I just broke up with my girl about 2 weeks ago and told her it was a combination of me and her having issues. This wasnt being honest though, she was financially draining me, not in a gold digger way just always the pitty me, I just got fired again, theirs no good jobs in this town, bla bla. In the mean time Im stuck paying the rent for her otherwise she will be beating down my door looking for a place to live. So the break up has been very hard considering I didnt do it wanting to leave I just wanted her to realize she needs to be more indepedant than letting me always pick up the bill. Today I told her the truth in hopes that she would maybe start to understand that I dont hate her and it was not an easy choice. Instead I get the I cant trust you now, why didnt you tell me when we broke up. Am I wrong for being honest? Im not trying to "fix" her for my standards but for her own life. HELP
2006-08-15 12:29:21 · 6 answers · asked by Shawn M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You TOTALLY did the right thing in breaking up with her. I recently ended a relationship after almost 7 years. Carrying his burdens was a big part of what put me into bankruptcy. I lost count of how many jobs he had in that time. The funniest thing about it was that in some twisted way, he resented that I did so much for him.
I STILL love him, and really wish we could be together, but he has to be responsible and to take the initiative in working toward the lifestyle he wants to live. There were other issues, but his irresponsibility was the biggest thing.
Probably the "we both have issues" reason wasn't completely false. Still, it might have been better if you'd have let her know how you felt all along -- and if you did, then she has no right to try to act surprised.
Sounds to me like she wants someone to be a sugar daddy, so he doesn't have to work; now she's trying to lay the guilt on and play the victim so you'll take her back. Don't do it. You already resent her neediness, it won't work. You deserve a real woman who is mature and independent.
2006-08-15 13:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u made not being honest in the first place hard for her to "trust" u r being honest now. If u r sincere, keep trying maybe it will work out!
2006-08-15 19:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by fox69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case honesty was the best choice and I commend you. Don't let her make you feel bad, if she is not smart enough to realize what you were trying to do than forget her. Good Luck!!
2006-08-15 19:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is wrong to not be honest up front. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it hurts less in the long run.
2006-08-15 19:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Wake Cobra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. She's an adult, she'll figure it out. Believe me you don't want to end up being someone else's Dad.
Honest, smonest - you two are over, just move forward.
2006-08-15 20:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta look out for yourself.
2006-08-15 19:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋