I came across a honeymoon registry site. I thought it was really cool and it would be nice to have at least some of the honeymoon paid for. How do people really feel about this honeymoon registry? Have you ever known anyone to do this before? How does it rank on the etiquette scale?
2006-08-15 12:14:17 · 12 answers · asked by jjudyy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We did it. Our guests thought it was a good idea.
because we had everything we needed ( pots, pans, towels so on) we too were a bit confused on what to to do, we actually copied from friends of ours that did this. also most travel agencies have gift certificates.... that's what they are for. it sure was nice to have most of our honey moon paid off before we were married!!!! so no don't feel bad to state that you would appreciate it.... what's the difference if you register for your honeymoon or pots & pans?
come time for your shower you'll get things that you asked for and plenty of things that you didn't ask for. besides times have changed... people these days are asking for stocks & bonds! whatever you end up doing have fun.... good luck.... try not to stress!
2006-08-15 12:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by magdalina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would only see a honeymoon registry as tacky IF there was also a bridal registry. Some couples have everything they need already, if not duplicates by the time they are married. Why should I buy them a 3rd bartending set or have some odd trinket engraved that's they'll never get any practical use out of?
I've bought vacations as gifts before for my family members. It makes me feel good when, years later, they talk about what a good time they had on the cruise. A honeymoon is a special time and I'd be more than happy to facilitate those memories for the people I care for.
2006-08-15 14:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by larsor4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The regular rules of etiquette apply - register for whatever you want, but don't include the info w/ your invitation (that's tacky).
I've purchased stuff for people off their honeymoon registries before and I was happy to do so (and I'm a Martha Stewart - Emily Post - reader).
2006-08-15 14:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Darby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda questionable etiquette. In particular, I have recently seen some people register for the little parts of their honeymoon, like tipping the valet...that's really bad.
I think if you register at more than one location (like the honeymoon and Bed, Bath & Beyond, for example), then it's not so bad...it at least gives people a choice, if they don't like the idea of contributing to your honeymoon.
2006-08-15 12:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be offended if someone asked me to pay for their honeymoon as a wedding gift. I would also be offended if they asked me to pay for their first month's rent, utility bill, etc.
When I got married, 8 years ago, many people gave us money or gift certificates. We were very diligent to use these gifts for "wedding" type stuff such as kitchenware and other household goods to supplement for the things we did not receive. We did not use this money to buy clothes, food, or anything else personal. We had even both been on our own for quite awhile (we were both near 30) and had 2 full households to combine. That is why I was especially grateful for those who stuck to gifts from our registry or gave money or gift certificates.
2006-08-15 13:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by midlandsharon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tacky, tacky, tacky. Greedy, too. If your new husband can't afford the honeymoon, go on a cheaper honeymoon. But to expect your friends to come up with an extra gift, that just annoys me.
Gifts are supposed to be freely given as a token of caring. Have we forgotten this? Every gift is supposed to be treated as an unexpected surprise.
2006-08-15 12:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by the other one 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're fishing for more money or gifts by signing up. The honeymoon is to be paid for by you & your husband to be. Unless someone gives you a gift of a trip or you win one somewhere, I wouldn't sign up. Getting married & inviting your friends & family is a big celebration; they feel obligated to get a gift once the invitation's received, regardless if they attend or not.
2006-08-15 12:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Belle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This would be in very poor taste. It is not up to guests to pay for your honeymoon.
2006-08-15 13:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry; I don't know....But I would like to find out! I used to be against GCs and cheques as gifts, but now with the price of everything..... If you give them money (or the equivelent) at least you know they won't exchange it!
2006-08-15 12:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by eye-dunno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be very good etiquette, but it really depends on the attitudes of the people.
2006-08-15 13:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋