I have been going through a lot and finding out that a lot of women aren't getting treated like the should be. My heart was shattered but why is there so much hurt going on today. Either I'm a dying breed of hopeless romantic or something not being taught right. Why is this?
2006-08-15 12:17:58 · 16 answers · asked by Chaz K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They're are a lot of guys who aren't being treated like they should be by women as well. I felt like you once, feeling hurt that soo many women were treated so badly by men. But then I met my first girlfriend who was so screwed up it showed me that men aren't always the blame for some womens problems. It also showed me that just becasue your a nice guy, doesn't mean let bad women walk all over you. I think both men and women of today equally have some things to work on to be better towards each other in the game of love.
I don't think your a dying breed of a romantic guy. There are a lot of romantic guys out there that many women over look and don't notice, just as their are a lot of romantic good women out there that many men over look, and don't notice.
2006-08-15 12:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a main reason for this is lack of example. We are a generation of single parents. Mostly single mothers. So, a lot of men grew up not knowing how a man should treat a woman vice versa...or even if they did see it, it wasn't good. We are also a generation searching for answers in a world where they are abundant. With options like casual sex, one night stands, friends with benefits, all kinds of non-committal relationships, rising rates in teen pregnancy. This is not to say that prior generations did not experience these things...but in my opinion it was not the epidemic it is today.
Also, rising rates of divorce have dramatically changed the definition of interpersonal relationships. We live in a disposable world. If something does not work once, we have learned it is okay to throw it out and get a new one. Fixing things has not been taught to us. Even if it has, we take the easy way out.
Lastly, I don't want to put all the blame onto society, family, or any other humans. We ourselves have some knowledge of right and wrong. We see old movies, hear good stories, even go to church, have spiritual influences in our lives, yet we still choose to hurt one another. We are imperfect...and not getting any closer either. Humans to the fullest. We should seek the truth to heal our pain, and to learn to not cause pain to others. We should work to fix everything we can and surrender what we cannot fix to God.
2006-08-15 12:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by missesbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because most men are jerks and have their own ideas of how a woman should be and most women are real b**tches and think that it should be all about them and how they want it to be i mean yeah the hopless romantic and the old fashioned like me are a dying breed but look at all the pain in the world i mean it is hard to not give up and give in but i refuse too and hope that u do too cause we still need some good people in this awful world so that we can keep it going and keep faith alive in some of us that their are still good people out there.
2006-08-15 12:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how I see it... Women are not thinking about their relationships in the sence that they should... Y? Because I've seen too many women cheat on good guys with guys that only want them for sex... Stay with guys that abuse them and only want them for sex... and otherwise go out with complete jerks when they could have true love...
Now, some will argue that they "love" these people and that's why they stay with them... I beg to differ... If you are abused, cheated on, etc... It is't love... it's a problem... and one that needs help for... But hey, what do I know... I just see it how it is..
2006-08-15 12:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know either, but I'm pretty romantic myself, but pretty hopless too, but that's becuz im still young and gotta a while till I have to worry about looking for that perfect other.
2006-08-15 12:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by BlinkOnce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a matter of the good ones not being "on the market" for long. they tend to form more long-lasting relationships. hope you can find someone who not only is sick of the lack of commitment on the part of partners, but has a matching measure of commitment ready to devote to a long-term relationship. Good Luck, and don't give up.
2006-08-15 12:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by dimbulb52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a lot of us its the next conquest, for others its just greener pastures for the mates...lots of reasons people just dont want the responsibility of maturing in a relation ship while the other grows up...divorce is easy and a quick fix..
2006-08-15 12:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the singles game. That's life.
2006-08-15 12:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and i are in the same boat it hard for me to find relly love becase i proble had my heart borken over time and time anagin
but i found a grater love and that my friend is jesus the bible says the he will never leave us or foursake us
2006-08-15 12:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To many selfish people that received things to easy as a child.. spoiled and want their own way.. then.. they hook up with a giver.. and they take and take and take..
If you are a giver.. find another giver.. then both your hearts can heal.
2006-08-15 12:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋