so my mom is throwing me a baby shower this weekend its suppose to be a suprise but i overheard enyways my mother in law is real angry that she didnt receive an invation i cant get my mom to learn how to get along with her hoe should i tell my mom that shes going to have to see my family in laws no matter what she's trying to keep my soon to be baby away from them plz help>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>how should i tell her that my husbands and my problems doesnt involve his family i really want them there.
2006-08-15 12:29:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Explain to your mom that while you understand that she doesn't particularly like your husband's mother, you do. Let her know that you baby has 2 sets of grandparents and any baby shower will include both sets or you will not be attending. Believe it or not, this works. I had to do this for my own wedding. Just reason with her that her love for you should always override any hate for another person....Good Luck
2006-08-15 12:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you just like you will love this new baby... She is trying to protect you and going about it the wrong way. I'm sure she's trying to seem supportive by gathering the wagons so to speak. It's a hard situation.
Lots of people have two showers, one for each side of the family... But if you want to have it all in one... Then I would have a family member (maybe a sister, cousin, or aunt) let her know that they over heard you mention that you wanted everyone together as a family. Your Mom has good intentions but she is putting her anger at your hubby onto his Mother.
Something else I have learned... It is best to be selective in what I tell my Mother. Sometimes I complain about my hubby and I can watch her face physically change because she's trying not to say anything. It's better to find someone who can be objective and who isn't so emotionally involved to talk to, if at all possible. It has really helped the time I spend with my mother to be more positive and uplifting.
2006-08-15 19:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...Baby shower..." is the exact image and tone needed for that day. Don't let what your in laws are too stubborn about interfere with your child and husband; nevertheless, you have to perform and I state perform because you should be upset that your examples are acting in such a way that reflect an image of who you are as a woman. I've been there and done that and tried to have my family set aside their feelings towards one other forcing them to a baby shower, and good communications altogether and it does not pan out. Believe me. If the women and men aren't getting along, leave it alone for the time being. For now just focus and the day at hand that should be free spirited and serene.
2006-08-15 19:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mother is uncomfortable please respect her feelings... tell your mom-in-law that your mother thought that she would want to have a big shower for your husband's side of the family! if your mom is throwing one before the birth, ask mom-in-law about planning one for a week after the babies birth????? your husband's family might think it is SUPER exciting to get to have the baby there AND then you get all of the clothing that you can register for!!!! my family doesn't get along either... so i just expect there to be two of everything!!!!!!!!!! twice as much fun for me i say!!! and i also want to add... it's not good to put the families together if there would be any disharmony... you need everything to be as peaceful as possible right now... THAT'S good for the baby!!
2006-08-15 19:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to grow up, learn manners and respect.
Just because she doesn't like your in laws, she should be civilized enough to put up with them. And they have a right, its also their soon to be grandchild too. Tell your mom in a friendly manner that you love her, however she needs to make amends with your in laws for the sake of you and the baby. You don't need anger at this time nor after the baby is borne.
We all have to make allowances in life for the sake of peace.
Good Luck to you
2006-08-15 19:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they don't get along, don't make them be together. it will just cause more stress for you and your baby, and thats not what you need right now. just have another baby shower for your in-laws to be invited to. lets just hope your mother doesn't find out if the in laws give you better gifts!
2006-08-18 06:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by whateva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 baby showers
2006-08-15 20:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ta Loca♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to realize that the baby is the important one here, and allow the in-laws to participate in shower, and stop being ........such a B I T C H !!!!!
2006-08-15 19:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most in law sometimes don't get along just tell your mom up front that his your husband and your soon to be father of your child and should just accept his family
2006-08-15 19:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by aznflippgurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just call your mother in law and invite her yourself . . and when she shows up, your mom will just have to deal with it . . .
additionally . . if you and your husband are having problems, keep other people (especially your mom) out of it . . that way you can avoid problems like this . . .
2006-08-19 18:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋