Is it good idea to get married if sexual attraction is too high?

Question

My girlfriend is 17 yrs older than me and we're in love deeply. We're so addicted to each other's boddy that, in many occasions, we've "made love" for hours and "had sex" for hours too. We have very passionate and strong feelings for each other like NO other couple out there, BUT we also feel our sexual attraction is too high that we're scared of what might happen in the future if we tie the knot.
We've been dating exactly for 13 months and still badly attracted to each other. She's 40 and I'm 23 years old but we look like a couple with ONLY -10 yrs of age difference. She looks GREAT!! and I look slightly older than my real age.

Well, we have lots in common: exotic music, taste in cars and clothes...Of course, not everything. Sometimes we read each other's mind and we give each other pleasant surprises. On our 4th date I surprised her when I pulled out an Album of World Music that she also had....The AMAZING part is that this ALBUM is SO exotic that NOT too many people would like it. And small things like this has been happening between us.

Answer 1

If you feel that way I say why wait? Ask her now before your soulate disappears. I would first however, sit down and truly examine yourself and your true motives for marrying. sexual attraction is great to have is great in a marriage, but there is more to marriage than sex. it appears as if you are only speaking on the physical parts of your relationship. There will have to be more for the marriage to be successful. Congratulations on finding the "perfect" one for you!..

Answer 2

OK, not only do you have to consider each other, you need to consider the families. Unfortuneately each others family will have a bearing on the relationship. That said, it's only been 13 months, that is not alot of time. Keep on keepin on and see how u feel in a couple of years. People change alot, but if what you have is meant to be, you will be able to go the distance. Sexual attraction clouds alot of issues, like day to day issues etc.
Be happy but don't forget to live at the same time and include people in your life.

Answer 3

How do you know "you're like NO other couple out there"? You're not in their bedroom. They just have the decency to keep their mouths shut.
And. high sexual attraction is NOT what ruins a marriage.

What you may think is love, may be the sexual attraction that is so passionate at the moment. You both are in the peak area of your sexuality. Enjoy it for what it's worth. If you still feel this way in another year, & are willing to take on the responsibilities of marriage, then I'd say go for it.

Answer 4

I think it´s a huge age difference and you ve been dating for only 13 months! is a short period of time to know if you are in love or it was love at first "lust" hehe
so...if sex is great is better for a couple but remember that love isnt about sex only ...you have to share a lot of things like values and activities and you have to love talking for hours and just hunging out with her ...not only sex...
so, if you think you have more things in common it´s ok to get married...but remember that being married could destroy part of the magic that you have cause you will have to share evrything and start to pay attention to bills and dishes and taxes etc...
so maybe the sex is going to be less but if you both have a good foundation you will be ok

Answer 5

So she could be your Mom. Thats fun. You have met every couple and they are un-like you huh? WOW. You make not look your age but you sure act like it. Sex is a very small part of a marriage. 13 mos marriage shouldnt even be crossing your mind. What about when she retires in 20 yrs and you're still working hard everyday? What about when she hits 60 and you're getting hit on by 20-something girls? Think that will be easy to resist? What about when she can no longer have sex and you're just hitting your prime? You haven't really thought this out have you?

Answer 6

Love? You're kidding yourselves. Love hurts, lust frustrates.

Not to sound like your parents, but marriage is a far more serious involvement (at all levels) than just a good sex-driven dating experience. What do you guys do when you're not having sex? What do you guys talk about, what stories do you share, what places do you visit, what movies do you watch, what ideas inspire you both, what friends do you go visit or take out to dinner together? What individual plans do you enjoy talking about, other than sex tonight?

Good sex alone is never a good reason to get married anyways. Why get married to have what you already got?

Answer 7

mmmm the answer for you question change when you read the real situation you are so young ... you can marry ... because that relationship is sexual is not for love,,,, is a danger relationship for both she looking for something and you looking for something too but that doesn´t mean you look for that woman ... hey you can love this lady today and maybe tomorrow but she is 17 years older than you ... that meant something in a future ..think about that ... are many young woman you need time this is a good experience for you but i dont think be a good idea marry!

Answer 8

You are still in the honey moon stage of the relationship. I would give it another 12 months to see how you both feel then. From my experience, passion lasts roughly 18 months, after that you learn to slow down a little and emotional feelings become more stabilised.

Answer 9

You don't need to make the decision about marriage now. Keep dating, you will see what happens if and when the strong sexual attraction leaves.

Good luck to you both.

Answer 10

Ask yourself. Is your spiritual, mental, psychological connection strong as well. If the both of you share a great bond in all fields of life as well have great communication. Then go ahead and get married.