im 23, i work out, i go to college and I work full time. What does a woman want? Im a normal caring sweet, honest guy. What am I doing wrong. I have plenty of self confidence and don't have insecurity issues. I don't care about sex, and Im more interested in true love, any Ideas? Ladies?
2006-08-15 12:52:27 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Caring, sweet, nice, and honest will help keep an existing relationship going, but won't start one. If that's your "edge", you'll just end up with a bunch of platonic female friends that think you're the best thing in the world while banging the bad boys, and then you'll get to hear all about it.
Why don't you start playing games? Don't fight the social trends, you probably won't win. I don't like it either, but I've learned the hard way that you either play ball or you stay out.
You can always play games and then switch to "true love" once you hook them. You can choose the tactics that do not interfere with your moral principles. Play a partial game. It'll decrease your chance of success, but you can make up for it by quantity -- by going after as many women as you can.
2006-08-15 13:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur not doin anything wrong hun, just keep bein u, if a girl cant see that ur a rare find then its her loss for sure, most women grow outta mind games, lol... i know i did yrs ago, and guys play games pretty well so it works both ways, after 18 yrs of hellish relationships, i found true love, but as im an aussie, and he's american, is hard to get over the distance thing, but it makes u more determined to get there, true love comes in wired places, it could be under ur nose and u dont know it, try changing ur group of friends a little, try new places, any girl would be lucky to come across a sweet guy like u, and dont give up, it will happen hun when the time is right, 1 rule of love u have to remember hun, u cant hurry true love, it will happen when its good any ready, just make sure ur ready for it!... tc and stay sweet : )
2006-08-15 20:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by angel_of_ur_heart35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls want a guy that has tons of self confidence, but they often mistake egotism for confidence. Sad truth. You are doing everything right. Actually there is nothing "normal" about you. The truth is: a nice, honest, smart, funny, caring girl is just as hard to find as a good guy. Really. And the type of girl you are looking for is probably very busy with school and work, as you are. It can take a long time for two well-balanced people to find each other. I wasted a lot of time dating the wrong people, and when the right one showed up it was magic. Hang in there and give the right girl time to find you--you may be on opposite sides of the earth right now, and will be in the same class next semester or next year.
2006-08-15 20:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always ask that question about guys!! Well I have sons your age and they ask the same thing..you need to wait don't rush it she will come to you. Go out as friends have a good time and check your expectations if they are to high lower them. Are you into only model quality girls or are you willing to go out with an average looking girl? You never know where true Love lies and where you will find it. One girl might look average to you and when you fall in love with her she could become the most gorgeous thing on the Earth to you!!
2006-08-15 20:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe that when things like this happen it's because we sometimes unconsiously seek out people with the same qualities over and over. Maybe we find them exciting or interesting. Try dating a woman who you don't really consider your type. I dated player after player and bum after bum. Tired of it all I accepted a date with a guy I considered a nerd. That nerd turned out to be the best guy ever and is now my husband.
2006-08-15 20:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking for Ms. Right in the wrong places you need to try looking somewhere you normally would not look! Keep your head up my husband is a total nice guy and i fell in love with him so you will find the right one in time good luck
2006-08-15 19:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by angie1412 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women in their 20s are mostly out to have fun, and most people would rather you fall in love with them because of them, not because it's what you've already deciede you need in your life.
The fact that you are 23 and healthy and don't care about sex is either totally creepy or totally a lie. Maybe you should be more honest with yourself.
You sound like you are casting a play and you just need someone to fill the role of "soul mate". This tends to creep women out. Just ask women out on dates, get to know them and have fun! If you were having more fun, you wouldn't be fixated on a serious relationship.
2006-08-15 19:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
girls don't all want guys that play games...but, unfortunately the more immature the girl, the more she wants players, or so she thinks...she will want a player until he plays around on HER...wait, a mature one will come along (and i'm not talking age wise, i mean mind wise) it will be worth the wait, i'm sure
maybe you are attracted to female players! maybe you need to look in another direction...don't pass up an orchid, looking for that rose!
2006-08-15 20:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you would make some guy a nice gurlfriend. don't care about sex, what gurl wants a guy that has no libido? girls like to screw man. you gotta quit feeling guilty for wanting to screw women, its what men do. someone has made a sexless male out of you. are you sure you aren't indian? true love has a price, you haven't experienced any loss yet, how can you imply you are ready for love, you haven't had your nuts sent through a blender.
2006-08-15 20:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there should be more guys like you around, do your thing and stay as you are. don't change and be real as you have been doing, I am not trying to influence you but there really are girls that would love to have you for their true guy and will be over joyed having you in their lives. Keep it smooth and be you, be real .
2006-08-15 20:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋