im lonley and live on my own im 29 year old male, i battle long term mental health like anxiety,anger,panic?

Question

but my thoughts while im alone keep going on fantasy ' what if ' notions. like at the moment im cut up and extremely unhappy at not having a female partner in my life, its an extreme want that i feel i need. one famous female who i particularly like is ' ann wilson ' from the band 'heart' a classic band, but sometimes i just watch their music videos and wonder how great it would be to have a women in my life like ann wilson. and it makes me feel extremely sad and alone. i live in the uk, but i dont wanna be here, i picture my self in rural settings in the us with a girl like ann wilson. this is my dream. i dont want anything else. the few girls i made friends with on the internet dont talk to me any more..and i wonder how my life will turn out..?

Answer 1

Hi!

Mental conditions like you are describing put a heavy strain on a relationship... and no girl wants to carry your emotional baggage or be subject to your mood swings.

I am not saying this to be mean... I am only trying to be truthful.

If you want to succeed in love... get yourself together, get stable, get some confidence and learn to love yourself-- then the girls will come to you.

See, you will never be able to love someone else properly until you learn to love yourself...

:)
Hope this helps...
T.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think very many people find the person of their dreams...but they find happiness anyways. Change you life if you don't like it. I know it is easier said then done. You want to live in the country in the U.S. Fight for it. You are free right know. Once you find your wife and your kids come...that opportunity will start to fade with each passing year. Go get some support...meds if it is what is right for you, and try to get you were you want to be. Day dreaming is fun, but if you try to measure your life against a fantasy....you will always feel like crap. Nothing can measure up to a fantasy...not even Ann. A fantasy is perfect, everything the way you want it....who wouldn't think their life sucks compared to this world. Look around you, this is what you have to work with..and you still have time...you are young, and only responsible for yourself right now. Look at it as a gift. Maybe the reason you can't find the right one is bc she is in rural U.S.? Hope that helps.. Live your life...don't dream it away.

Answer 3

No one knows how their life will turn out. I met my fiance on the internet but before I did, I corresponded with a few men and then it just stopped. I, too, thought I would never find anyone but I did. Who knows why people stop corresponding. Check your correspondence and make sure you haven't said anything to upset them and if not, let it go. Sometimes, people just stop and we never know why.
Daydreams are great as long as we always remember that that's what they are - just day dreams. Put your energy into being friends with people - listen to them and show concern for them. To have a friend, you must first be a friend. Try to get into Social groups where you are or group therapy or single therapy. It's good to talk to someone else and see what they think. Our dreams don't always come true so we must make the most of what we have and be willing to let others into our lives - that means being a friend first - then we will have friends. And who knows what will happen in the future. Lonliness is terrible - I know, I was there, but it will end in time - just be ready for that special relationship and remember to always put her first.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that you are lonely...I feel like that most of the time, what keeps me going is the few happy moments that I have had. If you want a girl like ann wilson then go out and find her. Try to get into group counseling that is what I am going to be doing...try your best to find help..i know just the thought could be very overwhelming. You can write me anytime.

Answer 5

I read your message and I hope that you can encourage yourself to get out and meet people at places such as interest groups, clubs or church. I think Ann Wilson is a beautiful talented woman but it is unrealistic to set your standards according to what you know her to be. What you perceive Ann Wilson to be is not completely realistic since it is for the most part what the media portrays of her in order to help promote her image of being a musical artist. I understand feeling lonely and yearning for a partner in your life. The only way to make that happen is to get yourself out there. You mention that you have problems with anxiety and panic and I am sure that makes it hard for you to meet new people. Are you working with a psychiatrist that can perhaps suggest medications to help with this? With the help of medications maybe you will be feel more comfortable to make yourself more available to meeting people and engaging in social activities. I hope that this helps and good luck to you.

Answer 6

One talk to your Doctor and get a referral to a psychiatrist they can prescribe make sure you are comfortable talking ot the psycharist often many men find it easier to talk with a woman for some reason .
It will probably take a while to get inot tosee a psychatrsit unless you are almost in a crisis .
So ask your MD for a med such as Klomnpin and lexapro or Xanax and a SSRI like lexapro together they will help take the eadge off things Klonpin is a bitbetter as it is long acting and takes longer for you r to devlope a tolerance to it . SSRI zoloft Porzac , paxill celwxa ect takeaboput 2 weeks - amonth to work so give them time
avoid alcohol and try to find activities that you enjoy if you are really mad try a PC game i like Shooters Quake 4 Doom 3. I imagine the monsters as lifes problems and use a cheat code to make my self invinceble .
I Try not to watch the music vidios listen to music instead .

have had a fullsacl"Iq" test domne? " yopu remindeme of a climbing freind from the UK a feyears older than you he has passd away trying a herbal remedy please aviod them
He wanted to move to CO and find a girlfriend


As for a girlfriend well frist deal with your other stuff then look for a date .If you are a emotional mess and come off as desperate trust me they will know your body language will give you away .

Take care of yopur self get spmehelp for your anxiety and deprssion it is treatable and while not perfect it is beter than feeliong totaly miserable.

Best of luck let us /me know how it goes
CRPS

Answer 7

My friend I am almost 50 and have not found the woman of my dreams. Be patient and don't try so hard. I suffer from depression, and panic attacks and I am on 4 different medications to help take the edge off of my adverse feelings. It's nice to have goals and the "What Ifs" but you still need to do the best with what you can where you are. I have tons of what ifs but I am still forced to deal with the realities of daily living. I'm not saying give up on your dreams just don't be upset if you don't achieve them in the same speed you think they should go, if at all. When that right woman comes it will be great but just don't rush things. Patience My Friend

Answer 8

I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway

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Answer 9

ann wilson may be good looking but how do you know that you will like her personality? there a lot of women in your shoes, lonely and no partner, as well as guys. if you can, move to US and see what change it would be for you. take care

Answer 10

There are groups with the same problems as you have. Seek them out and maybe things will change for you. They would bne more understanding, and considerate as they have the same problems.
If you can't get a date for sex Go to hookers. They do provide a service and it sounds like you need to get laid. Take a trip to sweden or denmark where you can window shop for sex and get anyone of then you want.