany on him if you want to..
2006-08-15 13:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Marypotter1994 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spank him...he is old enough to know better....spank him and put him in the corner....if you don't take care of this now you will never solve it.
2006-08-15 13:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by Shortie1981 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋