OH MAN i feel so niave, but i think i may either like this guy way too much (cos of his ways) orr, i've transferred my feelings for my ex and put them on him...
basically, i think i've made a fool out of myself, by telling my new guy that i wanna be friends and that i think he has another chick..this is because i have many guy friends n cousins and they all have more than 2 girls at the same time. i think i should've gave him the benefit-of-the-doubt, but i overheard a phone call to his babys mother, asking why wont she let their son come and chill with him and this other girl, and that her new guy was looking on this particular girl etc etc. he said on the phone that this girl wasn't HIS girl as he wasn't living with her arghhhh why did i have to hear this, 2 me this is my signal to just 4get it, because even though i'm young i cant bar liers, and hes told me that he has no girl other than me...
i need advice as to what 2do, i FEEL that i like him,but 2 be honest i met him a...
2006-08-15 12:29:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
week after finishing with my ex....i'm 19 hes 24...
i should bloody well know better..and i know theres other guys for me, but this guy oozes charisma and manners towards me. if i'm acting paranoid i'll chill, but hes either playing games with me tryin 2 get me confused or he telling the truth. he usually phones me every ay,but after i refused 2 spend the night with him (while his son was down to visit) he hasn't phoned since (3 days ago)i haven't slept with him yet (i'm so glad i haven't otherwise i wudda felt worse) but i ust need some advice!! thanks
2006-08-15 12:33:03 · update #1
ps. he HAS actually phoned, but only when i provoked hm with a text sayin i wanna be friends...
2006-08-15 12:34:48 · update #2
Rebound for sure. Take a good look at your situation now and ask yourself... am I being fooled? Wait! Don't make any choices just yet... step back and clear your mind....Lay low - talk to your friends, stay busy. You have to let yourself rest so you can look back in a few days with a clear mind set. That way you can see the big picture and be honest with yourself about what you feel.
2006-08-15 12:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by xcepillin23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way i answer this question to friends and even what I practice personally is as follows. After breaking up with someone, if I choose not to get with someone as a rebound, I wait 1 month before going out , kissing, or even doing much more than merely saying hello. If they are truely interested in you they will wait. Just tell them you need some time to think, this has always worked for me, and im sure it will work for you. Good luck, and take your time...
2006-08-15 19:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by chevy4x4man72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you on the rebound thing, I'm hitting that point now too. And he has a baby mama. You know I'm hating this. You can't let your old (ex, past experiences, cousins, friends) to influence how you feel about this guy. If you like him take what he says at face, be smart but not suspect. Don't creep around like Inspector Gadget looking for his faults. Just let things flow. If he is doing something in the dark it will come out in the light!!
2006-08-15 19:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by toobadfaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait 5 minutes, I think your feelings will change. I sense that your hormone levels are out of your control.
Drink some milk or sleep for 30 minutes. Try to calm down your feelings so that you can be rational and objective.
I know it's tough to do. The man you're into realizes this and is taking advantage of your "emotions gOnE WiLd."
2006-08-15 19:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny U need to trust ur heart I just got out of a bad relationship myself and it took me sooo long to trust any one u need to set ur man down and tell him the truth girl and tell him how u really feel right now about him and if he really does love u he will understand and stick by ur side and u can work through it together and u can tell him everything instead of turning to the people on the internet for advice!
Hope it all works out for u girl!
2006-08-15 19:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by punk_rock9300 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop blabbering.....on and on. I could not even read this whole confusing account of your life. You need to get your act together and figure out how you want to be treated in life. Stay away from the guys and all the crap that is involved. This all sounds like a dysfunctional mess. You have to choose what you want in life.......crumbs or the banquet???
2006-08-15 19:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good deal not to sleep with him. Time will tell you what he is about. You wrote it has already been three days since he has called. Be strong, and don't call him. If he doesn't call you anymore then you know that he just wanted the booty. That is all you have to do, in cutting to the chase to see what men are about, is not give up the booty. That will work with any man. Good for you and stay strong!!!!!
2006-08-15 19:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and move on Girl!! You are better than that!! He has lied to you already. Why would you want to go out with him?? Take your time and get to know your single self, just date for a while (no sex to cloud your mind!!) and then choose who you like best!!
2006-08-15 19:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust a man your dating,get out for a while until ready to give your all to a relationship.Don't worry about what everyone else is doing,do what you feel is right.Good luck. P.S. If that's your real picture,your really hot!
2006-08-15 19:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would've given him the benefit of the doubt. I think you should just relax and let things happen. You are worrying way too much about it.
2006-08-15 19:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by ricksliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋