I am divorced and have 2 children. Do i need to lower my expectations of how attractive a woman i can date?

Question

I wasnt aware, that it was just as big a deal to women as it was to men if a person has children from a previous marriage.
I am 25 years old. What am i up against? How much does having my children in my life lower my dating potential?
p.s. My exwife weighed 135 and looked good after 2 kids, so i think i might have kind of an unrealistic idea of the type of women that would want to date me. as this is my level of expectation +or-

Answer 1

Don't worry too much about finding an atractive woman. Yeah, 2 kids will put a damper on you chances, but do you seriously think that only ugly women will want to date men with kids?
Plus I really think you should focus on finding someone who'll love your children as much as you do, no matter what she looks like.
Good luck!

Answer 2

You need to learn that some women will not want you due to the kids. It's just a simple fact, but not all great looking women think that way, most all women are looking for a man who shows that he's real, meaning, a real man takes care of his kids.

You need only to be up front, ask if it's a problem and decide if you are planning on ever getting married again, if that's not a factor then just don't tell them, until much later, if they have a problem, then find another one.

Answer 3

Typically male don't let them know you have kids or at least that is what the dumb guy ahead of me put,best idea be up front and honest otherwise your headed for divorce number two a women will respect a man who is upfront.Kids are a big deal with lots of women today cuz they have this career idea,husband,then kids and not someone elses kids but their own plus you have to deal with the whole wicked stepmom wrap and the exwife consistently being around.I say be honest with any women you date.

Answer 4

You can't be that stuck on appearance. The women you date probably won't dump you because they find out you have 2 kids, they probably will dump you cause you are too hung up on how they should look. If you want someone who weighs 135 and looks like your ex, why settle for a look-a-like you should just get back with her. You need to lower your expectations because women come too many different ways for you to be hung up on being 135. For instance, if you meet a woman that you like and your kids like, you wouldn't get with her if she wasn't the ideal size?? THAT'S STUPID!!! Do you hear me??? Find a nice woman with a great personality who loves kids and is willing to be with you, you should not turn her down because of what she looks like. If you meet a woman with a nice personality and a great body that's great. But don't discriminate cause of size. The very woman that could be the perfect mate for you and a great step mom or whatever may not be perfect. When you look for a mate don't look for a perfect person because you won't find any, look for the perfect person for you. She may not be what you are looking for but we can't control who we love and GOD has a funny way of fixing things up just right, so be careful. Hope my sermon of an answer helped you to be open-minded about people.
Good Luck finding someone to put up with you!!

Answer 5

Surveys say specific, notwithstanding it works thay way for women and adult males persons. learn have shown that people who set extreme expectancies additionally call for extra from their companions which reasons adequate rigidity to hold approximately a snapping component. certainty be pronounced, human beings like this are unquestionably very controlling...which does no longer artwork in a marriage. a marriage is assume to be a partnership, and in case you marry somebody like this, it relatively is definately no longer a 2 way highway...this individual is going to be on top of issues. So except you come across some wimpy significant different without a backbone, it relatively is a secure wager that a marriage of this manner will end somewhat immediately.

Answer 6

I think its your negative attitude. I am also separated with one son and its hard to find people willing to accept it and who aren't going to think you're trying to push parenthood on them.

I think a major problem for you is YOUR 25!!! I assume you want to date 20 year olds and upward and two kids is a lot for the average young woman.

Give it time and in the meanwhile start doing things you couldn't do as a married man. Take advantage of your time off from your kids and explore new hobbies. REDEFINE yourself. Its been almost 3 years since my split and I'm finally getting back to feeling good about myself. It is hard and it does take time. Just don't quit and things will become clearer.

Answer 7

Well I can see why you are single!! I think women would have to lower there expextations to date a loser like you.

Answer 8

Don't let them know you have kids until they fall in love with you.

Answer 9

If looks are that important to you, no wonder you are divorced.